I would say that the following quote below explains many things about us alcoholics.
After examining our plight it is a wonder we can assist in helping another.
But we are works in (spiritual) progress and our HP has all power
and some of us do manage to stay sober. With or without a sponsor.
The EGO/self is a hard beast to keep in check.
So of course you can find all sorts of defects in sponsorship and sponsee-ship.
Selfishness - self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity,
we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation,
but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions
based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.
So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves,
and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so.
Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! God makes that possible.
And there often seems no way of entirely getting rid of self without His aid.
Many of us had moral and philosophical convictions galore, but we could not live up to them even though we would have liked to.
Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on our own power. We had to have God's help.
The first 164 pg. is the program!