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by Db1105
Sun Aug 26, 2018 4:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Condescension in AA
Replies: 59
Views: 16340

Re: Condescension in AA

12 Step recovery works by doing all 12 Steps.
by Db1105
Tue Aug 14, 2018 7:51 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The secret to long term sobriety
Replies: 41
Views: 13423

Re: The secret to long term sobriety

Blue Moon wrote:
Db1105 wrote: instead about asking a member who has been sober 55 years how they go about life.
What's remarkable to me is how many have decades of sobriety yet appear to have no clue as to how or why.
Feel better now?
by Db1105
Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:40 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The secret to long term sobriety
Replies: 41
Views: 13423

Re: The secret to long term sobriety

Don't drink and don't die. =biggrin I concur! This site amuses me that it turns into a B.B. debate about Ebby who passed decades ago instead about asking a member who has been sober 55 years how they go about life. As I recal, the Big Book was written about 5 years in and I’ll bet they had no conce...
by Db1105
Tue Jul 24, 2018 3:19 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Progress Not Perfection (ugh) - a misquote?
Replies: 16
Views: 5983

Re: Progress Not Perfection (ugh) - a misquote?

I love that saying. I came into recovery wanting 5 years of sobriety in 5 minutes. It helped to teach me about patience, realistic expectations, and to remember to stop and smell the flowers on the road to recovery.
by Db1105
Tue Jul 24, 2018 3:15 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Selfish?
Replies: 13
Views: 3200

Re: Selfish?

I remember when I was first getting sober was to make sure I had a few dimes in my pocket along with a list of phone numbers when leaving the house in case I needed to call someone. There were phone booths everywhere. Sometimes I had to make several calls because no one had answering machines. And, ...
by Db1105
Sun Jul 08, 2018 1:54 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How Much Work?
Replies: 11
Views: 4018

Re: How Much Work?

Recovered does not mean cured. The 12 Steps became my way of life, not work
by Db1105
Sun Apr 01, 2018 3:59 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Are Non-alcoholic Beverages a safe alternative?
Replies: 16
Views: 5567

Re: Are Non-alcoholic Beverages a safe alternative?

The best response I’ve heard over the years is that non alcoholic beer is for non alcoholics.
by Db1105
Wed Mar 07, 2018 7:13 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: What age do you recall drink being an issue?
Replies: 9
Views: 4194

Re: What age do you recall drink being an issue?

I started drinking at 12, full blown alcoholic by 15 when I started finding myself lock up in either a jail cell or a nut house. Sobered up one month short of my 18th Birthday back in 1977.
by Db1105
Wed Feb 28, 2018 1:26 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Ranks of effective treatment
Replies: 38
Views: 12084

Re: Ranks of effective treatment

Yup, AA is WAAAAAAY down on the list. It went well below 38 for me, but whatever number is was, I haven't had to do try anything else since I started working The Twelve Steps. One other point. AA is not free. It is self supporting though OUR OWN contributions.
by Db1105
Sat Feb 24, 2018 2:34 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: "What is the Role of Sponsorship?"
Replies: 23
Views: 10679

Re: "What is the Role of Sponsorship?"

Many in the Fellowship believe that their Higher Power works through other people.If someone wants to maintain their Sponsor relationship after they completed The Twelve Steps, great for them. To disparage them for it saying they are denigrating the Spiritual foundation of the 11th Step is sad.
by Db1105
Sat Feb 24, 2018 2:29 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Not to Beat a Dead Horse, But . . . .
Replies: 18
Views: 7419

Re: Not to Beat a Dead Horse, But . . . .

I'm just glad I learned before I sobered up that weed and recovery don't mix IMHO.
by Db1105
Sat Feb 24, 2018 2:27 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How much AA talk is normal in a relationship?
Replies: 10
Views: 4486

Re: How much AA talk is normal in a relationship?

Met my significant other when I was 2 years sober at a college party where several of us sober folk were in attendance. As we got to know each other, I told her the my sobriety is the most important thing in my life. At first she didn't like that but over time she began to see that is was the founda...
by Db1105
Wed Jan 24, 2018 4:14 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Walking out of a meeting
Replies: 40
Views: 14698

Re: Walking out of a meeting

Hi, i’m Ross, I’m an alcoholic. I’ve been one of the lucky ones, I went to my first meeting in May 2017, kept going back, haven’t picked up a drink since and never want to again. I’ve never done any steps, I’ve never read the Big Book, I’ve managed to stay sober simply by attending meetings, sharin...
by Db1105
Sun Jan 14, 2018 1:27 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: If you don’t know ask?
Replies: 15
Views: 9999

Re: If you don’t know ask?

Your best bet is to talk to an attorney for legal questions.
by Db1105
Wed Jan 10, 2018 4:16 pm
Forum: Young People in AA (YPAA)
Topic: YPAA is not supportive, its not really AA
Replies: 7
Views: 6900

Re: YPAA is not supportive, its not really AA

I sobered up at the age of 17, Though we didn't have an official YPAA group in my area. There was one meeting mainly attended by younger people. It was just one of the meetings I attended during the week. My sponsor suggested I attend at least one Step Meeting and at least one Big Book meeting, and ...