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by Layne
Thu Mar 07, 2019 9:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Removing defects of character?
Replies: 17
Views: 3163

Re: Removing defects of character?

Who is to say that the defects of character are not removed... but because we are imperfect creatures,... we decide to indulge in behavior that once again gives birth to the same defects that were previously removed.
by Layne
Mon Feb 18, 2019 10:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Step 3 & handing over my problems
Replies: 8
Views: 1759

Re: Step 3 & handing over my problems

I find worry to be counterproductive and a stumbling block to my recovery. Worry will probably always pop it's ugly head up on my path, but I can do something about the degree and length of time that I engage with worry when it does present itself. Faith, trust, and the serenity prayer help guide me...
by Layne
Wed Jan 16, 2019 10:13 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Keeping Faith!
Replies: 16
Views: 3360

Re: Keeping Faith!

I feel that my prayers are answered. Sometimes I am so busy waiting for the answer that I want, I don't realize the actual answer that came my way.
by Layne
Wed Jan 16, 2019 9:57 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Trusting a Sponsor
Replies: 16
Views: 3361

Re: Trusting a Sponsor

If I couldn't trust my sponsor, perhaps I should look for a new sponsor. Also at the same time I should investigate my lack of trust, perhaps it stems from me. Is it coming from my self will and my desire to control the universe to my liking, to my way of doing things? When i was going through the s...
by Layne
Wed Dec 12, 2018 1:04 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Is Introversion a Character defect?
Replies: 18
Views: 4058

Re: Is Introversion a Character defect?

I am not anti-social, but I will never be confused with being a social butterfly either. Before working the twelve steps, I was not comfortable in my own skin and so I wasn't comfortable around other people either. It is no wonder that I drank. In sobriety, I finally became comfortable in my own ski...
by Layne
Tue Nov 27, 2018 10:28 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance & Expectations
Replies: 69
Views: 11863

Re: Acceptance & Expectations

For me acceptance doesn't equate to shrugging my shoulders and being a doormat, it means being able to acknowledge a situation without personal judgements. Once I do that, I can put my personal assessments into the equation and figure out how it is affecting me and what the effects are. Then I can f...
by Layne
Thu Nov 22, 2018 11:39 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: re life :(((
Replies: 4
Views: 1491

Re: re life :(((

Hi henry9x9, I am glad that you are here, welcome! I am not about to diagnose anyone else as I have enough on my hands with diagnosing myself. :~) I had a problem with my thinking processes in addressing life in general which lead me to using alcohol as the solution. Initially I thought that drinkin...
by Layne
Sat Nov 17, 2018 10:31 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: How to do aa without god?
Replies: 8
Views: 1905

Re: How to do aa without god?

isn't believing in a higber power just another way of sayi v that you believe in a deity? Depends upon the beliefs of the person saying it. For me the answer is no. As to speaking at meetings, no one speaks for AA , they speak for their personal take on AA. Their take on the AA may not dovetail wit...
by Layne
Sat Nov 10, 2018 12:09 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: So our troubles, are basically of our own making pg 62
Replies: 13
Views: 2442

Re: So our troubles, are basically of our own making pg 62

An old Chinese farmer had a mare that broke through the fence and ran away. When his neighbors learned of it, they came to the farmer and said, "What bad luck this is. You don't have a horse during planting season." The farmer listened and then replied, "Bad luck, good luck. Who knows?" A few days l...
by Layne
Mon Nov 05, 2018 8:33 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Me against me 2.0
Replies: 6
Views: 1877

Re: Me against me 2.0

How do I overcome the fear of missing out on the “good times”?
The way I did it was by missing out on the "good times" for a while. When I did that I discovered, that like most of my fears when confronted head on, it proved to be a totally baseless fear without substance.
by Layne
Mon Oct 29, 2018 4:25 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance & Expectations
Replies: 69
Views: 11863

Re: Acceptance & Expectations

I find a great classroom for exploring expectations and acceptance to be motorcycle riding. I expect that guy at the stop sign and turning left surely sees me coming... not . If anyone decides to take the motorcycle riding class on expectations and acceptance, I hope it turns out to be an extended c...
by Layne
Sat Oct 20, 2018 9:19 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance & Expectations
Replies: 69
Views: 11863

Re: Acceptance & Expectations

I accept that as part of my human experience, I will never be 100% expectation free. I accept that expectations can lead to me becoming disgruntled when things don't turn out as I expected. Minimizing the amount of my expectations, minimizes the amount of chances I will encounter the possibility of ...
by Layne
Fri Oct 12, 2018 9:09 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I want to live. Where do I start?
Replies: 6
Views: 1684

Re: I want to live. Where do I start?

I just can’t not drink. THIS was me. I want to just end the pain sometimes but I want to live. THIS was me. I love my wife and son but have hurt them financially and mentally more than I want to even imagine. THIS was me. Can you really even recover? YES! YES! YES! I learned how it is possible by a...
by Layne
Thu Oct 11, 2018 12:46 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance & Expectations
Replies: 69
Views: 11863

Re: Acceptance & Expectations

That is a very good distinction "acceptance is not to be confused with liking or disliking". If that is the case then you are saying that you accept everything in the universe exactly as it exists. If that is the solution, then it eliminates any possible indecision regarding acceptance as there is ...
by Layne
Thu Oct 11, 2018 9:01 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance & Expectations
Replies: 69
Views: 11863

Re: Acceptance & Expectations

I personally pray to a God that I have no understanding of.
I can relate. I operate more on faith than on understanding. The day I f fully understand my higher power, is the day I need to reevaluate my higher power because my higher power has been dumbed down.