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by anneD
Wed Jul 03, 2013 10:45 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Anniversaries and Length of sobriety questions
Replies: 21
Views: 12318

Anniversaries and Length of sobriety questions

Anniversaries are significant events in AA. I remember when i got 90 days, i was shocked that I made it that long, and how good I felt. And when someone was celebrating 10 or 15 or 20 years, it gave me so much hope that it was possible to live a happy and fun life without alcohol. But sometimes I wo...
by anneD
Wed Jul 03, 2013 10:07 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Honesty
Replies: 7
Views: 1695

Re: Honesty

Like some here have said, if you feel you were dishonest in what you told her, and mislead her, and it's making you anxious, then come clean. On the other hand, and I will probably be in the minority on this, your past is your past, and you can disclose it to whom ever you choose. or trust. What cou...
by anneD
Sun Jun 02, 2013 8:31 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sobriety without the steps?
Replies: 64
Views: 19899

Re: Sobriety without the steps?

This may sound weird, but I honestly wonder how anyone could attend a lot of meetings for very long and not work the steps at all. A person probably wouldn't be there in the first place without realizing that their lives were unmanageable and they could not control their drinking on their own. I don...
by anneD
Sun Jun 02, 2013 7:43 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Alcohol in the House
Replies: 24
Views: 5733

Re: Alcohol in the House

I know people in AA who have alcohol in the house because family members drink or for guests, but most of these people have been sober many years. I couldn't do it. Not in the beginning, not now, possibly not ever. If that means I'm not working the program as well as the other people, so be it. Whil...
by anneD
Sun Jun 02, 2013 6:56 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: dealing with the fall out
Replies: 12
Views: 2518

Re: dealing with the fall out

In rehab they literally trained us to respond to negative criticism with "Thank you," whether it was from a staff member or another client in rehab. No long winded explanations, excuses, or pleas for another chance, no pointing out something they did that was just as bad, - just "thank you." Boy did...
by anneD
Fri May 10, 2013 12:06 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: rigorous honesty
Replies: 32
Views: 8405

Re: rigorous honesty

Postby lifeline » Fri May 10, 2013 11:03 am What's the use of principles, if we don't follow them? I've learned they are "written in stone"(sometimes I hate it :roll: ) That would make an interesting discussion - How long does it take to learn to "practice these principles in all our affairs." Does...
by anneD
Thu May 09, 2013 8:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Invitation to AA Round up
Replies: 0
Views: 2285

Invitation to AA Round up

If anyone is in the area, there is a AA Round up on Manitoulin Island, Ontario. This is the information from their poster. Rainbow Round-up! May 17, 18, 19, 2013 Friday: Registration opens at 3 p.m. Al Anon meeting at 6:30 p.m. AA meeting at 8 p.m. Saturday: 9 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. Banquet at 6 p.m. Ban...
by anneD
Thu May 09, 2013 8:17 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: rigorous honesty
Replies: 32
Views: 8405

Re: rigorous honesty

If he does not have a history of this, and he has not been dishonest in other ways in his relationship with you and others, I might consider cutting him a little slack on the sunglasses. Newly sober people sometimes do some odd things. Some addiction counselors believe people periodically crave the ...
by anneD
Tue Apr 23, 2013 11:10 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Friends in AA?
Replies: 18
Views: 3210

Re: New Friends in AA?

I had a similar experience. Although it occurred to me that I did not really "lose friends" when I quit drinking. I never really had friendships that were based on anything very substantial. It's not they were all bad people who dropped me because I quit drinking. It was more that not drinking made ...
by anneD
Sun Mar 31, 2013 6:14 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Control (and my issues with the Big Book)
Replies: 5
Views: 1416

Re: Control (and my issues with the Big Book)

If some of the stories in the Big Book seem dated or too much alike, you might try reading the Grapevine for a while. I find a lot of variety in the stories and experiences shared there. And many of the stories also mention other issues that person struggled with while trying to quit drinking whethe...
by anneD
Sat Mar 30, 2013 10:40 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Successful Alternative to Alcohol for Stopping Anxiety
Replies: 12
Views: 5956

Re: Successful Alternative to Alcohol for Stopping Anxiety

Exercise helped me a lot and I am not a particularly athletic person. Hiking, kayaking, swimming, lifting weights. It helped me sleep better, which I think helps with anxiety. Don't worry about how much you do or doing it "right" - it's about you feeling better not about be coming super fit. A lot o...
by anneD
Sat Mar 30, 2013 8:32 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Food tasting just SOO good!
Replies: 7
Views: 1471

Re: Food tasting just SOO good!

That is a fun and sometimes surprising effect of quitting drinking. At first I felt numb to the world and emotionally flat - no highs, no lows. Then at about 3 months, I noticed how good food tasted, how much better music sounded, how much brighter colors in nature were. It was really weird. I think...
by anneD
Sat Mar 30, 2013 8:24 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The value of animal therapy
Replies: 21
Views: 2915

Re: The value of animal therapy

You know, something that I have thought about occasionally while petting my cat or dog is, is would I ever feed alcohol to an animal? Would I let my pet get so sick that they nearly died? Would I let them waste away to nothing with no quality of life? If I wouldn't treat an animal that way, why woul...
by anneD
Sat Mar 30, 2013 7:35 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Queer Mental Twist
Replies: 7
Views: 2434

Re: Queer Mental Twist

I've been told too many times to count that before I took that first drink, even if I already bought it and had it in my hand, to call someone in AA first. To be honest though, I have never once been able to do that. By the time I got to that point, it was too late. I didn't really want some one to ...
by anneD
Thu Feb 21, 2013 10:35 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Statements I cant relate
Replies: 52
Views: 8477

Re: Statements I cant relate

I only know three people personally who actually died from alcoholism. One died from cirrhosis of the liver, one died from acute pancreatitis, and one fell down the stairs while drunk and died of a subdura hematoma of the brain. They all had one thing in common, they didn't think they had a problem ...