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positrac
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Stepchild wrote:
I was good with meetings and sobriety, it was the steps and the inner work I didn't like.
I don't think there are many of us that did like it. Bill W. talks about this in Bill's Story...

Trembling, I stepped from the hospital a broken man. Fear sobered me for a bit. Then came the insidious insanity of that first drink, and on Armistice Day 1934, I was off again.
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It's not an uncommon thing.
I wanted to quit the drinking obsession and hope the defects just disappeared..... So once I got into feeling better I was able to grow with inner work via steps and practicing what I was learning from others in the rooms who had what I wanted.
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Hey Julie, I got your situation and hope that either you have completed your treatment or doing some good in your life. Before moving forward, I would say sorry to comment on very old thread, but such cases happens to many in our surrounding also and therefore maybe this conversation will be useful to our future friends. I want to say only one thing never feel embarrassed to restart something good in life anytime.
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I was forced to drink
Like positrac, I zoomed in on that sentence. Sharing experience, strength, and hope, positric gave you some tough love with one goal: to get you on safe ground. No one forces us to drink, no circumstance does, no terrible or great day does. It's a choice we make before we take the first drink and then, well, you know--all choice is gone.

Please note how many people with strong sobriety have provided you with lines of love and support, and a message that repeats and resounds is that you need to take action for yourself. Go back if that's the right thing for you, and dump the shame about the doctors. They deal with repeat visitors all the time and know that nobody gets cured there. They can only hope you transition from the detox and rehab to a program like AA on the outside.

Before you pick up again, remember that it's you raising the glass to your lips. No one else. If YOU are serious about enjoying a sober life, get to meetings, work with a sponsor, and take the steps to a wonderful life. We're rooting for you!
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Do what you feel will work best for you. Don't worry about what others think. People repeat treatment all the time. It's not easy to quit.

The thing I worry about IF I ever went to a treatment center is when I got out. When your in you know you will be sober. There is no option. BUT when you get out you are suddenly faced with a new life.

I'm only 21 days in. Started going to meetings got through detox on my own. It has defiantly made me stronger. I have really been working on my mind and what I think about. Some days alcohol does not cross my mind. This amazes me because 23 days ago it was my entire focus. Support from the group friends wife and family go along way.
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Tonyc wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 6:11 pm Do what you feel will work best for you. Don't worry about what others think. People repeat treatment all the time. It's not easy to quit.

The thing I worry about IF I ever went to a treatment center is when I got out. When your in you know you will be sober. There is no option. BUT when you get out you are suddenly faced with a new life.

I'm only 21 days in. Started going to meetings got through detox on my own. It has defiantly made me stronger. I have really been working on my mind and what I think about. Some days alcohol does not cross my mind. This amazes me because 23 days ago it was my entire focus. Support from the group friends wife and family go along way.
Congrats on 21 days! It is not time to graduate, but it is a milestone! Thanks for checking in and letting us know you are hanging in. 8) 8)
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Tips to Help You Stay Sober
You’ve taken the big steps to get sober. Now the support of family and friends, and a good plan for managing urges and stress, can make staying there easier. Learn more: Tips for sobriety.

Stay Out of Risky Situations
This may mean that you don’t spend time with someone you used to use drugs with or go somewhere you used to drink. You might take a new way home from work, for example, to keep from going past your favorite old hangout.

Build a Support Network
Lean on close friends and family for support, even if your relationships aren’t what they used to be. Think about going to counseling or family therapy to help with that and to deal with other personal issues.

Have some sober friends you can invite as your plus-one to a social event like a party or wedding. And stay in touch with your sponsor and call him if you’re feeling anxious or uncomfortable.

Find a Peer Support Group
Organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous are other ways to build a support network. You can try different meetings for the different groups to find one that’s right for you.

Manage Your Urges
While most last only 15 to 30 minutes, it can be hard to fight them off. You might try a substitute, like chewing gum or a personal mantra: “I am stronger than this, and it will pass.”

Staying busy is also a great way to distract yourself. And some people find it helpful to keep a journal. Write down the things that bring you joy and things you’re grateful for, then go back and read it during tough times.

Find an Activity That Means Something to You
You may want to start an exercise routine -- exercise releases brain chemicals called endorphins, which can make you feel good. Or you might rather spend time volunteering for a good cause, like an animal shelter or children’s hospital. Whatever it is, new activities can lead to new friends with interests like yours.
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julie098

If you are an alcoholic, chances are you will end up back in a rehab
or the rooms of AA or some other not so pretty options, at some time in the future.

But if you enjoyed your rehab so much, shoot! Start over and enjoy
and be grateful you have that option. Many people that are real alcoholics
may never be sitting in your position to be able to decide to sober up.
Or find some AA meetings in your area and find out from other people
how they sobered up.
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