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by Chris S.
Thu Mar 10, 2016 10:02 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I'm a sorry excuse for a human being.
Replies: 14
Views: 5567

Re: I'm a sorry excuse for a human being.

I once read that the definition of the alcoholic bottom is "When life gets worse faster than you can lower your standards"

The bottom line for me was that I drank because I couldn't stand the way felt when I wasn't drinking. I hit bottom when I couldn't stand myself when I was.
by Chris S.
Thu Mar 10, 2016 9:57 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: A year sober but struggling
Replies: 18
Views: 6428

Re: A year sober but struggling

Your forum handle is exactly correct about this...:This too, shall pass" Congrats and welcome to second year sobriety. I can't speak for others, but my experience was that around the end of that first year, that 'pink cloud' started to fade a little bit. It was a lot of hard work, soul searching, an...
by Chris S.
Thu Aug 13, 2015 9:11 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Anger
Replies: 20
Views: 12011

Re: Anger

Great topic Mylo! Just like alcohol, anger can be cunning baffling and powerful. It can come from anywhere and for any reason, or seemingly no reason at all. At least this has been my experience. It is almost an addiction in and of itself. The adreneline rush felt in a fit of anger, is something, th...
by Chris S.
Sun Aug 09, 2015 7:55 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 24 days sober- future temptation
Replies: 18
Views: 8728

Re: 24 days sober- future temptation

Just some food for thought from my own experience. As an alcoholic, when I was presented with such situations, I felt the same as you. Will I be letting them down if I don't drink? From what I have learned the answer is absolutely not, in fact, you will be letting them down if you do. (Not to mentio...
by Chris S.
Wed Jul 08, 2015 9:03 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: BB page 60
Replies: 15
Views: 5026

Re: BB page 60

From page 124 in "The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions"... "But today, in well matured AA's, these distorted drives (instincts) have been restored to something like their true purpose and direction. We no longer strive to dominate or rule those about us in order to gain self-importance. We no long...
by Chris S.
Tue Jun 30, 2015 8:56 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sobriety, Is it given or do you still struggle!
Replies: 35
Views: 13830

Re: Sobriety, Is it given or do you still struggle!

Sometimes I struggle with spiritual growth. Sometimes I struggle with ego, fear, resentment. Sometimes, I struggle with reaching out for help. But as of yet, the obsession to drink has not returned. It seems that my journey through the program, my insistance on attending as many meetings as I can, a...
by Chris S.
Tue Jun 23, 2015 7:40 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Connecting to a HP
Replies: 9
Views: 4549

Re: Connecting to a HP

There was a guy in my original home group that put it perfectly, "Just do the work, and you'll be contacted later." When I am lacking that "connection", I soon come to realize that I am just simply not "listening". It seems that I what I am doing in these times is asking God what his will is for me....
by Chris S.
Sat Jun 20, 2015 5:20 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: No family, hate job, why stop drinking?
Replies: 13
Views: 3716

Re: No family, hate job, why stop drinking?

A guy once told about a conversation he had with a co-worker before he got sober, Alcoholic:"If you had my problems, you'd drink too" Co-worker: "If I drank like you, I'd have your problems." In my active alcoholism, I did everything I could to push my family away. Simply because they really wanted ...
by Chris S.
Sun Apr 26, 2015 5:43 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I HAVE TO STOP DRINKING!!!!!!!!!!
Replies: 72
Views: 17365

Re: I HAVE TO STOP DRINKING!!!!!!!!!!

I really don't know if I'm capable of quitting drinking. For a day maybe, but staying quit, I'm at the end of my rope "For a Day" that is our secret my friend. I haven't "quit" drinking, "sworn off", I have simlpy chosen to not drink today. I don't know about tomorrow, but today, no matter what hap...
by Chris S.
Mon Apr 20, 2015 7:08 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: making peace with the "inability to drink normally"
Replies: 27
Views: 6250

Re: making peace with the "inability to drink normally"

Outside of the fact that I could actually not drink one day at a time, the absolute most significant thing I learned from AA is the "fatal nature of our malady". Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal, disease. (Malady, disorder, whichever you prefer) For which there is no known cure. The alcoholic, who...
by Chris S.
Mon Apr 20, 2015 6:43 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Why does life throw heaps of s**t at you in early recovery?
Replies: 15
Views: 4209

Re: Why does life throw heaps of s**t at you in early recove

It's fairly common that people get sober just in the nick of time to deal with some awful situations that then come down the pike, like they were held off until the alcoholic is in their right mind and capable of stepping up like a mature person to respond and handle them. Noticed that as a common ...
by Chris S.
Wed Apr 15, 2015 5:52 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: ITS A QUESTION OF " ANONYMITY "
Replies: 9
Views: 4352

Re: ITS A QUESTION OF " ANONYMITY "

When I was an active drunk, I didn't really care so much about people seeing me walk into a brightly lit liquor store, or who saw me at the local bar. The purpose of anonymity is humility. The idea is that I don't want a pat on the back for doing what I should have been doing all along. My recovery ...
by Chris S.
Mon Apr 13, 2015 1:11 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: The Intense Pressure of Not Slipping
Replies: 12
Views: 14822

Re: The Intense Pressure of Not Slipping

The only thing better than 61 days sober is 62 days. Sure, early on, I had many, many, close calls. Many times where I almost drank. But I also was really, really, tired of starting over. So, i said to myself, and to God, I am just not going to drink today, no matter what, i'll worry about tomorrow,...
by Chris S.
Fri Apr 03, 2015 8:23 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need to return to AA and do the programme!
Replies: 5
Views: 2147

Re: Need to return to AA and do the programme!

I read an old saying once..." The definition of the alcoholic bottom is when life gets worse faster than you can lower your standards". The Big Book describes this as "Incomprehensible Demoralisation". We've all been there Barbara, when I read you story, though specifics were different, the feeling ...
by Chris S.
Fri Apr 03, 2015 8:14 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Relapse...again!
Replies: 44
Views: 9580

Re: Relapse...again!

I am happy for Andy, and if going to meetings everyday is what he needs more power to him. However my own position is more in keeping with that of recovered, having done the steps thoroughly, having a spiritual experience, and enhancing that experience daily with practice of the steps, I am a recov...