I shared about my cat ...I had not been sober very long...Sometimes putting an issue out there...
In my earlier post I was the one who made the reference to 'cat stories.' Just to be clear, I don't believe anyone would object to someone maybe in their first year doing this for their whole share, or to someone with years of experience mentioning it, sort of 'not feeling myself today, my cat is very sick.' That puts it out enough for people with experience of the problem to help after the meeting, while not taking away much from the primary purpose of being in the meeting.
The literature speaks of attending meetings to see what we can bring to others there, not just what we can take away, because that would be selfish. The person chairing our Sunday morning step meeting a couple of Sundays ago, devoted her entire contribution on step seven to her internet and cable being out for several days. Nobody raised an eyebrow that she would do this after years of 'sobriety,' and nobody would suggest to her that this is wrong, no one wants to be in her 'bad books,' so the nonsense continues.
So for the newer person we should understand, but when you have completed the steps your job is to pass the message about the steps, not about vets, cats dogs or lack of cable TV.
my friend you just done see it do you ?
you mention the cat story in a way that means the cat is a worthless thing in your eyes
yet to the person who had lost there cat it might be just as valuable as a son or a daughter or a partner, the pain that person might be going through might be huge to them, i did all the things you do i used to go around to my sponsor moaning about others in aa etc and my sponsor would point out to me things that i could never ever begin to think about like how the person might really be feeling as i just didn't care about how they would be feeling
the point was i was only interested in what i wanted to hear in the rooms,
so i have learned now yet another lesson where i have to keep my opinions and my big gob shut even if i am right !!!!
today if someone is in pain even if i dont like them i will just offer out my hand of friendship and give them my time as its not all about me these days or what i want to hear in the rooms of aa today its about how i can help which might all sound all saintly well i am far from it but its just i have accepted a new way of life and try to live that way each day many times i dont succeed but its ok as i just keep on trying. for example i had a run in with my girlfriend not long ago and for 2 weeks i was stubborn and in control and there was no way i was going to say sorry i wanted the girl to feel the pain i was feeling ( which is not real love is it ) anyway thanks to how i live my life sanity returned, i had to swallow my pride, i had to say sorry to her even though i was right and she was wrong but i was sorry for how i had reacted, she had hurt me and i wanted to just hurt her back which is not the way to go but the wisdom of my sponsor and other aa memebers was able to get me to come to see the problem and it was me again.
i have never met anyone yet in the fellowship who is immune to what life can throw up to them but i have met many in aa who believe there protected from life or those who believe that should trouble come there way that they could handle it all and be happy joyous and free
all i know is for me that whatever trouble or pain has come my way i have not picked up that first drink and for that i will always be grateful for aa and the people in aa who made me that promise when i first shown up in the rooms they told me i may never need to drink again and how right they have been and all i have done is followed in there footsteps and i still do as its not done me any wrong and only good for the last 11 years so i will stick to it as it works or i should say for me its the only thing that has ever worked