Vehicular Homicide

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Vehicular Homicide

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First time, in my life I ran into a person serving 4 for this at the corrections facility. He had been to 3 rehabs yet, never had the desire to stay stopped. And then this happened. Its that insanity that the book talks about.


The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.


God willing this guy could awaken, if he works for it.

I am so grateful I got into the rooms, with relatively low damage. I know, we cant scare people into recovery and this memory of this incident is not going to keep me sober. I have to work on my spiritual condition each day.
Show him the mental twist which leads to the first drink of a spree. We suggest you do this as we have done it in the chapter on alcoholism.(Alcoholics Anonymous, Page 92)

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Cunning, baffling, powerful that is what this disease of alcoholism is.

Sometimes an incident where someone has killed another person because of them driving drunk does wake people up to the idea that maybe they have a problem. But then maybe not. I have read stories and have heard stories of people that have had multiple DUI but just didn't get the idea that they had a problem.

The only way a person can get sobriety is that they want it. A judge sending someone to AA doesn't solve the problem. Family member that keep nagging their family member about stop drinking does not work. The only solutions is that the person themselves wants to stop. This disease is cunning, baffling, and powerful and it take the willingness for a person to reach out for a spiritual solution to over come it. And only then will they find success.

In vehicular homicide cases my heart goes out to the family that they lost because of the situation. Then I pray that the person that caused this person death. And I thank my HP every-time that I hear about this kind of situation, that it wasn't me behind the wheel and that I woke up in time and got help through A.A. with a open mind. And the desire to quit.

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Ran into another guy who is serving time for killing is friend at the correction facility. He still wasn't sure if he was an alcoholic that he needed the 12 steps. He was so shaken filled with guilt and remorse as he opened up to say why he was at the meeting. Looks like he was at the phase he was trying moderation when this incident happened. And he has been sober since then, because of compliance. Few others shared their experience on powerlessness and unmanageability. Talked about the state of the disease. I hope he gets convinced he is indeed one and comes back next week and works the steps before he gets out in December.
Show him the mental twist which leads to the first drink of a spree. We suggest you do this as we have done it in the chapter on alcoholism.(Alcoholics Anonymous, Page 92)

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I knew a young guy was all about It when he was behind the walls... met him his first day out, a Friday, at a meeting. He was in half-way and still under compliance, but he was "a boy whistling in the dark" (page 151-52) so to speak. He changed meetings after he moved out of there. He got a job, an apartment and kept up with the program or so it seemed.

One Friday meeting I walked in and folks were crying. He was dead. An overdose. I don't know how long he had been back out but it had not been long since I had seen him. Now he was dead. He thought he could drink safely again and he was wrong. Dead wrong.

This disease kills. We know it and yet we weigh out the choice of such gravity...
"Hummm Let's see ~ A long lonely alcoholic death or sudden OR certain death vs accepting spiritual help... seems pretty drastic! Maybe one more time? Humm"

It is good work that you do avaneesh. I always hope they get IT. Even if only one does, you have a Higher Purpose.
Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have - the key to life and happiness for others. With it you can avert death and misery for them. page 124 BB

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