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by Duke
Wed Jul 20, 2011 5:24 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Went out after years of sobriety, 2 weeks sober today.
Replies: 45
Views: 6252

Re: Went out after years of sobriety, 2 weeks sober today.

Welcome back James. This is a great place to stay connected.
by Duke
Tue Jul 19, 2011 2:20 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Living Life on Life's Terms
Replies: 15
Views: 3955

Re: Living Life on Life's Terms

Brilliant stuff here. Thanks to all. For me, (and, I think, as intended by the program), religion is optional, faith is not. If you want to believe that just proves the power of mind-action, you're entitled to do so. All debates over God are simply exercises in how each of us implements faith in our...
by Duke
Fri Jul 15, 2011 7:56 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Daily Maintenance
Replies: 11
Views: 3054

Re: Daily Maintenance

I love your enthusiasm and participation, Paige. Sorry I didn't post earlier today. I had a busy morning and didn't plan enough time. I'll keep coming back as long as I'm able.
by Duke
Sun Jul 10, 2011 8:09 am
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: There is a Solution.
Replies: 15
Views: 8819

Re: There is a Solution.

The Big Book gives you a series of proven actions to take to allow you to start moving toward a powerful positive goal-life on a spiritual basis. Up until I came in the program and started working the steps, I was trying to quit doing something negative instead of moving toward something positive. Y...
by Duke
Fri Jul 08, 2011 5:00 pm
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: Communication Issues !!! Help!
Replies: 4
Views: 3517

Re: Communication Issues !!! Help!

I had multiple issues with my wife when I came to the program. My turning to something other than her was a big threat to her. We got counseling, she went to alanon, but mostly we both learned to keep our side of the street clean, let each other work through our own issues at our own speed, and gene...
by Duke
Mon Jul 04, 2011 8:44 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: High Bottom Drunk
Replies: 37
Views: 16142

Re: High Bottom Drunk

A high bottom drunk is someone who does not meet the parameters of perceived loss set by the person using the phrase. Alcoholics have all lost the same thing. The choice of when and how much alcohol they will drink. I agree, Layne. In my experience, the term is used by members who had to lose a lot...
by Duke
Mon Jul 04, 2011 8:31 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Blackouts
Replies: 3
Views: 971

Re: Blackouts

I believe Marietta nailed it. I bartended for a few years, and had many a night that I could not recall closing or driving home. I know it coincided with a level of inebriation beyond even my usual. There is simply a complete lack of memory.
by Duke
Sun Jul 03, 2011 3:53 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Do i tell people what i do for a living
Replies: 16
Views: 2757

Re: Do i tell people what i do for a living

If it's relevant and appropriate in either setting, I share it. What that's meant for me is I have never shared my alcoholism with anyone outside the program unless they've asked and given me a pretty god reason for why they need to know. Otherwise it's none of their business and I've got to wonder ...
by Duke
Sun Jul 03, 2011 3:32 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sobriety Time and Pain Killers
Replies: 15
Views: 4652

Re: Sobriety Time and Pain Killers

Interesting subject. I've heard debates on it a number of times. Obviously the admonition to "stick with the winners" should keep anyone from wasting too much time listening to people who are so obviously lying to themselves and those around them. I've never had any trouble figuring out the people w...