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Do I need help?

Posted: Thu Dec 12, 2019 2:33 pm
by Cherrie
So... I'm not sure if I have a problem or not but...if I feel like I do, I probably do. In here (eastern europe) alcoholism is some kind of a norm.
The thing is I'm very high functioning. I'm graduating from my Masters in Pharmacy, I'm a mom, I work and I'm only 23. I don't seem like the one with a "problem".
But I do drink almost every day...I get drunk 5 times/week...
My average drinking night is 2L of beer or 1L of wine. I think I should do something about it. I do love drinking tho. I don't know what I'm aiming for here. Just needed to share I guess.

Re: Do I need help?

Posted: Thu Dec 12, 2019 6:50 pm
by Brock
This is a question I am sure all of us would have asked, in my own case, and I expect most others, we didn’t want to think we did, because a life without booze wasn't something we felt we could enjoy.

The answer usually comes when we decide to stop, and an alcoholic can usually do this for a while, but life kind of starts to suck a bit, the literature says we feel discontent and irritable without it, and so we go back to drinking.

What AA does is treat the reasons we feel this way, it removes or greatly lessens the things which had us reaching for the comfort of drinking, and it works very well. Not only is the feeling to drink removed, but a new and enjoyable way to live is found. I will put links to some literature, it may help you understand, and feel free to ask any further questions if you wish.


Is A.A. For You – 12 Questions.
http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/is-aa-for ... can-answer

A Brief Guide To AA.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/p-42_abriefguidetoaa.pdf

Three Chapters From The Big Book-

1.The Doctors Opinion.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbo ... pinion.pdf

2.There Is A Solution.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt2.pdf

3.More About Alcoholism.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt3.pdf

A.A. Meeting Finder.
A.A. Near You.
http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/find-aa-resources

Re: Do I need help?

Posted: Fri Dec 13, 2019 9:42 am
by Layne
Hi Cherri. Welcome.

In my early twenties I began to consider the possibility that I might have a problem. But I too was highly functioning. I was in architecture school, pulling high grades, paying my bills, not getting into trouble, but I did drink almost every day and got drunk probably five times a week. I didn't seem like the one with a "problem". Didn't take long to convince myself that I didn't really have a problem. I was just having fun with drinking.

Fast forward 20 years. I was still highly functioning. I was a successful business owner. Took care of my family. Paid my bills. Wasn't getting into trouble. I did drink everyday and I got drunk everyday. I didn't seem like the one with a "problem" though. But I was no longer having fun with drinking. It was quite the opposite. It was pure hell but I did it anyway, even though I didn't want to. Try as much as I could, I couldn't not drink. I knew I had a problem.

Even though I knew it, it took me 10 more years of increasing hell (although I was still highly functioning. I was still a successful business owner. Still took care of my family. Still paid my bills. Still wasn't getting into trouble) before I finally gave myself wholeheartedly to the solution, stopped the insanity, and experienced a subsequent better life of peace and serenity. For me the solution was found in working the twelve steps of AA.

At any rate, that is a bit of my story, and I'm sticking to it.

Thanks for sharing. I'm looking forward to more posts from you as you figure out what you are aiming for.
What you seek is seeking you — Rumi

Re: Do I need help?

Posted: Fri Dec 13, 2019 2:34 pm
by ebear
Do you wonder whether you "need help" or you "want help"?

Imagine driving 90 miles an hour through traffic and satisfying yourself that you don't have a problem because you haven't hit another car yet.

I was a functioning alcoholic. A functional chronic depressive. A man who could settle for a life beneath his aspirations and could live with drunken nights and secret self harm, could swallow his disappointments and self-doubt because no one else had called him out.

I knew my life would improve--could actually be great--if I stopped drinking. Why was that so damned hard? That was my proving ground. If I had an opportunity to live the way I wanted but turned my back on it because I didn't want to stop drinking, I had all the proof I needed that drinking had become a priority in my life, rather than a take-it-or-leave-it proposition.

For me, that signified that I had been overthrown. Time then proved I was powerless without help.

So I came to AA.

Re: Do I need help?

Posted: Sun Dec 15, 2019 2:08 pm
by PaigeB
Cherrie wrote:
Thu Dec 12, 2019 2:33 pm
So... I'm not sure if I have a problem or not but...if I feel like I do, I probably do. In here (eastern europe) alcoholism is some kind of a norm.
The thing is I'm very high functioning. I'm graduating from my Masters in Pharmacy, I'm a mom, I work and I'm only 23. I don't seem like the one with a "problem".
But I do drink almost every day...I get drunk 5 times/week...
My average drinking night is 2L of beer or 1L of wine. I think I should do something about it. I do love drinking tho. I don't know what I'm aiming for here. Just needed to share I guess.
Hi Cherrie! Most folks don't drink like I did, but I thought they did.

Here is the Official Link to International ICYPAA a Conference to be held in America in 2020, but I bet you can get some local links from here
https://www.icypaa.org/
https://www.eurypaa.org/
or simply web search YPAA eastern Europe... There can be some bad links of course, so take care if you see something that does not seem right, leave immediately and search elsewhere.

Re: Do I need help?

Posted: Sun Dec 15, 2019 8:11 pm
by D'oh
Do you wonder whether you "need help" or you "want help"?
This.

I walked through the doors (Licked) at 21 years old. 2nd DUI, etc, etc.

I found AA practiced the Program for 12 Great Years, then it got so Good, 5 years of "Being Dry" I forgot where I came from. Then 10 years of "Literal Hell the rest of Us went through" happened. 10 times deeper Bottom than at 21 years old.

It's a Deep Question. "Do I need Help?" But if things were good with Drinking in my life, I wouldn't be asking.