alcoholic and recovering alcoholic

[avaneesh912]

I read i "a new earth" about ego in relationship. It waits patiently for the relationship to get permanent. Then it un-leashes its true nature once the relationship is consummated (wedding). SpiritFlower always gives best advice on these matters. Dont have babies. I would add, be like Oprah. Dont get married.

[Brock]

This character building might be result of her attending Al-non meetings ,reading Al-non literature.

I wanted to say welcome to akshay3688, who wrote a nice post on the preceding page, I had no idea of the power of Al-anon and that it could help wives of alcoholics to that extent.

I also put my wife through hell, thank God she stuck around to see me get well, and seems very pleased with the 'new' husband I have become.

[akshay3688]

but as stupid as he thinks it is he has agreed to try it.

Good to hear that .take care

[Tracy h]

Lady, I appreciate this question, and it is timely for me. At 8 mos of sobriety, worrying about handling the future with drinking partner of 17+ years is one of my biggest concerns. Certainly protecting my sobriety is #1 priority, but I've come to realize that if it isn't sobriety-threatening, it certainly is serenity-threatening. And I want to envision a future of limitless possibilities as a sober individual, its hard to feel limited by the effects of alcohol in your life still ... Not to co-opt topic, just wanted to weigh in and wish you luck, and thank those that commented. I read all carefully. T