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by Duke
Mon Jun 12, 2017 12:02 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: New and in a bad place
Replies: 5
Views: 3417

Re: New and in a bad place

Welcome Rcws. You've described pretty much the same experience every alcoholic I've known has had when they try to drink again. Not only is it not better, it's often progressed. The good news is there is a solution. You just have to practice the solution every day. It sounds daunting, but it really ...
by Duke
Thu Jun 08, 2017 8:27 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Misconception of outside World
Replies: 69
Views: 37179

Re: Misconception of outside World

Well that's another problem, and it seems whatever is said about it, there are those who will strongly defend their apparent right, to use AA meetings as a support group for life’s little (or big) ups and downs. Defend? Not so much, but occasionally I will jump in on these comments about what "them...
by Duke
Thu Jun 08, 2017 4:38 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Misconception of outside World
Replies: 69
Views: 37179

Re: Misconception of outside World

It's a good point my friend. And, a reminder to me of how essential it is to working my twelfth step that I need to be the message by the way I live my life.
by Duke
Wed Jun 07, 2017 10:47 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Misconception of outside World
Replies: 69
Views: 37179

Re: Misconception of outside World

I rarely discuss the spiritual nature of the program with those not in it. The few times I've tried have resulted from the topic of spirituality in general coming up first. I do however, always share that the program is about living sober, not fighting alcohol. This has occasionally resulted in a mo...
by Duke
Sun Jun 04, 2017 6:25 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I DONT FIT IN
Replies: 14
Views: 6828

Re: I DONT FIT IN

Hi mari15. Great thoughts from Paige. Please use the link and make the call. There's a person out there willing to listen. I'm certain of that. I also can identify with your feelings. I can admit I considered the ultimate escape more than once. I felt like I had two heads or that I was from a differ...
by Duke
Wed May 31, 2017 9:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Hearing Gods Will
Replies: 66
Views: 37711

Re: Hearing Gods Will

You missed my meaning. If God ever called me on the phone, I would probably hang up! Means that If God ever Verbally/Directly communicated to me, I would still have a hard time believing it to be God. (not some telemarketer). Perhaps, being Alcoholic, Self Centered to Extreme, makes me over think e...
by Duke
Tue May 23, 2017 4:24 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: My A.A. Birthday
Replies: 13
Views: 8842

Re: My A.A. Birthday

Happy birthday Dan. Thanks for sharing it with us.
by Duke
Sat May 20, 2017 5:08 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Finally ready
Replies: 5
Views: 3152

Re: Finally ready

Welcome Helpwanted. Boy, can I ever identify with what you described so well about your drinking. I didn't want to, knew I shouldn't, but really couldn't see any way I could sleep, much less deal with all the cr@p in my life without a drink. The good news for me is that I gave up the struggle of try...
by Duke
Tue May 16, 2017 4:12 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 6
Replies: 21
Views: 21015

Re: Step 6

For me, the sixth step meant accepting that I had to be willing to turn over ALL my defective emotional responses to life, not just the ones that I immediately recognized as defective. In other words, I had to have no exceptions to the idea that every time I felt one of those negative emotional reac...
by Duke
Mon May 15, 2017 8:11 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Ambiguity.
Replies: 61
Views: 27859

Re: Ambiguity.

I was given a 24 hour book when I came in (this was before Daily Reflections was published). I read it every day for a while, but I never really liked it. It just didn't reach me. So, for several years, my daily reading was from the Big Book, 12x12, or other AA approved literature. As time went on, ...
by Duke
Mon May 15, 2017 7:41 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 9th step promises!
Replies: 8
Views: 8429

Re: 9th step promises!

I've heard the expression "surprised by joy". I like it because it accurately describes just about every real change I've experienced in my life. I've said before that the desire to drink was removed from me after my first meeting, but I didn't really think about it or realize it until weeks late wh...
by Duke
Sun Apr 30, 2017 9:06 am
Forum: The 12 Traditions of AA
Topic: Alano Clubs - Breaking Tradition?
Replies: 54
Views: 34745

Re: Alano Clubs - Breaking Tradition?

For anyone interested, Bill Wilson wrote about the role of clubs in a Grapevine article titled: "Clubs in AA April 1947" I'm sure you can search the title with his name and find the whole thing, but in it he wrote: "This tangle slowly commenced to unravel, as we began to get the idea that clubs ough...
by Duke
Wed Apr 26, 2017 2:44 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How do I learn to rely on a higher power?
Replies: 15
Views: 8435

Re: How do I learn to rely on a higher power?

Do you get frustrated when people, places and things refuse to align with what you think should happen? Is that one of the reasons you sought release in the bottle? That's how it was for me. Since I could no longer seek relief in the bottle, it was essential that I find a concept of something greate...
by Duke
Wed Apr 26, 2017 2:30 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Am I an alcoholic
Replies: 13
Views: 10671

Re: Am I an alcoholic

I don't know. I suggest you attend some open meetings, listen to some stories and see if you identify. You'll figure it out. Good luck to you.
by Duke
Wed Apr 26, 2017 2:27 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Walked out of two meetings this week
Replies: 64
Views: 34420

Re: Walked out of two meetings this week

Congratulations michmjon. Since this is an AA forum and you have no need for it, farewell. I wish you well.