Chairing..

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Feeya
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Hi everyone,
I will be chairing my home group meeting next Friday.
Our chairperson is on a holiday trip and my sponsor thought it wold be a good idea for me to do it.
I'm not sure why she thinks that, as I am super rambly and often have trouble ordering my thougths... but maybe that is exactly why she wants me to do it.

It feels like my HP is currently putting me in more and more challenging situations.

Anyway, I would appreciate any ESH on chairing a meeting and any advice on what I might have to keep in mind...
Thanks :)
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The first time I chaired a meeting I was nervous as hell. I tried to plan what I was going to say and it came out jumbled and I got lost. It all came out fine and everyone came and shook my hand afterwards...so really it was better than I thought. My suggestion is don't plan what you're going to say...stick to your experience and more importantly the solution you have found in AA. When I'm asked to speak these days I no longer get nervous...instead a few minutes before I stand up to share my ESH I ask my Higher Power to take the wheel. You'll be fine just don't overthink it...easier said than done I know.
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There is a difference between Rambly and Bubbly.

You will be fine, just picture Everyone in their undies, no wait that won't work. Umm Bike Shorts, nope umm how about nope, well that everyone is just there for a meeting might work.

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When I first began chairing open meetings, I thought I was supposed to CONTROL the meeting, keep speakers on topic, etcetera. As it turned out, the best meetings I ever chaired or attended are the ones that "happened." I just abided by the general format followed by my group and did NOT correct any speakers who said things I thought were "wrong" I would try to discourage cross-talk. I shared my own experience, strength, and hope mostly when the group got quiet and needed a jump start which wasn't that often.

Later, when I had some experience, I would say "Ohh, you have so much to say, Sam. Get with somebody after the meeting to finish up. We need to let someone else share now." when "Sam" was trying to turn the discussion meeting into a speaker meeting. Once or twice over a period of yearS, male members of the group escorted an aggressive drunk out of the room and talked to him outside to avoid meeting interruption.

I'm sure if you get in "trouble" or go blank, home group members will pick up the slack. You may feel like it's all up to you but you're flying in a flock. When the "point" goose gets tired, he/she drops back and another goose will take point. :D

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Thanks everyone.
I will just let it happen and trust my HP and my Home group to carry me through.
It is just a scary thought I guess, having so much responsibility and kind of being 'up front' but I am not alone.
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Good for you, Feeya, on chairing your first meeting. That's terrific AA service.

You'll be OK. Remember, 99.999907% of first meetings chaired turn out just fine.

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Remember, 99.999907% of first meetings chaired turn out just fine.
299 people tell me I am great and 1 tells me I suck...

Why is it that I hang onto that ----07%? Oh man - I am still sick! :lol: :lol:
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I chaired my first meeting on Saturday morning. After all of the preliminary, opening meeting things (readings, announcements, sobriety time, etc) i realized that we only had about 45 minutes to "go off script". I shared a short passage from the BB and how and why I had been working on that and got out of the way. Before I knew it, it was right at the end of the meeting and I went back "on script" and the meeting came to a close. Several of us stayed around and cleaned up the coffee and what not, visited a bit outside and headed back to life outside of the rooms. I thought I would be nervous, but in the end, I wasn't. I prayed quite a bit leading up to the meeting and prayed in the car, all the way home, thanking my HP for allowing me to serve in that way.

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So, I just got home from chairing my first meeting and it went really well.
Everyone was really supportive and appreciative and we had a great discussion about 'awakening into sobriety' and 'when the brain fog lifts'.
It was a very lively meeting and even one guy who never really shares much talked. He came up to me afterwards and said that he normally doesn't really speak (wich I already knew) but that he felt really encouraged to do so tonight...
I had a meeting after the meeting with an oldtimer that I offered to give a ride home and both, the meeting and after meeting, really made me feel good and relieved.
I am so grateful that this opportunity came. Right place, right time. It turned out to be exactly what I needed today!
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AA is the place where I really feel like "I FIT".

Pretty much feeling like I fit for the first time in my life! AND being able to be of service is living the promise "That feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear." (pg 84 BB). Sometimes the Promises feel fleeting, especially in the beginning. The first time I felt serenity, and understood it as such, I freaked out in happiness thus spoiling the serenity! LMAO.

Feeya & Troy are living in the solution as they say! You have a real purpose in this Life!
Keep up the good work, or may I say The God Work. :wink:
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