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by avaneesh912
Fri Jan 24, 2020 5:14 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 8
Replies: 5
Views: 89

Re: Step 8

"Did anyone you tried to make amends with react negatively, and if so, how did you handle it?" Thanks for your help! There are some great directions in the big book. First of all, we need to understand we are taking on this path to clear our side of the street. We could run into people who still ar...
by avaneesh912
Thu Jan 23, 2020 7:00 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship in relation to a BB Workshop
Replies: 8
Views: 80

Re: Sponsorship in relation to a BB Workshop

I have heard of workshops where they literally convert statements into questions and everybody responds (Joe H and Mark H created a book, I think there are sites that sell those books). Do the 3r step prayer in group and do the 5th privately. Then I have heard of steel on steel where a small group o...
by avaneesh912
Tue Jan 21, 2020 4:54 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: When is drinking a problem?
Replies: 11
Views: 104

Re: When is drinking a problem?

Unfortunately even if there is, you can't convince anyone that is deeply entrenched in the disease. You can probably find serenity for yourself by visiting al-anon. My family after almost 14 years realized there are some isms of their own are finding those meetings very useful.
by avaneesh912
Sat Jan 18, 2020 6:04 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resentment towards myself
Replies: 18
Views: 867

Re: Resentment towards myself

:shock: Me either. Keep it simple and look for the answers in the Big Book, 12 & 12 and other AA Literature. Sure but at one point you have to let everything down and rest. And if we dont have tools to handle the nagging mind of ours (which drives some to insanity) all the sobriety gets tossed out ...
by avaneesh912
Sat Jan 18, 2020 10:57 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New bad habits
Replies: 9
Views: 599

Re: New bad habits

Yes, pretty common phenomenon. There are other fellowships we can use for other areas of unmanageability and powerlessness.
by avaneesh912
Sat Jan 18, 2020 10:53 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resentment towards myself
Replies: 18
Views: 867

Re: Resentment towards myself

A New earth has more live examples. I will drop a PM on the topics you can dive in right away so you can grasp his teachings quicker. Starting from the beginning could be little dry.
by avaneesh912
Fri Jan 17, 2020 8:17 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resentment towards myself
Replies: 18
Views: 867

Re: Resentment towards myself

Works of Eckhart Tolle helped me a lot. It takes a serious read of his work but once we get the concept, It helped me a lot, letting go of those nagging thoughts and live in acceptance.
by avaneesh912
Wed Jan 08, 2020 2:22 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine
Replies: 8
Views: 338

Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

In AAs terminology we use the phrase Obsession for the mind stuff. Craving is referred to the compulsive drinking that kicks in after we ingest 1 or 2 drinks of alcohol. Its all part of the realization phase, its good to realize as a alcoholic we have a grace period where we are able to overcome the...
by avaneesh912
Mon Jan 06, 2020 7:26 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 10 days sober
Replies: 6
Views: 269

Re: 10 days sober

Key understanding one should derive is, if we dont take care of our emotions we forget the consequences and will pick up. That understanding will inspire us to work the steps quickly so we have that awareness permanently.
by avaneesh912
Sun Jan 05, 2020 8:32 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 10 days sober
Replies: 6
Views: 269

Re: 10 days sober

Powerlessness can be classified into 2 parts. If we dont take action, we will run into blind spots like the book talks about and we will pick up the drink and then after we ingest alcohol, we loose control of the number of drinks we consume. So the solution is realizing that we are alcoholic and tha...
by avaneesh912
Sat Jan 04, 2020 5:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 680

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

So, I’m not at all certain of the point of the “homework”. There is a school of thought where in order to test the willingness of the new-comer, the sponsor asks the candidate to interview certain number of people in his network and document those experiences of others and at the end of the year th...
by avaneesh912
Fri Jan 03, 2020 5:53 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 680

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

Any suggestions? Try a different sponsor. Also suggest that you start listening to some step 1 portion of the workshops available on the internet. You will get different perspective of powerlessness and unmanageability. We dont face powerlessness every moment. But the key is "at times" the mind tri...
by avaneesh912
Thu Jan 02, 2020 11:03 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New to this but need advice!!
Replies: 23
Views: 674

Re: New to this but need advice!!

Thats very nice. Yes its good to avoid such gathering initially when we are early in recovery. But as we work the steps, we will experience that the obsession has been lifted and should be able to be comfortable where alcohol is served. That is one of the promises that the program talks about as we ...
by avaneesh912
Wed Jan 01, 2020 3:20 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 12 Steps
Replies: 14
Views: 853

Re: 12 Steps

I'm not sure "making a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of god" works for me. I would suggest, try to imbibe the truths about powerlessness and un-manageability. See how the latter leads you into powerlessness. And then look at the rest of the process. I believe once we real...
by avaneesh912
Mon Dec 30, 2019 4:26 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New to this but need advice!!
Replies: 23
Views: 674

Re: New to this but need advice!!

The guilt is still eating me up over them nights over Christmas and I need to clear my head! Is there anything in the meanwhile I can do to stop this feeling We are guilty because we think, we made a conscious decision in drinking. We alcoholics drink because of a condition. Spiritual, Mental and P...