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by desypete
Wed Mar 04, 2015 7:20 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Support advice please
Replies: 13
Views: 16232

Re: Support advice please

i wouldnt go to rehab when i had the money to go that is, instead i kept on trying to give it up and make sure i saved my business, my wife and kids and the home i failed every time as i would promise the world to people once i had woke up from the night before drinking where i would turn into a mon...
by desypete
Wed Mar 04, 2015 11:42 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Urgent Issue!!!
Replies: 13
Views: 4364

Re: Urgent Issue!!!

tom had beaten me to it as my first thought was what does the op expect to happen ? gso will do nothing as there powerless over aa groups or aa memebers the only powers gso has or an inter group has is to withdraw the aa group from any listing in the were to find etc every memeber of aa can do as he...
by desypete
Mon Mar 02, 2015 8:00 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Problems - 83 or 84 of them?
Replies: 9
Views: 2985

Re: Problems - 83 or 84 of them?

i have only 2 problems in my life

the problem i can do something about and the problem i can do nothing about its in knowing the difference that makes it easier
by desypete
Mon Mar 02, 2015 6:37 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: hi and help
Replies: 15
Views: 6142

Re: hi and help

i was first in aa when i was just 23 and it helped me big time, my problem with drinking back then was i was a weekend bender drinker, i would get plastered and do things i would wake up the next morning with full of shame and guilt and wishing i never got so drunk time and time again i would never ...
by desypete
Mon Mar 02, 2015 5:21 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: STEP 10
Replies: 11
Views: 5506

Re: STEP 10

i had to start off each night looking over my day and writing things down ie how i felt, who upset me, how i reacted etc then i would leave what i had written and come back to it a few mins later and re read it and then have to think hard about if i could of done anything different etc it took a lon...
by desypete
Sun Mar 01, 2015 5:25 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Playing God -- drawing the line?
Replies: 17
Views: 9371

Re: Playing God -- drawing the line?

i was so lucky to have aa memeber that carried me in early days as i had nothing but a place to sleep, no money no family, kids in foster care no driving license etc i was on the seat of my back side the place i had to sleep in was a flat that was given to me by a homeless type of organization in a ...
by desypete
Sun Mar 01, 2015 4:19 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: AA and other drugs
Replies: 69
Views: 43658

Re: AA and other drugs

i have seen all sorts of things in aa and how obbessed people get over things me included at times but not as much these days if you want to see how sober someone really is follow them home is what i have always been told, i never liked that saying as it meant people could see right through me and m...
by desypete
Sun Mar 01, 2015 7:28 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 3
Replies: 22
Views: 18408

Re: Step 3

i had all sorts of problems trying to find this god thing when it came to the steps. i went to all sorts of religious organizations, bible study,having Jehovah's Witnesses at my home, mormons, all trying to help me find this god everyone else in the meetings seemed to have this god thing and were te...
by desypete
Sat Feb 28, 2015 6:26 am
Forum: Service
Topic: The future of our fellowship
Replies: 54
Views: 57718

Re: The future of our fellowship

hi avaneesh912 i would urge anyone who wants to get involved with prison work to give it a try, i can promise them that once they have tried a prison meeting they will go home after it and give there wives and kids a really special hug as they will be grateful its not them, i know for me it was so g...
by desypete
Fri Feb 27, 2015 6:28 am
Forum: Service
Topic: The future of our fellowship
Replies: 54
Views: 57718

Re: The future of our fellowship

hi Niagara you highlight just what i was up against within aa at the intergroup, namely that those memebers had never been to prison and it was a yet for them also they were mostly lucky to have not been arrested for there drunken things they might have done so its so its impossible for them to beli...
by desypete
Wed Feb 25, 2015 5:06 am
Forum: Service
Topic: The future of our fellowship
Replies: 54
Views: 57718

Re: The future of our fellowship

i wonder how many drunks got sent to aa from the courts and ended up staying ? i used to run aa prison meetings in my area as part of my service work in our area inter group, i had been to prison so had experience of what its like to wake up the next day in big big trouble after drinking, those who ...
by desypete
Wed Feb 18, 2015 10:57 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: AA and other drugs
Replies: 69
Views: 43658

Re: AA and other drugs

Gross presumptions, Brock. No desire for debate, tho, so I'll just forget AA & NA. I have no major problems that would cause me to violate my personal obsession never to drink or take pills again. Don't crave. No desire for opiates, speed or booze <at all>. SO happy to be done with that crap!!! Goo...
by desypete
Wed Feb 18, 2015 3:26 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Underlined 3rd and 11th step
Replies: 31
Views: 12456

Re: Underlined 3rd and 11th step

thanks Lali no your not saying anything offensive, its been hard around the meetings for me but its also been hard for others who know me and love me as they can not do anything to help me or remove my pain etc more so my sponsor i feel sorry for him as i certainly wouldnt like to be the one having ...
by desypete
Wed Feb 18, 2015 12:47 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Underlined 3rd and 11th step
Replies: 31
Views: 12456

Re: Underlined 3rd and 11th step

that has to be the most honest answer there is at times and its a simple one that tosh hit on, i dont know as for starting up a meeting for like minded people i gave it some real thought, i got in touch with aa agnostica and made a contact in the derby area who had a meeting up and running so i went...
by desypete
Tue Feb 17, 2015 10:51 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hello
Replies: 18
Views: 5122

Re: Hello

hi i can only tell you how i gave up drinking i am not an expert on anyone elses drinking just my own. and my own recovery is my own and not others and i have to remember that other wise i can run off with my mouth thinking i know it all and believe i dont lol when i woke up that first morning wishi...