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by catcar
Wed Feb 11, 2015 9:34 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: at a loss
Replies: 13
Views: 3523

Re: at a loss

Im not quite sure what to say other than im an alcoholic. I cant seem to catch a break with it. I end up feeling sadness and regret all the time afterwards. And nine times out of ten i cant believe the things ive done the night before. Im so tired of feeling this way :( Sounds like you are sick and...
by catcar
Wed Feb 11, 2015 9:30 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: What should be the first Step? For Real
Replies: 11
Views: 2758

Re: What should be the first Step? For Real

Thanks for your support and message…I think I have to go to an in person meeting but you shared invaluable advice, Sir! I love these boards but the in person meetings were so important to me (still are). It was really hard for me to get to meetings but very helpful when I found ones I liked. Gettin...
by catcar
Mon Feb 09, 2015 8:03 pm
Forum: Service
Topic: Two New Moderators
Replies: 12
Views: 7134

Re: Two New Moderators

Thank you!
by catcar
Mon Feb 09, 2015 7:50 pm
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Jessica, alcoholic
Replies: 11
Views: 10133

Re: Jessica, alcoholic

Welcome Jessica!
by catcar
Sat Feb 07, 2015 11:36 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: confusion
Replies: 22
Views: 16072

Re: confusion

I found meetings where people only talked about their drinking and I never went back. I also found meetings where people focussed on recovery, gratitude, and living their best life. The second ones I kept going back to. Keep looking for better meetings that speak to you the way you want to be spoken...
by catcar
Sat Feb 07, 2015 6:37 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: How often do you speak to/interact with your sponsor
Replies: 32
Views: 24524

Re: How often do you speak to/interact with your sponsor

Guess I need to figure a way to get out of my own head and not reach out to my sponsor so much.....? I don't think this is what anyone was saying. Needing to speak to a sponsor has a LOT to do with where one is in their step work. Not having completed step 4, I would expect for you to be in regular...
by catcar
Fri Feb 06, 2015 9:16 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: confusion
Replies: 22
Views: 16072

Re: confusion

Don't let yourself get to a place where you experience the "yets". All you need is to want to stop drinking.
by catcar
Fri Feb 06, 2015 9:07 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: starting 4th step
Replies: 21
Views: 15078

Re: starting 4th step

Why don't you ask your sponsor how to do your 4th step? That's what they are for. I have worksheets from my sponsor. We work together very well except for the fact that I am ADD and that makes it hard for me with this structure when it comes to writing things down. She is a great resource but I app...
by catcar
Fri Feb 06, 2015 8:57 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: FB Connections
Replies: 33
Views: 8197

Re: FB Connections

I'm sorry for your troubles! but awesome that you have gotten back to your step 4! Thank you. AA helped me get through a rough patch but I am feeling uneasy being in a holding period and I am excited to get on with my steps now. I know that it is going to help me even though it will be challenging
by catcar
Fri Feb 06, 2015 7:11 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Almost everyone around me thinks I have alcohol problems
Replies: 13
Views: 4455

Re: Almost everyone around me thinks I have alcohol problems

Admitting that my life was unmanagable and accepting that alcohol was a factor in that was a gift to me. Admitting that meant I was an alcoholic sounded scary to me at first but it has been the greatest gift ever because the program is helping me in so many ways. I still have a LOT to learn but the ...
by catcar
Fri Feb 06, 2015 7:05 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: FB Connections
Replies: 33
Views: 8197

Re: FB Connections

Catcar, I noticed that you have been stuck on step 4 for about 6 weeks now. It really shouldn't take that long. Some members arrange a date for sharing their 4th to sort of give themselves a push. You have read about step 4 in the big book haven't you? I am setting a date with my sponsor so I am fo...
by catcar
Fri Feb 06, 2015 6:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: FB Connections
Replies: 33
Views: 8197

Re: FB Connections

I am a bit stuck with my step work. I am fighting with finishing 4th step and it is bringing me down. I do not know why I have such a big block with moving FW with it. I just feel stuck. Thanks all for you input on the other stuff I once heard something that made good sense to me....If you are stru...
by catcar
Fri Feb 06, 2015 6:57 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: starting 4th step
Replies: 21
Views: 15078

Re: starting 4th step

Ok all, I have still not completed this. Started working on it and then was going to wait until after the holidays to finish. Got the flu, hospital, my MIL died......Now I am making a date with my sponsor to finally meet about this. My plan was to do this early to mid January but I am finally gettin...
by catcar
Sat Jan 24, 2015 9:04 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: FB Connections
Replies: 33
Views: 8197

Re: FB Connections

Good to see you catcar...Tell you the truth...I'm more interested in how your stepwork is coming along? I don't use facebook much...A few friends and family...That's it. But I don't hide the fact that I'm in AA. The people that care about me...Already know it and are thrilled that I am. I don't real...
by catcar
Thu Jan 22, 2015 5:40 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: FB Connections
Replies: 33
Views: 8197

Re: FB Connections

"So if I had to choose between drinking again and living in that hellhole of embarrasment caused myself I'd much rather have people know that I am seeking help." The above quote is very true for me. I don't really mind that people might wiser about the fact that I might be in AA. I think it keeps me...