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by Duke
Sat Feb 11, 2017 3:41 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: New and scared
Replies: 7
Views: 3365

Re: New and scared

Hi LMDM. I felt unique, alone and doomed before I came to this program. That all changed for me at my first meeting as I listened to six people tell me their stories and how they felt exactly as I had. By the time they were done, I really wanted what they had. They told me all I had to do was embrac...
by Duke
Thu Jan 26, 2017 12:07 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: please help!!! mentioning God/HP in an amend?
Replies: 9
Views: 8180

Re: please help!!! mentioning God/HP in an amend?

Welcome Looking4answers. Thanks for sharing. As a sponsor, I would never take it upon myself to tell someone what to say or how to say it. If I did, it wouldn't really be their amend, would it? Your relationship with God is as you understand it is up to you. If bringing God up in your amend seems in...
by Duke
Mon Jan 23, 2017 1:58 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Happy Happy Happy
Replies: 12
Views: 10496

Re: Happy Happy Happy

Thanks for sharing Noels. Your enthusiasm is infectious.
by Duke
Mon Jan 23, 2017 4:24 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I'm scared I may be an alcoholic later in life.
Replies: 13
Views: 6247

Re: I'm scared I may be an alcoholic later in life.

It's sounds to me like you have a pretty unhealthy dependance on alcohol there, my friend. Only you can decide if you're an alcoholic, so I'd recommend you attend a few open meetings to see if the message resonates with you. I too, used alcohol to manage my mental and emotional state, and I also acc...
by Duke
Mon Jan 23, 2017 4:10 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 2 years clean!
Replies: 6
Views: 3208

Re: 2 years clean!

Congratulations. Thanks for sharing. It's a great thing.
by Duke
Sun Jan 22, 2017 4:48 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Deplorables
Replies: 43
Views: 32232

Re: Deplorables

When I encounter people like this, I pray for them, turn them over, and set a better example.

You can't control them. Don't let them control you.

Best of luck.
by Duke
Thu Jan 19, 2017 9:09 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Some AA Slogans I like and why
Replies: 15
Views: 7087

Re: Some AA Slogans I like and why

My experience is that most of the slogans have their use in the right time and place. My favorite is "do the next right thing" because it always reminds me I'm not in charge, I don't have to have all the answers, I just need to take the action of making sure what I do next is in accord with the prin...
by Duke
Mon Jan 16, 2017 4:28 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Figuring out if someone's an alcoholic
Replies: 15
Views: 5378

Re: Figuring out if someone's an alcoholic

Welcome. While it is perfectly understandable and acceptable for you to express your concern from a place of love, one thing I've learned beyond a shadow of a doubt is that other's drinking in none of my business. There's a couple of reasons for this. First, my opinion is often wrong and caused by f...
by Duke
Mon Jan 16, 2017 3:42 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: 3rd Step - How do you know you're doing God's will?
Replies: 25
Views: 23176

Re: 3rd Step - How do you know you're doing God's will?

Welcome Starkravingsober. I too thought, for a time, that God's will was some mysterious proposition that I would have to grow a new brain to hear and understand. I've come to believe that God's will means to continue to take action based on the principles of the program. In simple terms, take the l...
by Duke
Mon Jan 16, 2017 3:37 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: First AA meeting
Replies: 7
Views: 4244

Re: First AA meeting

Welcome Heather. My feeling of wearing a clown hat quickly disappeared at my first meeting as I was welcomed and people greeted me.

Our program is an answer to your dilemma. Don't put off checking it out. It'll be one of the best decisions you'll ever make.
by Duke
Sat Jan 14, 2017 10:16 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Airline gave me coffee with Baileys....
Replies: 23
Views: 9020

Re: Airline gave me coffee with Baileys....

At about 4 years, I was at a children's Christmas party and took a glass of the punch. Unfortunately, some wise azz adult had spiked it with Southern Comfort. At a kids party for goodness sake! Anyway, I had a sip and immediately realized it was spiked. It made me very nervous for a bit, but really ...
by Duke
Fri Jan 13, 2017 12:55 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: I am going to Live this year
Replies: 5
Views: 5532

Re: I am going to Live this year

A lot of travel to places I never thought I'd go thanks to my wife the planner.
by Duke
Fri Jan 13, 2017 12:49 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Replies: 64
Views: 44622

Re: FOOD FOR THOUGHT

Copied and saved. Thanks Noels.
by Duke
Wed Jan 11, 2017 3:13 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Low self esteem/alcoholism, the cycle
Replies: 16
Views: 7928

Re: Low self esteem/alcoholism, the cycle

Low self-esteem arising from a fear of abandonment/rejection was a common theme in my inventory of my defective emotional responses to life. Revealing them for what they are and committing to use the principles to deal with them going forward has been a critical part of me gaining some semblance of ...
by Duke
Tue Jan 10, 2017 1:58 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Denial is powerful & eating at me right now
Replies: 14
Views: 6175

Re: Denial is powerful & eating at me right now

I'm so glad you shared that essgee. Do you have any program literature or audio with you? It might help to read or listen to something program related or spiritual while you're attending the kids. I know I carried something with me just about everywhere for my down time during the first few years. T...