TonyWARMS wrote:Hello, peace, and get out of my head!
That sounds exactly like me when I first started this journey.
I figured everyone was judging my every move, comparing my situation to theirs, and I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop so I could let them have it.
I had to find humility (I didn't know that at the time), but that feeling of constant anger made me miserable (I didn't know that was the problem).
Once I let that feeling start to drift away, and realize the problem was (is) me, I am now much easier on myself, and others.
Those feelings sometimes still pop up in my head, but now, I realize where it's coming from, and say to myself " What can I do to make this situation better?"
I am not all happy, happy all the time, but I don't take it out on others' because I know if left to own devices I can make any situation so much worse.
I don't like slogans, and sayings so much, but " Let go, and let God" works for me ( not in the religious sense, I don't enough time, or bandwidth to get into that).
But, maybe you can find something to remind yourself of where that feeling is coming from when it arises, and knock it back down to where it came from.
Let go and let god is the one I've used too to pull me back when my mind starts racing or I'm getting pissed. I usually get pissed thinking about what someone said or did or did not do earlier and then I tend to fuel my anger and start fantasizing about how I'm going to let the guy have it in the future. My anger and drinking is a very bad combo that's gotten me into trouble in the past