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by johnd
Sat Aug 08, 2015 5:42 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Just signed up
Replies: 15
Views: 3689

Re: Just signed up

Hi Tara WELCOME ABOARD!!! Get ready for the new journey that is going to be an awesome one.. John D.
by johnd
Fri Aug 07, 2015 7:43 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: What do you say to relapsers?
Replies: 74
Views: 34358

Re: What do you say to relapsers?

We had a Long timer at my Sunday morning meeting pick up after 26 years... He came back after 2 years of drinking Raised his hand and talked about complacency... He said when he least expected it at a family cook out he decided to have a cold beer from the cooler... He was so baffled as to why it ha...
by johnd
Fri Aug 07, 2015 6:54 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need advice
Replies: 10
Views: 2582

Re: Need advice

Hi Mark Glad you replied.. Funny thing I never wanted to believe that I was having trouble with booze... I always wanted to just have 1 or 2 and go on my merry way. It never happened. You see what would happen is I would set up a physical craving as soon as I had that first drink..... I couldn't sto...
by johnd
Fri Aug 07, 2015 10:05 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Alcohol in the home when moving in with a partner
Replies: 42
Views: 15246

Re: Alcohol in the home when moving in with a partner

Good luck Ryan, Check in with us anytime. We love to hear how you are doing.. Glad I could help with my contribution... John D.
by johnd
Thu Aug 06, 2015 5:51 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Alcohol in the home when moving in with a partner
Replies: 42
Views: 15246

Re: Alcohol in the home when moving in with a partner

Good luck Rhuff, I know for me that my reaction to alcohol being present in any situation is all on me. What happens when I find myself in a bad place mentally or emotionally, The thought of relief today isn't in the bottom of a glass... I have developed a new path over the years which a drink or a ...
by johnd
Wed Aug 05, 2015 5:13 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: How Do You Decide When You've "Got" a Step
Replies: 13
Views: 7145

Re: How Do You Decide When You've "Got" a Step

Hi and Welcome Paulr, What brock posted is pretty accurate.. I can also tell you once the obsession is removed you won't be having the thoughts about what you can drink or how many ..... As you progress in working the steps you will experience a different view on things that really were just obstacl...
by johnd
Tue Aug 04, 2015 7:01 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: What do you say to relapsers?
Replies: 74
Views: 34358

Re: What do you say to relapsers?

Sometimes the relapser has a harder time coming back due to pride.. The fact they got some time together and things either were going so well they started easing up on their priorities Cutting back attendance at meetings, not calling their sponsor when things go disappointingly dull... It is a lot o...
by johnd
Mon Aug 03, 2015 8:10 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Alcohol in the home when moving in with a partner
Replies: 42
Views: 15246

Re: Alcohol in the home when moving in with a partner

Hello rhuff, Welcome,, I understand your concerns having been in a recent relationship with a girl I really love but I had to break away. She drinks. She always appreciated and respected my sobriety,, Seems like every time we got together she would always have drink in hand.... She would tell me how...
by johnd
Mon Aug 03, 2015 6:48 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Offer place to stay and they start drinking again.
Replies: 10
Views: 3835

Re: Offer place to stay and they start drinking again.

Hi Kitty, You say she is in the program.. What program has she got that allows her to take advantage of you while she binge drinks ? So she had few rough days does the drinking and bringing dudes home make it better... Certainly has a lot of baggage... I would call her sponsor, if she has one.. Othe...
by johnd
Mon Aug 03, 2015 1:48 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Smug Complacency
Replies: 18
Views: 10296

Re: Smug Complacency

[quote][/quote][quote="avaneesh912 wrote"]Last message from Dr. Bob: "But there are two or three things that flashed into my mind on which it would be fitting to lay a little emphasis; one is the simplicity of our Program. Let's not louse it all up with Freudian complexes and things that are interes...
by johnd
Sat Aug 01, 2015 5:35 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Each day I have to be grateful
Replies: 12
Views: 3581

Re: Each day I have to be grateful

Thank you all, Your messages of condolences are very comforting.. Nice to have friends who understand ... John D. :)
by johnd
Sat Aug 01, 2015 8:07 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Each day I have to be grateful
Replies: 12
Views: 3581

Each day I have to be grateful

Hi everyone, Just need to share this... My heart is broken because I lost my sweet loving cousin who was 1 year younger than I . We were close growing up... She was an only child and she loved being with all of us. my 4 siblings and me... She had her struggles in life for sure. but the worst struggl...
by johnd
Sat Aug 01, 2015 6:45 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: NEW to the forum
Replies: 19
Views: 6294

Re: NEW to the forum

Thank you Lali,
She really struggled over the past several months... I was powerless in my attempts to help her.
She knew after having had some time sober.... John D.
by johnd
Fri Jul 31, 2015 6:57 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need advice
Replies: 10
Views: 2582

Re: Need advice

Hi Mark, Welcome.. Sounds like a sticky situation.. You mentioned you opened up before and it felt a hell of a lot better. Question to you... Don't you think she already knows that you're drinking again? Now why would your attending meetings be a problem for her? Does she attend meetings? or does sh...
by johnd
Fri Jul 31, 2015 5:59 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: NEW to the forum
Replies: 19
Views: 6294

Re: NEW to the forum

Welcome Back Gerogeor, Don't fall into the thinking I should of known better with this disease ... I come from a long history of family alcoholics.. It's not our fault... We are just unable to drink alcohol safely and walk away from it... I just learned 2 days ago that my cousin had ended her life ....