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by Mike O
Wed Jul 08, 2020 8:25 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at zoom meetings.
Replies: 19
Views: 1358

Re: Questions heard at zoom meetings.

Soberguy27 wrote:
Tue Jul 07, 2020 9:17 pm
So in the end it doesn't matter. I am happy he is sober and he is still a very dear friend.
Yep.
There ya go.
:D
by Mike O
Mon Jul 06, 2020 2:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 380

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

Aggiejim wrote:
Thu Jul 02, 2020 2:29 pm
We were powerless over alcohol and our wives had become unmanageable.
Yessss.... this is so funny
:lol: :lol:
by Mike O
Wed Jul 01, 2020 7:22 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The evenings
Replies: 12
Views: 2209

Re: The evenings

Newcomers need to know that when they do the work the struggle to stay away from drink ends, as the book says - That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality safe and protected. We have not eve...
by Mike O
Wed Jul 01, 2020 7:19 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 647

Re: Sponsorship query.

It works for me but my experience is that most need help and face-to-face meetings. My original post was not arguing against sponsorship. 😁 I apologize. I have not been the exact picture of spirituality lately. I know that you meant no harm and I should have taken care to convey that! Your experien...
by Mike O
Wed Jul 01, 2020 7:17 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 647

Re: Sponsorship query.

Spirit Flower wrote:
Mon Jun 29, 2020 2:07 pm
FYI Mike, I was here when you got started and I've always been impressed with your sobriety. You must be doing something right.
I'm only doing what the book describes :)
by Mike O
Mon Jun 29, 2020 12:09 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 647

Re: Sponsorship query.

Yes AA can be done as a loner. Surely many of those early folks did it that way. The Traditions was first published in 1946 in the Grapevine, but we don't just toss those to the side because the went unmentioned at the first printing of the Big Book. Of course. I’m not suggesting that anything shou...
by Mike O
Mon Jun 29, 2020 1:18 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 647

Re: Sponsorship query.

I often read stories such as “ I drank again. I had four years, I had gotten as far as Step 5”, This situation is usually not the sponsor but a sponsee who doesn't want to do that step. Some sponsors don't push people. Good point, and I'm sure that's often the case. However, my experience is also w...
by Mike O
Sun Jun 28, 2020 1:51 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 647

Re: Sponsorship query.

Thanks folks, for your responses. I guess there’s no “one way” to do the steps. It just frustrates me to hear of so many people taking so long to do the steps and consequently going back out. I often read stories such as “ I drank again. I had four years, I had gotten as far as Step 5”, etc. My ques...
by Mike O
Sat Jun 27, 2020 1:09 am
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: choice
Replies: 9
Views: 310

Re: choice

We cannot choose whether to drink or not drink. Even if we choose not to drink, we’ll drink.
by Mike O
Fri Jun 26, 2020 2:21 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 647

Sponsorship query.

I have never had a "sponsor" as such. I worked through the steps initially on my own using the directions in the book. I had a friend, a member here, who helped me and continues to help me with 4 and 5, for which I am always grateful. So, I'm not terribly familiar with the whole sponsorship thing. I...
by Mike O
Mon Jun 22, 2020 7:11 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 380

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

Well, does she want to have her eyes opened?
by Mike O
Sat May 30, 2020 6:01 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at zoom meetings.
Replies: 19
Views: 1358

Re: Questions heard at zoom meetings.

avaneesh912 wrote:
Mon May 25, 2020 5:54 pm
But why does it matter?
Exactly.
You beat me to it, Avaneesh.
😁
by Mike O
Mon May 18, 2020 4:18 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: What is self-will according to the program?
Replies: 7
Views: 1209

Re: What is self-will according to the program?

Self will is action based on self-centredness, attempting to control everybody and everything. I try, through prayer and thoughtful meditation, to find what God's will is for me in an attempt to try not to run the whole show myself.

For me, in the BB, self-will is simply the opposite to God's will.
by Mike O
Mon May 18, 2020 4:15 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance - page 417 Big Book
Replies: 18
Views: 16113

Re: Acceptance - page 417 Big Book

I still want to be in charge of Barbara, but I surrender a lot faster than I used to. :oops: I wish I could learn something and then be done with that topic, but, so far, every character defect comes back in another situation eventually and I get to dig a little deeper. Hi Barbara, Thanks for shari...
by Mike O
Mon May 11, 2020 7:07 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need help...to just start...
Replies: 7
Views: 680

Re: Need help...to just start...

Welcome, Yep, I was very much afraid of life without alcohol too. I was pointed in the direction of the book Alcoholics Anonymous. I read it and I did exactly what those guys did. I worked the steps honestly but as quickly as I could - because I wanted what they had. 12 years later I live in the ste...