A concerned nephew

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A concerned nephew

Post by davidclay123 »

Hi guys,
My uncle has been drinking for 8 years and now he's someone I no longer recognize. He's turned into a crazy one, always talking non-sense and acting like he's lost his mind.
I'm here to look for help!
Many thanks!

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Re: A concerned nephew

Post by D'oh »

Hi David.

Thanks for your concern for your Uncle. We as Alcoholics do tend to tear a wide path of damage that we don't see. A little quote from our Big Book.
The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others. Hearts are broken. Sweet relationships are dead. Affections have been uprooted. Selfish and inconsiderate habits have kept he home in turmoil. We feel a man is unthinking when he says that sobriety is enough. He is like the farmer who came up out of his cyclone cellar to find his home ruined. To his wife, he remarked, “Don’t see anything the matter here, Ma. Ain’t it grand the wind stopped blowin’?”

But not much can be done to change them. Until they hit a Bottom. But one person's concern about my drinking many years ago and years before I sobered up, still comes to my mind. And it was a simply, quiet, "It is pretty bad isn't it?" I replied "Yes, about another's Drinking." He said "No, Yours." and left.

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You can go to Alanon family groups and learn how to deal with an alcoholic relative. They have a lot of help and support for those who are concerned with an alcoholic family member. Best wishes and thanks for sharing with us.
" Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless of anyone. The only condition is that he trust in God and clean house." page 98 A.A.

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Re: A concerned nephew

Post by PaigeB »

I have moved this topic to the Family Afterwards - where you might also find help with family members who drink.
Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have - the key to life and happiness for others. With it you can avert death and misery for them. page 124 BB

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