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by Mary
Thu Aug 28, 2014 12:15 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Doubting God
Replies: 32
Views: 11061

Re: Doubting God

Well Pete, I agree with Harry. There are basically two reasons an alcoholic drinks again after aa, either they have not accepted their alcoholism or they do think they are alcoholic but don't care. It's that simple however you like to dress it up. And on the contrary it is often, i am finding out, t...
by Mary
Wed Aug 27, 2014 9:19 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Doubting God
Replies: 32
Views: 11061

Re: Doubting God

Hey, welcome, What i am finding is the promises come true if i want them badly enough. That means getting honest, like properly rigorously honest and with another human being , not just according to my own summation of honesty. CUT THE CRAP, is what i got told. Get off the self-pity pot, stop being ...
by Mary
Wed Aug 27, 2014 4:22 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I'm a renewcomer with many years sobriety from alcohol.
Replies: 38
Views: 15035

Re: I'm a renewcomer with many years sobriety from alcohol.

Hello, You are not alone in your feeling uncomfortable about people swamping you with support/kindness/welcome....people are different, some people love it and feel aa is amiss without it but when i witness it happening to newcomers in meetings it annoys me, i just find it stupid. I have thought to ...
by Mary
Wed Aug 20, 2014 11:30 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: ready to give up
Replies: 47
Views: 12605

Re: ready to give up

Hello,

I can identify and like another said, I am not into being an advisor but just sharing my experience...here is something i keep having to come back to :

You cannot save your face and your ass at the same time.

All the best
by Mary
Wed Jul 09, 2014 5:26 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How to deal with it
Replies: 25
Views: 6119

Re: How to deal with it

Hi Niagara, I think what you decided upon sounds perfect for now. I also agree with what everyone else has said. Given that you are just over a few days in and probably feeling very thin skinned its quite good to avoid conflict as much as you can, by going to meet your daughter at the bus stop it wi...
by Mary
Sun Jun 15, 2014 2:51 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: using phone numbers
Replies: 11
Views: 5322

Re: using phone numbers

Hi Keith-d, I remember in very early recovery having a coffee with a friend. I was really up my own a hole and can't remember even what she was saying but i saw fit to say to her..."you really need to start working the steps" ..she was rightfully taken aback like you were and said..."I am". She was....
by Mary
Sun Jun 15, 2014 2:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: using phone numbers
Replies: 11
Views: 5322

Re: using phone numbers

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by Mary
Wed Jun 11, 2014 5:29 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Self Will and Alcoholism; Cause & Effect? I Don't See It?
Replies: 35
Views: 16039

Re: Self Will and Alcoholism; Cause & Effect? I Don't See I

Self-will sometimes manifests as conceit, grandiosity, pomposity, smugness, self-congratulation, seeing things in black and white as opposed to a more nuanced approach, a closed mind (everyone who criticises me is rude and ignorant)...the assertion of the negative ego which will alienate us from peo...
by Mary
Wed Jun 11, 2014 2:25 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Self Will and Alcoholism; Cause & Effect? I Don't See It?
Replies: 35
Views: 16039

Re: Self Will and Alcoholism; Cause & Effect? I Don't See I

Sometimes people's spiritual differences with the steps are simply that they have not done them. Another way of describing what the steps entail is taking a long hard look at yourself. People often like to dress up not doing this in pseudo erudition.

Bless :D
by Mary
Mon Jun 09, 2014 6:28 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How to start a letter as an opening towards an amend...
Replies: 27
Views: 15827

Re: How to start a letter as an opening towards an amend...

Sorry, that's just me. It sounds pat, going through the motions and not particularly from the heart. Look what a good boy i am kind of thing.
by Mary
Mon Jun 09, 2014 6:24 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How to start a letter as an opening towards an amend...
Replies: 27
Views: 15827

Re: How to start a letter as an opening towards an amend...

I would counsel to ABSOLUTELY NOT send it as it is.
by Mary
Fri Jun 06, 2014 4:28 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Can Spirit be sick ?
Replies: 14
Views: 2560

Re: Can Spirit be sick ?

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by Mary
Fri Jun 06, 2014 4:26 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Can Spirit be sick ?
Replies: 14
Views: 2560

Re: Can Spirit be sick ?

@ Tosh

Sometimes i just cant help myself. I am getting better though...
by Mary
Fri Jun 06, 2014 4:08 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Can Spirit be sick ?
Replies: 14
Views: 2560

Re: Can Spirit be sick ?

Is it summer yet in Sweden? :D

I am flattered you think we are qualified to answer that. I'll pretend I am and say -

NO
KEEP IT SIMPLE
LEAVE IT AS IT IS
SING FROM THE SAME HYMM SHEET AS THE REST OF US
ITS NO BIG DEAL
WEAR THE WORLD LIKE A LOOSE BLANKET

Hope this helps x
by Mary
Wed Jun 04, 2014 6:08 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Can Spirit be sick ?
Replies: 14
Views: 2560

Re: Can Spirit be sick ?

Hi, I get what you are saying about the difference between the soul and the spirit but within the realms of the aa community i have no problem just using the lingo. My own understanding of being spiritually sick is not so much that my spirit was sick but that i was sick through losing connection to ...