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by desypete
Sat Nov 11, 2017 8:26 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The First One!
Replies: 70
Views: 18450

Re: The First One!

i would see an aa memeber who has been sober for 50 years one day a time which is amazing in its own right as how the hell do people get to be sober for that length of time and still be around the fellowship trying to help other new comers to do the same Like you said, people come into the fellowsh...
by desypete
Sat Nov 11, 2017 8:07 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The state of the mind of the alcoholic without power!
Replies: 9
Views: 4572

Re: The state of the mind of the alcoholic without power!

But what about the real alcoholic? He may start off as a moderate drinker; he may or may not become a continuous hard drinker; but at some stage of his drinking career he begins to lose all control of his liquor consumption, once he starts to drink. Here is a fellow who has been puzzling you, especi...
by desypete
Thu Nov 09, 2017 9:37 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The First One!
Replies: 70
Views: 18450

Re: The First One!

I believe it matters a great deal. Why else would they use so many of the 164 pages, in which they have to give us the message, with stories to demonstrate what happens to those who decide not to do the work, and just stay away from the first one instead. And mention over and over the powerlessness...
by desypete
Thu Nov 09, 2017 9:18 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The First One!
Replies: 70
Views: 18450

Re: The First One!

Postby desypete » Thu Nov 09, 2017 8:27 pm i think the problem is with your obsession about the mental twist stage Didnt you relapse after few years in fellowship? What happened to the "if you dont drink the first one you wont get drink". I didnt you follow what you say here? i managed to go 15 yea...
by desypete
Thu Nov 09, 2017 8:43 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Is this ok?
Replies: 7
Views: 4486

Re: Is this ok?

of course you can thank them for any help they have been to you i have thanked lots of people who helped me out so much over the years in aa but all they ever say to me is pass it on can i ask why are you concerned there of the opposite sex ? why would that be a problem for you to simply say thanks ?
by desypete
Thu Nov 09, 2017 8:27 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The First One!
Replies: 70
Views: 18450

Re: The First One!

i think the problem is with your obsession about the mental twist stage the problem here is that we all come into aa at different stages of progression, many come to aa now who still have a lot left to lose as the rock bottom has now been raised which is a good thing in that people dont have suffer ...
by desypete
Thu Nov 09, 2017 3:00 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The First One!
Replies: 70
Views: 18450

Re: The First One!

Sure perhaps like Jeff the accountant. Not a cloud on the horizon. There are people here and in the meetings who keep parroting the slogan, if you dont take the first one you wont get drunk. But we alcoholics, without the power, will get blind sighted and take that first drink. We may not go into i...
by desypete
Thu Nov 09, 2017 2:16 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How do you personally cope with the Holiday Blues?
Replies: 14
Views: 4876

Re: How do you personally cope with the Holiday Blues?

it used to be a nightmare for me and my kids as xmas once we lost tony my son its no fun at all on xmas day and all you can do is try to accept he isnt there anymore its certainly no fun going to the cemetery on xmas day to visit the most precious thing in your life all i know is that 5 years have p...
by desypete
Mon Nov 06, 2017 1:22 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Changing perception
Replies: 5
Views: 1808

Re: Changing perception

nice post they say the hardest part of this new way of living is practising it at home with our loved ones took me a long time to really start to do things for others in my home where is matters most in aa i would always be the first one ready to show myself off as a good soul but not so keen when i...
by desypete
Mon Nov 06, 2017 1:14 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Steps 2 and 3
Replies: 39
Views: 19541

Re: Steps 2 and 3

Hi All STEPS 2 and 3 Step 2 Came to believe that a power greater than myself, could restore us to sanity. I had a hard time believing in God, even though this step, doesn't say God or religion, that's how I reacted to it. I was brought up in a devote catholic family, I had to go to church on Sunday...
by desypete
Mon Nov 06, 2017 1:02 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 3 months out of prison
Replies: 7
Views: 2172

Re: 3 months out of prison

hi taylor i to have had to end up in prison and try to sort my life out i can remember all those letters i wrote for my loved ones back home to my kids i promised them there dad would be back a sober man again when i get out to my ex wife i promised her that i would love her and treat her better i w...
by desypete
Mon Nov 06, 2017 12:33 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Feeling like crap
Replies: 28
Views: 16647

Re: Feeling like crap

the very first message i heard in aa was to keep coming back it applies to old timers just as much as new comers there will be times on the road that people get fed up with aa for whatever reason i have been around 12 years and in that time i have seen so many people come and get well and then after...
by desypete
Sun Nov 05, 2017 6:16 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Romantic relationships
Replies: 14
Views: 5392

Re: Romantic relationships

i was told by memebers that i go to aa to well not to get laid there a hard nosed bunch but there so right they told me before i even bother about trying to hold a relationship, it would be a good idea if i first learned how to care for a plant, if the plant lives for a year then i might move on to...
by desypete
Sat Nov 04, 2017 4:21 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship questions and worries
Replies: 14
Views: 16447

Re: Sponsorship questions and worries

plenty of wise word said in this thread just to put in my 2 cents worth i did my step 5 with a monk i was around aa in my early 20s and left after 3 years when i came back again in my 40s i wanted my original sponsor to be my sponsor again but the problem was he had left aa and was off doing other t...