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by Lali
Sun Jan 08, 2017 9:25 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: New to AA - family still active
Replies: 6
Views: 3527

Re: New to AA - family still active

Congrats on 10 days!
by Lali
Sat Jan 07, 2017 5:16 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: New Person Comes in Drunk
Replies: 28
Views: 18017

Re: New Person Comes in Drunk

I'm wondering, michmjon, was the guy that booted the other guy out new? Maybe he didn't know any better. But then he should have asked the opinion of someone who was not new. Was anyone else in the room aware of what happened. Someone should have taken the guy outside or into another room and talked...
by Lali
Sat Jan 07, 2017 3:47 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Still sobering up
Replies: 16
Views: 8158

Re: Still sobering up

Nubshock wrote:I need to attend meetings in person (I think)
Welcome, Nubshock! You say you have attended one meeting before so then you know how to find meetings in your area? Let us know if you need help.
by Lali
Fri Jan 06, 2017 9:56 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The Alano Club Phone
Replies: 6
Views: 4875

Re: The Alano Club Phone

At the end of each meeting in our group, the chairperson says, "Remember that I can say I was here, but I cannot say you were here" or something like that. Just wondering, how would one know that it's really the guy's PO calling? It could be his wife or a friend checking up on him. I'm sure that hap...
by Lali
Wed Jan 04, 2017 8:52 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: D.U.I.
Replies: 18
Views: 15914

Re: D.U.I.

Tosh wrote:I was - with the odd exception - quite a boring drunk, really. :lol:
Aaaaw, don't be so hard on yourself, Tosh. Aren't you one and the same guy who once "came to" in another country!!!
by Lali
Wed Jan 04, 2017 7:46 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Bad confrontation
Replies: 17
Views: 5803

Re: Bad confrontation

The way you have been treated is totally unacceptable!! That said, they are right about the importance of the steps. Those who don't do the steps and then live by those principals are doomed to either a life of white knuckling (dry drunk) or repeated relapses. With time and careful observation of pe...
by Lali
Sun Jan 01, 2017 1:12 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Losing hope
Replies: 8
Views: 4530

Re: Losing hope

Now I truly want to stop, I'm miserable without my wife and I'm afraid I will lose my life from either a cocaine overdose and some alcohol related complication. It happens. Just this last year, we lost several in this town due to liver failure and one just died as the result of a cocaine overdose. ...
by Lali
Mon Dec 26, 2016 1:10 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: relapsed this xmas because a major step 9 error...
Replies: 11
Views: 4492

Re: relapsed this xmas because a major step 9 error...

I'm not saying that your lack of making amends led you to drink, but may I ask: Why haven't you made amends to your brother? This is obviously bothering you and it's an easy fix. Are you afraid he won't accept your amends? My sister was not immediately thrilled by my amends, but she eventually came ...
by Lali
Fri Dec 23, 2016 1:12 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Please advise, friends on a lady I'm temporarily assisting
Replies: 16
Views: 9482

Re: Please advise, friends on a lady I'm temporarily assisti

I agree, Ian. In the thread, "Faith, a belief outside of me" that is exactly what I was saying about sobriety and well-being, being an inside job. Without willingness and open mindedness, a person won't get well no matter how hard we work to try to help them.
by Lali
Fri Dec 23, 2016 1:05 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Faith a belief outside of me
Replies: 16
Views: 6817

Re: Faith a belief outside of me

IMO sobriety and well-being ARE an inside job. A person can knock themselves out trying to help another, but if that person is not open minded and willing to change, it's not gonna happen. But that's just how I see it...
by Lali
Sun Dec 18, 2016 4:10 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Life is precious
Replies: 10
Views: 9628

Re: Life is precious

I'm so sorry Paige. I know how painful it can be saying goodbye to a pet! (I have had to put two cats down (both with cancer). The second cat's vet said he would have to operate to find out what kind of cancer it was and that there was no guarantee that it would be treatable. I opted to put him to s...
by Lali
Sat Dec 17, 2016 7:09 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resentment
Replies: 20
Views: 9651

Re: Resentment

The passage posted by avaneesh is the one from the Big Book that I quote the most. That the book says resentment destroys alcoholics more than anything else has always stood out for me. I have highlighted, underlined, starred and tabbed this part of the Big Book! The Book goes on to tell us how to h...
by Lali
Sat Dec 17, 2016 3:17 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Life is precious
Replies: 10
Views: 9628

Re: Life is precious

Hi, Noels. I sure hope all this hasn't put too much of a damper on your vacation. How's it going with the other family members' drinking habits? Stay safe.
by Lali
Sat Dec 17, 2016 6:53 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Here I am Again
Replies: 40
Views: 24237

Re: Here I am Again

I'm so glad that you are doing well. Thanks for letting us know!
by Lali
Mon Dec 12, 2016 8:21 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: repeating 12 steps
Replies: 13
Views: 12229

Re: repeating 12 steps

Most people work thru the steps with a sponsor who has worked through the steps. I would not recommend rushing, but nor would I dilly dally. I wouldn't stay stuck on any one step more than a week or so, with the exception of step 4 which requires a lot of reflection. But that's just what worked for ...