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by Layne
Tue Dec 31, 2019 5:40 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Just starting
Replies: 23
Views: 1827

Re: Just starting

my drinking has negatively impacted my grades and my relationship with my family (I am a college student) so I have sought help Goodatcha Eran!!! Recognizing a problem and taking steps to rectify it are a great step in a positive direction. Welcome and I am glad that you are here. I look forward to...
by Layne
Tue Dec 31, 2019 9:48 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Second Time Around
Replies: 10
Views: 909

Re: Second Time Around

I am grateful for another shot at this This doesn't have to be another shot, it can be THE shot. Immerse yourself in the twelve steps with honesty and work them to the best of your abilities. Amazing things will happen! At any rate that has been my experience. I took a lot of shots at sobriety befo...
by Layne
Sun Dec 22, 2019 10:25 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 48 days and it’s getting better
Replies: 4
Views: 608

Re: 48 days and it’s getting better

That is fantastic! Remember this feeling as you through this day and the next and so on. It truly does get better and the promises will come to fruition. Recovery is all of that and a bag of chips! :~)
by Layne
Fri Dec 20, 2019 2:05 pm
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Addicted to addiction
Replies: 5
Views: 739

Re: Addicted to addiction

Anything i do i go all in, it usually bites me in the ass, Oh how I know that mindset That is me in a nutshell. Use it to your advantage. Go all in for sobriety and recovery. It won't bite you in the ass. On the contrary amazing things will happen. I second avaneesh912's advice. The twelve steps of...
by Layne
Wed Dec 18, 2019 11:51 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: How to do aa without god?
Replies: 28
Views: 5508

Re: How to do aa without god?

Sorry if my phrasing was less than ideal Ditto from me, I was trying to express that for me meetings are about more than making connections. They are only about connections, if I so decide that is what they are about. Over the years my views on meetings have expanded my scope of value obtained from...
by Layne
Wed Dec 18, 2019 9:37 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: How to do aa without god?
Replies: 28
Views: 5508

Re: How to do aa without god?

the question is whether there is a potential for change in character and life that is nontheistic In the experience of this nontheist, the answer is a resounding yes. I also belief that the entirety of the AA program (meetings, fellowship, the 12 steps) all played a huge part in me discovering he p...
by Layne
Tue Dec 17, 2019 9:18 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: How to do aa without god?
Replies: 28
Views: 5508

Re: How to do aa without god?

I am still not sure (even after 16 years) whether I fit in the theist, deist, atheist, agnostic, or whatever camp, plus my beliefs are changing and evolving over the years, as am I. I like attending general meetings which have people from different camps attending, as it increases my exposure to var...
by Layne
Mon Dec 16, 2019 10:28 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Struggling with step 9
Replies: 19
Views: 2247

Re: Struggling with step 9

This is a difficult reply for me because part of me wants to say that you should trust your gut as it is pointing you in the right direction and another part of me is saying don't even begin to think Layne, that you have the right or knowledge to tell someone else what is best for them. Stick to fig...
by Layne
Fri Dec 13, 2019 9:42 am
Forum: Young People in AA (YPAA)
Topic: Do I need help?
Replies: 5
Views: 2863

Re: Do I need help?

Hi Cherri. Welcome. In my early twenties I began to consider the possibility that I might have a problem. But I too was highly functioning. I was in architecture school, pulling high grades, paying my bills, not getting into trouble, but I did drink almost every day and got drunk probably five times...
by Layne
Thu Dec 12, 2019 3:18 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 48
Views: 4975

Re: New Slogans

Because slogans are sound bites, there exists a huge paradoxical nature between them.
" Avoid making any major life changes in the first year of recovery."
"The only thing you need to change is EVERYTHING."
by Layne
Thu Dec 05, 2019 8:47 pm
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: is it enabling to pay sober living house rent for a relative
Replies: 6
Views: 1338

Re: is it enabling to pay sober living house rent for a relative

Good faith loans can definitely be breeding grounds for resentments. I always approach loans from a strict business perspective. Written contract and clearly expressed commitment on my part to follow through with proper channels if repayment becomes an issue. Doing this minimizes the potential for r...
by Layne
Thu Dec 05, 2019 8:16 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: is it enabling to pay sober living house rent for a relative
Replies: 6
Views: 1338

Re: is it enabling to pay sober living house rent for a relative

The way the relative spends his money is up to him. The way you spend your money is up to you. I would pay the rent to be supportive of the recovery efforts but only after discussing a mutually agreeable repayment plan and schedule and having a contract signed. The relative's reaction might be to ge...
by Layne
Mon Dec 02, 2019 4:05 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Any advice on getting a sponsor
Replies: 11
Views: 1394

Re: Any advice on getting a sponsor

At this point in my recovery, I don't have a sponsor but I still do look for role models/mentors/etc. I find it more productive to look for people who have sobriety and character traits that I respect and wish to emulate as I continue on my recovery journey. Looking at the other end of the spectrum ...
by Layne
Fri Nov 29, 2019 10:01 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: DO NOT READ THIS POST IF YOU DON'T LIKE READING ABOUT CRITICISM OF AA!
Replies: 23
Views: 2845

Re: DO NOT READ THIS POST IF YOU DON'T LIKE READING ABOUT CRITICISM OF AA!

All I know is that AA is the only thing that opened the door of recovery for me. Because of that, that is what I share. I don't believe that AA is the only way, but I know what it has done for me. To naysayers, I just relate my experience and let them do what they want with the information.
by Layne
Thu Nov 28, 2019 11:29 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need motivation
Replies: 3
Views: 658

Re: Need motivation

I can relate to every single sentence. What you typed was me before recovery. Since working the twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, I have found what I was looking for long before I picked up my first drink at 18 years of age. I am comfortable in my own skin. Good with being me. Recovery has fulfi...