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by desypete
Mon Mar 23, 2015 8:15 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: important question
Replies: 63
Views: 13866

important question

hi all i dont know if its me or maybe i dont understand things on this site maybe someone can explain ? i dont mean to be rude but in aa we have big book thumpers around the rooms and very often they have there own meetings in areas but tend to not be mixed in well with other aa meetings etc have i ...
by desypete
Mon Mar 23, 2015 7:57 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Relapse...again!
Replies: 44
Views: 9559

Re: Relapse...again!

hmm normally i would react to this sort of mind bending. but is it going to change anything if i do ? So what i shared is mind bending? Why don't you share your experience, strength and hope and leave it there? If you notice my posts, I don't usually get into philosophical debates. I usually respon...
by desypete
Mon Mar 23, 2015 6:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Addiction versus medical condition
Replies: 7
Views: 2018

Re: Addiction versus medical condition

i have heard all sorts of things in aa rooms from different people in aa some people i identify with and some people i dont when it comes to drinking and patterns etc, as my problem with drinking was always the same, i would take a drink and end up getting drunk, when i never intended to get drunk, ...
by desypete
Mon Mar 23, 2015 6:26 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Relapse...again!
Replies: 44
Views: 9559

Re: Relapse...again!

we'll number one mistake....not attending meetings and letting my ego in the decision chair. Just by going to meetings we don't get to side step our ego. Thats modern day message propogated in the fellowship. You overcome the obsession/insanity by working the 12 steps. Then you get to experience th...
by desypete
Mon Mar 23, 2015 1:58 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Relapse...again!
Replies: 44
Views: 9559

Re: Relapse...again!

thanks for your post andy you say it yourself, you cut out aa and end up walking around bar districts instead if i stop doing the things in my life that have kept me sober then i will end up in time going backwards not forwards in my thinking, i have no doubt that should i do that, then in time i wo...
by desypete
Sun Mar 22, 2015 2:07 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: looking for advice
Replies: 14
Views: 13114

Re: looking for advice

hi rexmanning28 thanks for your honesty in your post, i was exactly like you when i first came to aa and i was 23, my drinking was just binge drinking at weekends, i could stop drinking all week just at the weekends i would end up getting so drunk and then end up doing all sorts of hurtful things to...
by desypete
Sat Mar 21, 2015 5:16 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hello I'm new and have couple of questions
Replies: 30
Views: 8406

Re: Hello I'm new and have couple of questions

The steps ARE the program. This is why we have BB studies. I would sooner have died an alcoholic death than 'come to believe' anything when I first arrived in AA. Really? Are you sure about that? My friend who died an alcoholic death just last August at the age of 47 probably would disagree with th...
by desypete
Fri Mar 20, 2015 4:02 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hello I'm new and have couple of questions
Replies: 30
Views: 8406

Re: Hello I'm new and have couple of questions

hi seto i understand totally what losing a child can do to anyone as it the most heart breaking thing i have ever expereinced in my life, and how it leaves you empty were nothing can fill that hole, time helps a little but it never helps at xmas time or birthdays or even days when you sit around wit...
by desypete
Fri Mar 20, 2015 2:05 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hello I'm new and have couple of questions
Replies: 30
Views: 8406

Re: Hello I'm new and have couple of questions

i am a bit different to some of the aa memebers as i will not tell you to read a book only because the book played no part in me getting sober in the first place The whole program of AA is based on the text of the big book. All the information you need for the steps is in the big book. The steps ar...
by desypete
Fri Mar 20, 2015 1:56 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Feeling Lost In Recovery
Replies: 29
Views: 7189

Re: Feeling Lost In Recovery

Hello drdexter33, it sounded like it’s might be time to stop going to meetings for you can get out of the them and start seeing what you can bringing to a meeting. Can you clarify your message? I'm interested but it is unclear to me what you are saying. :| Thx. Lali, I think what Roberth was gettin...
by desypete
Fri Mar 20, 2015 5:20 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hello I'm new and have couple of questions
Replies: 30
Views: 8406

Re: Hello I'm new and have couple of questions

hi and welcome i am a bit different to some of the aa memebers as i will not tell you to read a book only because the book played no part in me getting sober in the first place for me i had to take myself to the rooms of aa and more importantly hear from other alcoholics about how they were with dri...
by desypete
Mon Mar 16, 2015 2:58 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sloth out of control
Replies: 15
Views: 16455

Re: Sloth out of control

hi can i ask what sort of routine do you have in your day ? do you do any sort of outside activities or excerizes ? when i was first learning how to get sober and stay sober i had to first of all learn how to get some sort of routine in my life. which helped me big time to get my mind moving when my...
by desypete
Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:41 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Feeling Lost In Recovery
Replies: 29
Views: 7189

Re: Feeling Lost In Recovery

it often bothered me why people didnt love aa the way i love aa ? they seem to only want to go to maybe 1 or 2 meetings a week, and they say its the real life outside of aa that keeps them away or they get fed up and bored of hearing the same people say the same things some people you know exactly w...
by desypete
Sun Mar 15, 2015 2:47 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Feeling Lost In Recovery
Replies: 29
Views: 7189

Re: Feeling Lost In Recovery

it is quite common people drift away from aa and that feeling of being on the outside looking in at aa is how a lot of members have felt. the answer i found was to get stuck into service work although i never wanted to do any service work at all like inever wanted to do anything at all really that w...
by desypete
Fri Mar 13, 2015 1:04 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hello everyone, my name is Charles, and I am an alcoholic.
Replies: 24
Views: 7861

Re: Hello everyone, my name is Charles, and I am an alcoholi

i think charles if you read the posts in this thread you will see this is just what aa is really like other members just sharing there own experience with you and hopefully something will ring a bell for you, we all have different experiences and come into aa at different levels the part in your pos...