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WillyC4117
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First Time Here

Post by WillyC4117 » Wed Feb 12, 2020 5:37 am

Hey guys and gals my name is Chandler, i'm 25, and I have recently come to terms with the fact that I am an alcoholic. I just made excuses in the past but it is starting to become more than "just having some drinks". It started as just beer at night and turned into liquor throughout the day. I have a kid on the way and am determined to kick my addiction to make sure I can be the best dad I can be. It won't be easy but I'm ready to make the commitment and look forward to talking with you all.

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Jojo2
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Re: First Time Here

Post by Jojo2 » Wed Feb 12, 2020 6:55 am

WillyC4117 wrote:
Wed Feb 12, 2020 5:37 am
Hey guys and gals my name is Chandler, i'm 25, and I have recently come to terms with the fact that I am an alcoholic. I just made excuses in the past but it is starting to become more than "just having some drinks". It started as just beer at night and turned into liquor throughout the day. I have a kid on the way and am determined to kick my addiction to make sure I can be the best dad I can be. It won't be easy but I'm ready to make the commitment and look forward to talking with you all.
Welcome and thank you for reaching out, Chandler. I am glad you are here.

The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.

You don't mention going to meetings or working the Steps

You will find much information and resources by following the links below:

A.A. Near You.

http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/find-aa-resources

Outside US and Canada >

https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/find-aa- ... es/world/1


The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous online link is
http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline

The following chapters are a good place to start:

Three Chapters From The Big Book-

1.The Doctors Opinion.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbo ... pinion.pdf

2.There Is A Solution.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt2.pdf

3.More About Alcoholism.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt3.pdf

To request a temporary sponsor to get you started with the AA programme until you secure a face to face sponsor, please complete our form here:

http://www.e-aa.org/form_sponsors.php

A temporary sponsor is a sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous who is willing to share their experience, strength, and hope with another alcoholic as a way of service to help insure their own sobriety.

Their main function is to help guide the new person towards the 12 Steps, and also, where appropriate, to help guide the new person to face to face meetings and a f2f sponsor in their local AA community.

An excellent introduction on sponsorship, permanent or temporary, with questions and answers, is this pamphlet
from GSO :

Questions and Answers on Sponsorship:
http://aa.org/pdf/products/p-15_Q&AonSpon.pdf  

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Re: First Time Here

Post by MyNameIsBetsy » Wed Feb 12, 2020 8:56 am

Hello Chandler, welcome. We welcome you to the fellowship, and to recovery.

AA is all over the world. You didn't say where you are from, but JoJo gave you some links to find local meetings in or near your town. I hope you take advantage of those. There is nothing like being in a room filled with people who share the same problem, and are working on the same solution.

Jump in. Hang out here. Read the postings and look for similarities. Find some local meetings. Read our literature. Get yourself a sponsor.

You can be a sober man, a sober dad. This is a new start!!!! Life is good.

Betsy, an alcoholic
"Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path."

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Re: First Time Here

Post by Indianapolis » Thu Feb 13, 2020 11:53 am

Welcome Chandler. I remember the first time I was able to say aloud at a meeting "I'm Erik, and I'm an alcoholic" and mean it. It's a big realization to make, and its simultaneously depressing and exciting, frightening and life-affirming. You've taken the first step to a whole new life free from the bondage of having to drink to avoid the shakes, the anxiety, the fear.

In your new path, you'll get the awesome joy of getting to actually evaluate your life and choices, learn to be a better dad, partner, friend, and co-worker, and generally handle life's ups and downs in the moment, rather than blurred out through booze.

The advice I was given: Dive into the program. It works. Find meetings. Get a sponsor. Read the Book. Read other books on addiction and recovery. Put as much effort into recovery (at first) as you put into your drinking.

No one else can make me drink, only I can, and therefore I have to own my program. I wanted to maximize the odds of success, and minimize the odds of failure, so I took the advice and attacked. Welcome! Have hope. It works, and is really pretty awesome.

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