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by Troy M.
Sun Jun 26, 2016 5:01 am
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 7 Years Today
Replies: 23
Views: 15083

Re: 7 Years Today

Late to the party, but Congratulations!!!! You inspire me! Thank you for being here!
by Troy M.
Sat Jun 25, 2016 5:00 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Please help!
Replies: 22
Views: 13039

Re: Please help!

Laura, it can get better. It took me several months of attending meetings regularly to start to trust people enough to start opening up. The guy who sponsors me is 10 or 12 years younger than me, but he has nearly 15 years of sobriety and is all in on the 12 steps. He has been patient as I've worked...
by Troy M.
Sat Jun 04, 2016 3:07 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Age difference in sponsorship
Replies: 11
Views: 9945

Re: Age difference in sponsorship

My sponsor is about a dozen years younger than me.
by Troy M.
Sun May 22, 2016 6:11 am
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: Setting the bar too low?
Replies: 12
Views: 7996

Re: Setting the bar too low?

Awesome history link Brock! Thanks for sharing.
by Troy M.
Thu May 19, 2016 4:03 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step Five. Sponsor's role?
Replies: 14
Views: 11490

Re: Step Five. Sponsor's role?

I've been working on my 4th step for about 5 or 6 weeks. Last night my sponsor and I scheduled an afternoon to do my 5th step on next Friday. For me it feels good to have the time blocked out even if it feels a little "funny" to have to compare calendars to come up with a time. Despite the fact that...
by Troy M.
Sun May 15, 2016 6:05 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Spiritus Contra Spiritum
Replies: 49
Views: 21123

Re: Spiritus Contra Spiritum

Thank you all for this discussion! Dissecting words without impugning the meanings of those who use such words! My short (7 months) experience matches the sense of this thread - my spiritual experience has overcome the alcohol.
by Troy M.
Fri Apr 29, 2016 3:41 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Returning member... finally taken step 1; I hope!
Replies: 32
Views: 13465

Re: Returning member... finally taken step 1; I hope!

Jo, I'm glad you are here! The accomplishment of triple digit sober days is awesome! It is amazing to think about that many days in a row without a drink. I recently passed day 200 and looking back to the last hangover I had is part of what keeps me going. Remembering the shakiness and disgust I fel...
by Troy M.
Fri Feb 26, 2016 5:02 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Day 14
Replies: 30
Views: 12944

Re: Day 14

23 days! That is awesome. You are doing great!
by Troy M.
Fri Nov 13, 2015 3:12 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hi. My name is Merl and I'm an alcoholic
Replies: 63
Views: 25229

Re: Hi. My name is Merl and I'm an alcoholic

I get what you mean about the fellowship. Did you feel like you were immediately, unconditionally accepted? I did. That blew my mind. I never got that before except with my spouse and my in-laws. Hang in there. I'm hanging in there right along with you. Peace brother, Merl I did feel accepted right...
by Troy M.
Wed Nov 11, 2015 4:10 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I need help.
Replies: 10
Views: 5306

Re: I need help.

shannyfanny, My drinking became a single-minded solitary pursuit of self-isolation. It took quite a few years to develop social anxiety, but I got there. I went from an easy person to talk with to a life of the party with a drink in my hand to a sullen solo drinker - even if I was with others who we...
by Troy M.
Tue Nov 10, 2015 3:35 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hi. My name is Merl and I'm an alcoholic
Replies: 63
Views: 25229

Re: Hi. My name is Merl and I'm an alcoholic

Great share Merl! I moving on into my 2nd month of sobriety and it does seem to get easier as I focus on my spiritual state. When I got going, I swore that I wasn't go to a meeting every day, but I have seemed to settled in to attending about 5 meetings every week. The fellowship seems to be a real ...
by Troy M.
Tue Nov 10, 2015 3:28 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Struggling with self control
Replies: 9
Views: 4423

Re: Struggling with self control

I found, in the first week or two, that if I kept some fruit juice available, the liquid sugar seemed to help some of the physical cues my body was giving me. Beyond the jitteryness of the first short bit, the only thing that took the craving away was to focus on my Higher Power and ask for HP to ta...
by Troy M.
Fri Oct 30, 2015 3:16 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Sick of It!
Replies: 67
Views: 25931

Re: Sick of It!

Thanks all! Your support is really important. Today is 3 weeks and everything is going well. My spiritual state is becoming solid and I'm enjoying the journey. My little notebook is getting filled up and I'd forgotten how important prayer is. I'll keep chiming in where I can offer something.
by Troy M.
Thu Oct 29, 2015 5:51 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Sick of It!
Replies: 67
Views: 25931

Re: Sick of It!

I guess I was thinking in terms of 4 columns as follows: 1. I resent... 2. The Cause... 3. Affects My... 4. My faults or my role in this resentment... Likely I didn't use the proper terminology. I hope that my journey won't cause anyone to question the use of the 4th step inventory. I'm not sure tha...