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by Spirit Flower
Thu Aug 06, 2020 12:28 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Coming back and have questions
Replies: 6
Views: 75

Re: Coming back and have questions

Check out the pamphlet "Questions and Answers on Sponsorship" http://www.aa.org/pdf/products/p-15_Q&AonSpon.pdf and then find a sponsor who can help you according to that. Some sponsors really do think that to sponsor someone, they need to read through the big book word for word. I would find that t...
by Spirit Flower
Sat Aug 01, 2020 12:52 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 11 yrs ago today...
Replies: 7
Views: 81

Re: 11 yrs ago today...

Congrats Paige. Thanks for your share.
by Spirit Flower
Mon Jul 27, 2020 4:59 am
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 17 years
Replies: 6
Views: 100

Re: 17 years

Congrats Betsy
by Spirit Flower
Tue Jul 21, 2020 10:41 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: "Recovered"
Replies: 11
Views: 196

Re: "Recovered"

What we have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.
(page 85 of BB).

What that suggests, and I believe, is that alcoholism grows back if you let up on the spiritual program. "...alcohol is a subtle foe."
by Spirit Flower
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:28 pm
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: BB/Pg. 62 -- "That, we think, is the root of our troubles."
Replies: 5
Views: 335

Re: BB/Pg. 62 -- "That, we think, is the root of our troubles."

The amazing thing about AA is that it is not about not drinking but about stuff like selfishness and dishonesty.
by Spirit Flower
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:26 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: First step experiences
Replies: 2
Views: 136

Re: First step experiences

Working the first step with my sponsor was quite apart from the moment I admitted I was an alcoholic. I suspect you mean the moment I admitted I was an alcoholic. This happened before I went to AA. Through a complicated situation involving my mother, I decided to quit drinking. And I did quit drinki...
by Spirit Flower
Sun Jul 19, 2020 6:18 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 26
Views: 1298

Re: Sponsorship query.

She did it herself with help from Mark & Joe.
Do you mean Joe and Charlie? They are famous for their big book tapes which have been around for more than 30 years.

Or are you referring to a AA youtuber, Mark R? I haven't listened to him.
by Spirit Flower
Sun Jul 12, 2020 2:18 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How many times did Bill Wilson do the steps?
Replies: 10
Views: 191

Re: How many times did Bill Wilson do the steps?

Maybe there is confusion between Bill doing the steps vs helping others do the steps; and your friend thinks that helping others counted a doing the steps.
by Spirit Flower
Tue Jul 07, 2020 2:32 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: My home group & resentment creeping in
Replies: 12
Views: 306

Re: My home group & resentment creeping in

a) finish the steps!!!! What are you waiting for? b) the group might have had a separate wake for the dead member which you didn't know about. Or many of the members probably went to the funeral home/church to pay their respects, which you didn't know about. c) pretty soon, they'll be cracking jokes...
by Spirit Flower
Mon Jul 06, 2020 6:32 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: CoronaVirus - How can we be helpful?
Replies: 23
Views: 3186

Re: CoronaVirus - How can we be helpful?

Yes you can turn off the camera BUT thats a little bit rude. Only do it if necessary.
by Spirit Flower
Mon Jun 29, 2020 2:07 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 26
Views: 1298

Re: Sponsorship query.

FYI Mike, I was here when you got started and I've always been impressed with your sobriety. You must be doing something right.
by Spirit Flower
Sun Jun 28, 2020 5:21 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 26
Views: 1298

Re: Sponsorship query.

I often read stories such as “ I drank again. I had four years, I had gotten as far as Step 5”,
This situation is usually not the sponsor but a sponsee who doesn't want to do that step. Some sponsors don't push people.
by Spirit Flower
Sat Jun 27, 2020 4:10 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 26
Views: 1298

Re: Sponsorship query.

this is the way my sponsor showed me, so I will do the same with you, worked for me so will work for you This is exactly why I don't sponsor anyone. I can only tell you how I did it and you should go find someone else to be your sponsor if you don't want to do what I did. Most people don't want to ...
by Spirit Flower
Sat Jun 27, 2020 10:01 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 26
Views: 1298

Re: Sponsorship query.

To work the steps, my first sponsor gave me "homework." Like, "read this and write this for two weeks," and then we moved on to the next step. Made sense to me.
by Spirit Flower
Sat Jun 27, 2020 9:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Can AA actually work for me?
Replies: 19
Views: 591

Re: Can AA actually work for me?

Check out appendix II to the big book found here: https://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_appendiceii.pdf Pay attention to "an unsuspected inner resource..." Also pay attention to the explanation that spirituality is a process. I can say that what I think of a higher power has changed many times ...