While your comment is not relevant to the point I was making, the two paragraphs in the Big Book devoted to the 3rd step says nothing about the "decision" being one to continue with the rest of the steps.
That may be so, but a whole lot of members here, have been advising those who are stuck at #3, because they couldn't completely turn their will over, that by progressing through the other steps this would become easier to do. People do balk at 4 & 5, and use not fully understanding 3 as an excuse for delay. This is based on our experience and our interpretation of the book,
and many have come back to say thanks when it worked
out for them the way it worked for us. But no, you read it different, and site a prayer whose wording is optional anyway.
You tell me -
You misunderstand what it means to share your experience, strength and hope which is done in part because alcoholics are a stubborn and self-centerd sort and don't take "instructions" very well. So in AA we don't give "advice." Instead, we share how we did it or how it worked for us suggesting how it could work or be worked for others: experience, strength and hope. Laying out facts and opinions has nothing to do with it.
Thank you for that brilliant advise, couldn't you see that I was speaking about how some topics on these forums are discussed, and that certain people feel we must write nothing but E.S. & H. Of course in topics where newcomers or others ask questions we speak from our experience, I have been doing that in meetings and here for years.
If anybody misunderstands it may be you regarding human nature, you can't come on here and without an iota of humility,
preach your interpretation of AA, and tell longstanding members, and long sober recovered alcoholics, that they have it all wrong and misunderstand. I am not surprised at some of the backlash from our members like - “you seem to be smarter than all of us here...I'll simply ignore your inane and ill-informed ramblings...you have much more to learn than you think.” And I notice some of our regulars who are among those who welcome a good debate, have not written a word, because it's not a debate. It's someone who thinks they have the only interpretation of the AA program, lecturing and correcting others, who in all probability have longer sobriety and serenity than he has.
"Good morning, this is your Higher Power speaking. I will not be needing your help today."