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by Niagara
Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:00 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I am going to die of this disease
Replies: 20
Views: 14401

Re: I am going to die of this disease

Hello and welcome :) I was in a very similar place to you, on the 5th june 2014. I wanted to die. Couldn't bring myself to do it. I had no fight left in me. Hopelessly demoralized. Here was my first port of call. I soon got to meetings, got a sponsor and started the 12 steps....and that's where life...
by Niagara
Mon Dec 21, 2015 10:28 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Merl here. 30 day medallion in hand and now at day 48!
Replies: 24
Views: 12189

Re: Merl here. 30 day medallion in hand and now at day 48!

Hey Merl,

Great to hear you're doing well. Indeed, well done on the sober boogie. I still feel like a frog in a blender. When I was drinking of course, I had all the moves, like a female michael jackson....in my head. The reality was likely quite different :lol:

Good to hear from you :mrgreen:
by Niagara
Fri Dec 18, 2015 9:38 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 4: Fears Inventory (Selfish Fears List)
Replies: 66
Views: 40962

Re: Over a hundred, closer to 200

I see absolutely nothing in the BB which suggests "only 3" nor anything that suggests all forms of fear are "the same" nor "shared by everyone." Likewise, I don't believe AA treats neurotic fears (psychiatric, outside issues) but there may be slight or occasional overlap registered. Quite a lot of ...
by Niagara
Wed Dec 16, 2015 2:23 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The Power of Now
Replies: 77
Views: 32613

Re: The Power of Now

off topic kinda but not kinda...just reminded me. If anyone in the UK fancies a read of some of eckhart tolles books, the works bookstore has them in for £2 at the moment. Not the power of now in my store at least, but a couple of others. Back on topic. I find this takes practise. I wish it was as e...
by Niagara
Mon Dec 14, 2015 11:54 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Journey back to sobriety
Replies: 72
Views: 46744

Re: Journey back to sobriety

Welcome GreatD :) Good to have you here!
by Niagara
Mon Dec 14, 2015 11:54 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: ACCOUNTABILITY: "Service Work" vs. Using the Newcomer
Replies: 23
Views: 5576

Re: Players only love you when they're playin'

Somewhere in the world there's a tree that's tirelessly producing oxygen for this lady to breathe. That lady owes that tree an apology. :lol: you kill me Tosh. Reading this with interest. It's GOOD to get into service and do stuff for others...and I invariably find it goes one of two ways. I either...
by Niagara
Sun Dec 13, 2015 1:17 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: "Sponsor Friends" ( +romance/friendship)
Replies: 8
Views: 6086

Re: "Sponsor Friends" ( +romance/friendship)

I had a male sponsor, BUT, he has been around a long time, and is very very strong. There was never any question of anything other than sponsor/sponsee developing. He's very good at keeping it to a business level. It took me a while to trust him on that actually. I half had this expectation that he ...
by Niagara
Sun Dec 13, 2015 1:00 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Desperate and worn out my welcome in AA
Replies: 11
Views: 4880

Re: Desperate and worn out my welcome in AA

I don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you. This disease is just awful..so destructive. Know that you have helped me today though. I'm only 18 months sober. It's easy to forget where I came from, that crazy merry go round. Feel free to pm if you want to just connect with someone...alcoholism...
by Niagara
Sun Dec 13, 2015 12:46 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Trying sober again...Wife thinks it should be easy
Replies: 18
Views: 14751

Re: Trying sober again...Wife thinks it should be easy

This is common it seems...but those who can just stop, have no real need of a program. I had no power against alcohol so I needed a power, which I got access to as a result of taking the steps. Someone who has the power to stop doesn't need to do that. My Father just stopped and now moderates his dr...
by Niagara
Sat Dec 12, 2015 5:35 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 18 Days Sober and Counting
Replies: 14
Views: 7188

Re: 18 Days Sober and Counting

Good to hear from you Cynbad, and glad to hear it's going well for you :) Can't add to what anyone else has said, so I'll just keep cheering you on from the sidelines!
by Niagara
Fri Dec 11, 2015 6:48 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: first post, just saying hi
Replies: 6
Views: 3517

Re: first post, just saying hi

Welcome Carol, great to have you here.

congrats on 15 months!
by Niagara
Wed Dec 09, 2015 9:02 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: ".... you may have to drop him....." Step 12
Replies: 8
Views: 3407

Re: ".... you may have to drop him....." Step 12

I tend to make it clear at the start that the onus is on the sponsee to take responsibility for their life and recovery. As long as they are willing to do what's required I'm available to help. I don't drive though yet, so haven't had that to deal with. A line my sponsor used to use. 'carry the mess...
by Niagara
Wed Dec 09, 2015 8:50 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Steps/Pace
Replies: 24
Views: 11474

Re: Steps/Pace

Hey there I went slowly the first time...and almost ended up drunk at six months. Close call...my bad, I withheld on a step 4 for a start. My next sponsor knew I was nowhere near this program, though that small effort I put in had eased the pain somewhat. He took me through them in mere days. Launch...
by Niagara
Wed Dec 09, 2015 8:44 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I feel like a crazy person...
Replies: 23
Views: 12177

Re: I feel like a crazy person...

Hey and welcome to E-AA I remember that obsession well. I felt like I was climbing the walls. I'd given in so many times before, had no reason to believe this time would be any different. It was completely and utterly demoralizing. Good news, and this is what I hung on to for dear life in those earl...
by Niagara
Sun Dec 06, 2015 4:05 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Struggling 23 year old coming to realization Im an addict
Replies: 7
Views: 3684

Re: Struggling 23 year old coming to realization Im an addic

Hey Dloren, I can't predict the future sadly. If I could, I wouldn't have ended up the wreck I did. What I can say is how it worked for me. I always had a feeling of being 'apart from'. I could feel alone in a crowded room. Anxiety and depression...years of it. Various meds, therapies, hospitalizati...