Welcome here Lee.Lee S wrote: ↑Mon Mar 30, 2020 8:11 am
I don’t hide these facts from anyone in the rooms and I don’t use or say things that would lead anyone to think that I work anything other then a secular program.
I do this mostly for the newcomer who might feel unwelcome or put off with all the god talk, and I do it for all others to help them understand, that yes! It is possible to recover without a god or higher power.
I was not put off by that talk, nobody said I had to go to church, and the book does not even say we kneel down, the accent was always on finding a higher power of your own choosing. But I agree in saying things which help the newcomer not to be put off, because there were a couple of other things which put me off, and nobody said things which put my mind at ease.
The main one was the meeting makers make it nonsense, and seeing the same faces at every meeting, saying how many years they were sober. Then of course every newcomer gets the impression, that it requires regular meetings for life, I have never met a newcomer who enjoys the meetings when they first walk in, and this wrong impression of it being a life sentence can be greatly off putting. In my case, I was lucky to meet one old timer who only came once a week, and he set me on the right path, as did a talk I heard by Clancy, a well known old timer and AA speaker, he said, ‘I don’t go to meetings to stay sober, and I am sorry for those who do.’ So I also say things to try and reassure the newcomer, that after they do the steps, meetings become more a personal choice than a need.
The thing is, I find those who accept the idea of a higher power, and work on their spirituality, are the ones who don’t miss meetings, when they either simply don’t feel like going, or in unfortunate times like these, when there are no live meetings available. I am strong in my opinion, that once we do the steps, meetings cease being a support group, we don’t lean on or depend on human beings, those who don’t have something higher than a human to lean on, I suspect may find things more difficult at times like these.