Yet we in the fellowship ask them "not to take a drink and come back" as though they have a choice.
Maybe "Keep coming back and don't quit before the miracle"?
I was (am) pretty egotistical and I had a lot of blocks in my way before I was able to become willing. So when I got here, I had already convinced myself that this was not a matter of praying for what I wanted, it was a matter of finding out what the sober person DID and what then doing what they told me to DO. It is called a "12 Step Program" for a reason. It is called "an action program" for a reason. Neither one of those refer to how to get your butt in a chair at a meeting. But I found that meetings were indispensable for me to find, with my own eyes and my own experience, WHAT TO DO and what not to do. I guess I needed to look people in the eye... still there was a part of me that thought that I was beyond hope. I was desperate... AA was the last house on the block for me and I was lucky that around here that house is bursting with loving & happy people who have WORKED THE STEPS with a sponsor and that suggestion is repeated to newcomers as the plan of Action.
"Don't quit before the miracle" only meant a statistical miracle to me, but I needed to hear it. Many many times I thought that the Steps were NOT working because they are hard and they do not always give instant gratification (sometimes they do though!). BUT I KNEW through watching others that if They can get sober, I can get sober. I got busy in all 3 legacies from the beginning: Unity, Service & Recovery. I drove people to meetings and shook hands at the door, I went to a lot of meetings "go early - stay late" and I got a sponsor and started working the Steps. On that last one, I changed sponsors at 6 months and started the Steps over. And now, even though I have several years in, I got a new sponsor and I am working the Steps again ~ to get a new experience (miracle).
So what do are you Willing to DO?
If I'm not able to say how I'm working my program today, then I'm not working my program.
The e-AA Group's 7th Tradition link: www.e-aa.org/group_seventh.php