Not really sure how to start

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Hunter33
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Not really sure how to start

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I think I finally had a breaking point a couple nights ago and this is something that has been on my mind for awhile but I didn’t know how to face it or rather myself. I didn’t want to think of myself as an alcoholic I just felt like I am young and in my prime just having fun before I settle down but I think for the past few years I’ve just been lying to myself and my family and honestly I just want to change and live a productive life and not always think about when I go someplace how am I going to get a drink or when life happens not turn immediately to alcohol... honestly I still feel a little weird and uncomfortable about posting or even admitting this but I want to get clean and I’m not sure where to go from here but I am ready to make a change in my life

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Re: Not really sure how to start

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Hunter33 wrote:
Tue Aug 11, 2020 2:33 am
I think I finally had a breaking point a couple nights ago and this is something that has been on my mind for awhile but I didn’t know how to face it or rather myself. I didn’t want to think of myself as an alcoholic I just felt like I am young and in my prime just having fun before I settle down but I think for the past few years I’ve just been lying to myself and my family and honestly I just want to change and live a productive life and not always think about when I go someplace how am I going to get a drink or when life happens not turn immediately to alcohol... honestly I still feel a little weird and uncomfortable about posting or even admitting this but I want to get clean and I’m not sure where to go from here but I am ready to make a change in my life

Welcome Hunter


We also provide a temporary sponsor facility to help you get started on the Programme:

http://www.e-aa.org/form_sponsors.php


An excellent introduction on sponsorship, permanent or temporary, with questions and answers, is this pamphlet
from GSO :


You may wish to start by checking out these two links:

Is A.A. For You – 12 Questions.
http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/is-aa-for ... can-answer

A Brief Guide To AA.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/p-42_abriefguidetoaa.pdf

Questions and Answers on Sponsorship:
http://aa.org/pdf/products/p-15_Q&AonSpon.pdf



The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous online link is
http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline

The following chapters are a good place to start:

Three Chapters From The Big Book-

1.The Doctors Opinion.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbo ... pinion.pdf

2.There Is A Solution.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt2.pdf

3.More About Alcoholism.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt3.pdf

AA near YOU:

You will find contact telephone helpline numbers for your local area on the sites below
Updates on Coronavirus situation in regard to AA meetings and
online meeting options will be found here:

https://aa.org/pages/en_US/update-on-co ... oronavirus

D'oh
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Re: Not really sure how to start

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This is exactly "How to Start" Hunter.

Getting a Glimpse out of the Fog, that something isn't normal, that Alcohol might be the cause.

Keep coming back. See what happens.

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I think you made a good start by posting on a forum like this, as you say it’s not a comfortable thing to do admitting we may have a problem. Thanks for reminding me about the days of always thinking about where a drink would be available when I went out, it’s not a nice way to live, and even though I was at that stage and AA said they could help, I just didn’t think a life without alcohol would be worthwhile. I turned my back on all the advise I got over the years until I ended up in a place I hope you never see, some of us have to loose family jobs self respect etc. before we will finally admit we have a problem.

And all my fears about sober life being boring and a nerd type of existence proved to be stupid excuses, I found a life following the AA program that even my best days of drinking can’t hold a candle to. The chapters to our big book Jojo put up will show you certain things about the program, also typing in ‘AA speakers’ on you tube you can find a lot of good and useful stuff. All you need now is to approach the first and possibly most important step, that is instead of thinking you might have a problem and be an alcoholic, you will realize and admit you do have a problem and are an alcoholic, it’s nothing to be ashamed about. I hope you can do that now, some of us have quit before losing the good things in our lives, like I said some like me end up in a place I wouldn’t wish on anyone, before accepting the AA program.
"Good morning, this is your Higher Power speaking. I will not be needing your help today."

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Re: Not really sure how to start

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Hi Hunter, welcome.
I want to get clean and I’m not sure where to go from here but I am ready to make a change in my life
Good question. For starters, I would suggest you do two things. 1) Read some of those links that JoJo sent you, especially the link to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Then 2) find out from your local AA office where you can find in-person or zoom AA meetings for your local area.

To find that AA office, search on line for the name of your town or county, and "Alcoholics Anonymous." Someone will answer the phone and help you find a local meeting where AA folks can help you get started.

You never have to drink again.

Please come back and post how you are doing.

Betsy, an alcoholic
"Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path."

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Re: Not really sure how to start

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Hunter, nothing has changed in some 80+ years. If you want to stop drinking liquor for good and all, and feel you need some help, we KNOW we have an answer for you. What we don't have is a way to, stick to beer, stop at three, never drink before 5pm, only drink on the weekends etc.

Conventional wisdom, which may need some modification with the current situation, is find a home group, get a temporary sponsor, 90 meeting in 90 days and don't drink between meetings. After 90 days, if you're not happy with the program, we'll gladly refund your misery.

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