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by curtis s
Sun Aug 31, 2008 6:15 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: is AA for everyone? Am I going to relapse?
Replies: 22
Views: 8098

Hi Okie, I didn't like meetings very much when I first went. I was also very shy and didn't talk much. I didn't take many of the suggestions either. Eventually the meetings kind of grew on me. I found I liked some of them more than others and there were a few I pretty much avoided. I did get a spons...
by curtis s
Sun Aug 03, 2008 7:31 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: "Outside the rooms"?
Replies: 25
Views: 7934

AA is about recovering from alcoholism, not just stopping drinking. That involves learning how to live sober. Last I checked life took place outside of the rooms. Living sober is a good topic for discussion in an AA meeting and talked about at great length in many meetings. Learning how to address o...
by curtis s
Sun Aug 03, 2008 7:19 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: where are all the AA meetings?
Replies: 19
Views: 5229

Hi Karl,

I'm glad you found a meeting.

Eastern Oregon can be pretty remote. I live near NYC and there are meetings everywhere but you may have to travel a bit to get to meetings. Please make every effort. It will be worth it.

Curt
by curtis s
Sun Aug 03, 2008 7:15 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Newby in need of immediate help!!
Replies: 21
Views: 8049

Hi SheRa, Although there is a lot of discussion of God in the steps and elsewhere in AA the discussion, particularly as phrased in the steps, is the God of our understanding. As opposed to the understanding of anyone else. Which is why we often talk about God as just our higher power. And AA's conce...
by curtis s
Tue Sep 11, 2007 5:41 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Am I an alcoholic?
Replies: 11
Views: 5074

It's not up to us to say if you are an alcoholic. You can certainly try to do the controlled drinking thing and if that works thats good. If it doesn't work then you can use AA as plan B. AA is not going to be able to teach you how to drink just a few. Our membership has failed completely in the eff...
by curtis s
Tue Aug 28, 2007 7:02 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Drug Addicts at AA Meetings
Replies: 109
Views: 34461

Keith that is an interesting solution. In particular the idea of the parole officer asking things like what was the topic would mean that the attendee would have to listen at least a little bit. Our groups sign the cards but I have to say that I like the approach you suggested. The various issues yo...
by curtis s
Wed Aug 22, 2007 7:23 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Occupations
Replies: 3
Views: 2525

Although I am heterosexual I attend a gay meeting, because it has very good recovery. What I see there is that members like to be able to talk about their loved ones without speaking in code and that they find power being in a room filled with people who have grappled with some of the same issues. L...
by curtis s
Wed Aug 22, 2007 7:16 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Drug Addicts at AA Meetings
Replies: 109
Views: 34461

Most of the members of AA around here were pretty generic garbage heads, so they qualify for membership in both fellowships. Interestingly however the lead in this matter has been taken by NA locally. They read something called the clarity statement which basically says that identifying as an addict...
by curtis s
Wed Aug 22, 2007 6:56 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: signing in and out of AA?
Replies: 26
Views: 16385

If the court stipulate that you go to AA you can often give a piece of paper supplied by the court to the chairperson of the meeting to sign. I've signed lots of them. You can also get them signed at the bar if you want; you're right about them not proving a whole lot. To quote the literature, this ...
by curtis s
Wed Aug 22, 2007 6:51 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: do you think it matters the amount you drank?
Replies: 16
Views: 8434

As a question for the therapist to get to know you better it makes perfect sense. After all we often discuss how much we drank in AA also, if for no other reason than to get rid of yet another secret. As to it meaning you're an alcoholic it is totally irrelevant and the sad fact is that some of us d...
by curtis s
Tue Jan 16, 2007 5:43 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: feelin a bit scared
Replies: 21
Views: 7489

I think of myself as relatively "normal" as long as I don't drink. That's one thing that distinguishes me from non alcoholics, who remain sort of normal when they drink. However I do seem to react strongly to things in terms of emotions and I tend to have to work harder than some people at staying o...
by curtis s
Sun Dec 17, 2006 4:43 pm
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: Helping a alcoholic friend?
Replies: 11
Views: 11892

A lot of the comments here seemed right on the mark, but only you will be able to decide that. It sounds as if the only thing that your friend has changed is his drinking. But in AA it is commonly said that the drinking is just the tip of the iceberg and that not drinking is merely the first step in...
by curtis s
Thu Nov 30, 2006 6:21 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I am sure this has been done before but bare with me
Replies: 15
Views: 6999

I kept drinking until the idea of continuing to drink scared me more than the idea of going to a meeting. The idea of continued drinking also scared me more than the idea of not drinking any more, which was also pretty scary. Whats the worst thing that could happen to you at the meeting? That you wo...
by curtis s
Thu Nov 30, 2006 6:11 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: The fatal nature of alcoholism
Replies: 2
Views: 2353

The it's no big deal thing is a very seductive form of denial and it takes many forms. For some of us it translated into "I'm an alcoholic and I am drinking myself to death. It's no big deal" The really sad thing about alcoholism is that not only can it kill us, it may lead us to live our lives in s...
by curtis s
Sun Nov 26, 2006 8:51 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I don't feel like an alcoholic...
Replies: 15
Views: 7546

Here's a couple of things I heard when I first came to AA A binge drinker (only gets drunk now and then) is really just a daily drinker running scared. I had to admit that was true of me. People who don't have a problem with alcohol don't need to find a reason not to drink. And lastly, when I was el...