I know a lot of the true recovery comes from sponsoring, how do i do that if I have not experienced the recovery?
Liz started this thread and it has gone on for quite a while, I think the opinions offered in the main have been helpful, maybe not so much to Liz but I am certain to other readers myself included. And the fact that she started it and it has helped others is 12th step work, sponsorship is also 12th step work, but not the only kind, not at all. It is my greatest wish that she may see that by coming here she has helped others, well done and thank you. The statement quoted above is false, there is joy in sponsoring yes, but I know it is Liz’s ex sponsor who put that idea in her head, for she said on March 27th. –
my sponsor tells me the program was really reinforced when she started sponsoring.
Well if it was reinforced it was by weight being added to the bottom, because shortly after this it was reported that the sponsor relapsed, she landed flat on her bottom. I am not trying to make fun of someone’s relapse, just pointing out that what she told you proved to be false.
In the Big Book the chapter discussing step 12 is titled “Working With Others,” the word sponsor does not appear, in those very early days of the fellowship it was more of a hands on go out and look for a drunk sort of thing, and Bill spoke of the things we should expect, remember at that time it was normal to take drunks home, where we may have what is written on page 97 happen –
A drunk may smash the furniture in your
home, or burn a mattress. You may have to fight with
him if he is violent. Sometimes you will have to call
a doctor and administer sedatives under his direction.
Another time you may have to send for the police or
an ambulance. Occasionally you will have to meet
By 1953 when he wrote the 12 & 12, AA had developed to the point that Bill saw this one- on- one intensive work as only a part of the 12th --- here is what he says on page 110
Nor is this the only kind of Twelfth Step work. We sit in
A.A. meetings and listen, not only to receive something
ourselves, but to give the reassurance and support which
our presence can bring. If our turn comes to speak at a
meeting, we again try to carry A.A.'s message. Whether our
audience is one or many, it is still Twelfth Step work. There
are many opportunities even for those of us who feel unable
to speak at meetings or who are so situated that we cannot
do much face-to-face Twelfth Step work. We can be the
ones who take on the unspectacular but important tasks that
make good Twelfth Step work possible, perhaps arranging
for the coffee and cake after the meetings, where so many
skeptical, suspicious newcomers have found confidence
and comfort in the laughter and talk. This is Twelfth Step
work in the very best sense of the word.
Twelve Step work in the very best sense of the word indeed, thank you Liz for starting this thread, it helps folks like me remember that just by attending a meeting, shaking someone's hand, better yet assisting with coffee or the chairs, this is 12th step work also, your higher power will reveal more, keep the faith, and may God bless you.
"Good morning, this is your Higher Power speaking. I will not be needing your help today."