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by Whadahay
Fri Dec 07, 2012 9:08 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: My sponsor fired me last night
Replies: 83
Views: 34188

Re: My sponsor fired me last night

Hi BigD. I just know that if I hadn't committed to work the 12 Steps and be involved IN AA and not just around it, I would not be here writing this post. You are spending so much energy getting in your own way, it seems. Stop debating and just do the work and you will be fine. I came into AA an athi...
by Whadahay
Fri Dec 07, 2012 8:22 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Ego setting me up for trouble? Oh, yes.
Replies: 10
Views: 6492

Re: Ego setting me up for trouble? Oh, yes.

Hi Ramona - you aren't alone. We are always on a journey of learning, aren't we!! I wasn't a very good sponsor in the beginning. I did everything you are talking about. Went above and beyond! I thought I was SUPER SPONSOR!! haha. Then my sponsor gently asked me when I was going to keep it simple. I ...
by Whadahay
Fri Dec 07, 2012 7:26 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: 12 Qualities of Sponsorship
Replies: 2
Views: 3005

12 Qualities of Sponsorship

I cannot remember where I got this from, but it has come in handy for those new sponcees that mistake me for someone that they can whine to about anything and everything. I tell them that if they want emotional sobriety, to work the Steps and I will be happy to work along with them, but I cannot DO...
by Whadahay
Fri Dec 07, 2012 6:50 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Safety in the Meeting Rooms
Replies: 29
Views: 32126

Re: Safety in the Meeting Rooms

“The prospective partners need to be solid A.A.’s and long enough acquainted to know that their compatibility at spiritual, mental, and emotional levels is a FACT and not wishful thinking.” Bill W. Our common goal is the same - we want to be sober and safe.
by Whadahay
Fri Dec 07, 2012 6:47 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Safety in the Meeting Rooms
Replies: 29
Views: 32126

Re: Safety in the Meeting Rooms

Hi Char, I see the women cliques everywhere. I've been around enough though to realize that my part in the meeting rooms is to seek out the female newcomer and help her feel comfortable. Cliques are a little dangerous - in and out of AA, I believe. It's unfortunate that some women are like this. I p...
by Whadahay
Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:38 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Service Resentments!
Replies: 38
Views: 39645

Re: Service Resentments!

The climate in my neck of the woods, is to do Service if you are "Willing" AND "Able." Sometimes, a person is willing, but not able. I've been in General Service 6 years now (I said 5 years on another post - but was reminded the other day that I have been involved for 6 years now. Wow - where did th...
by Whadahay
Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:18 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Safety in the Meeting Rooms
Replies: 29
Views: 32126

Re: Safety in the Meeting Rooms

At our Aug 6 District meeting, we were discussing doing a Workshop on Safety in the Meeting Rooms ... but after polling AA folk about their interest in this topic at a Workshop, the results were too low, so at the Sept 10 District meeting the Workshop format changed to "Service Opportunities." oh we...
by Whadahay
Mon Sep 17, 2012 11:00 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Safety in the Meeting Rooms
Replies: 29
Views: 32126

Re: Safety in the Meeting Rooms

“The prospective partners need to be solid A.A.’s and long enough acquainted to know that their compatibility at spiritual, mental, and emotional levels is a FACT and not wishful thinking.” Bill W. Thanks everyone for your comments. I am a femaie, so I am speaking from the female perspective. Of co...
by Whadahay
Wed Sep 05, 2012 12:31 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Safety in the Meeting Rooms
Replies: 29
Views: 32126

Re: Safety in the Meeting Rooms

I guess what I am trying to ask is how can our Groups be more alert to, or our members more aware of what, 13-stepping is and why it should be considered dangerous to the Newcomer who are at these meetings for help in their recovery and need to learn how to focus on their recovery. Especially since ...
by Whadahay
Wed Sep 05, 2012 12:12 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The sub-culture of anti-A.A.
Replies: 23
Views: 13788

Re: The sub-culture of anti-A.A.

I have been approached with this subject when facilitating an AA meeting at the county jail. Several things came up. One inmate stated that AA was a religion. She said that her mother was a "counselor" at the local treatment facility and that is what her mother said. So, I guess it's true? haha. It ...
by Whadahay
Wed Sep 05, 2012 12:00 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: My sponsor fired me last night
Replies: 83
Views: 34188

Re: My sponsor fired me last night

Congrats on 147 days of sobriety. I realize your initial post was back in March! Nice! I don't think I missed the point, but rather you misinterpreted my meaning. It's just that a sponsor cannot carry the sponsee. When it gets to that point where the sponsee isn't willing to do any of the work, and ...
by Whadahay
Tue Sep 04, 2012 11:29 pm
Forum: But We Aren't a Glum Lot ...
Topic: Photos of your pets; stick 'em here...
Replies: 60
Views: 39245

Re: Photos of your pets; stick 'em here...

This is Gus. He turned 3 on July 3. His Dad is Border Collie and his mom is a Schnauzer. He fell into my lap at 7 weeks old. And he is a lot of FUN!
by Whadahay
Mon Aug 27, 2012 7:31 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: My sponsor fired me last night
Replies: 83
Views: 34188

Re: My sponsor fired me last night

First of all ... the Sponsor isn't the problem. The only person that can do the work you need to do is YOU. It's that simple. Why should he spend time away from his family, a Newcomer or other sponsees who really do want to work the Program of AA? Our responsibility is to be there for those that rea...
by Whadahay
Mon Aug 27, 2012 6:26 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Safety in the Meeting Rooms
Replies: 29
Views: 32126

Safety in the Meeting Rooms

Our Delegate reported that "Safety in the Meeting Rooms" was a major topic of discussion ... and our Groups will be asked to be aware of ways we can keep our meeting rooms safe for the Newcomers. I have seen way too many hook-ups that end so horribly for both people. I've been involved in general se...