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by Layne
Sun Nov 17, 2019 3:49 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 33
Views: 295

Re: New Slogans

The vast majority of the time when I think about reinventing the wheel, it is ego related.
by Layne
Sun Nov 17, 2019 12:10 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: How do I help my atheist sponsee?
Replies: 24
Views: 5758

Re: How do I help my atheist sponsee?

I lean more towards zen, Buddhism, and mindfulness than i do towards the long-white beard god and prayer. I have no conflict with the AA program nor the twelve steps. For me, they mesh just fine with my beliefs.
by Layne
Thu Nov 14, 2019 3:39 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 2 Keeping it Simple
Replies: 9
Views: 1603

Re: Step 2 Keeping it Simple

The people who seem to last in AA have a strong concept of their higher power, and often a fairly traditional one - the kind who intervenes and answers prayers. I'm scared I will never be able to believe this and wont be able to ever stay sober. My higher power probably wouldn't fit in the traditio...
by Layne
Tue Nov 12, 2019 9:09 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I dont want to get up in the morning.
Replies: 14
Views: 128

Re: I dont want to get up in the morning.

I want to slip back into oblivion of sleep...I cant recover from this second impaired charge. It just isnt possible now. This was why I drank. Life on it's terms was too hard for me to face. I wanted oblivion, to run from life. Working the 12 steps showed me how to turn this around and to embrace l...
by Layne
Thu Nov 07, 2019 3:14 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 33
Views: 295

Re: New Slogans

If you think staying away from the first drink is the solution, you're an idiot. Everyone is my teacher. Many times, people that rub me the wrong way, provide me with great barometers with which to check my level of acceptance, tolerance, and compassion. I am grateful to my higher power for the con...
by Layne
Wed Oct 30, 2019 8:57 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: One day at a time
Replies: 46
Views: 648

Re: One day at a time

To be honest, if I were a newcomer, I would find some of the attitudes displayed on this thread to be off-putting.
by Layne
Tue Oct 29, 2019 7:49 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: One day at a time
Replies: 46
Views: 648

Re: One day at a time

excerpt from http://csobrisbane.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/this_is_AA.pdf We simply try to get through one day at a time without a drink. So in a round about way, yes it can be found in conference approved literature. I am neither pro nor con on the slogan "One Day at a Time" (or any slogans for...
by Layne
Sun Oct 27, 2019 9:21 am
Forum: Suggestions
Topic: How do I tell my sponsor and group I went out drinking again?
Replies: 14
Views: 490

Re: How do I tell my sponsor and group I went out drinking again?

Help needed wrote:
Sun Oct 27, 2019 8:59 am
way out
These are the key words in your post. You are on the correct path and on your way out of the situation of drinking on Friday night. Keep moving forward.
by Layne
Sun Oct 27, 2019 8:44 am
Forum: Suggestions
Topic: How do I tell my sponsor and group I went out drinking again?
Replies: 14
Views: 490

Re: How do I tell my sponsor and group I went out drinking again?

I would do it with my heart, honesty, and as few of words as possible. When I admit to something that I would rather not admit to, if I find myself starting to use too many words, it seems opens the door to justifications which weakens both my admission of poor behavior and my resolve to not repeat ...
by Layne
Fri Oct 11, 2019 9:24 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Addicts in AA meetings?
Replies: 30
Views: 906

Re: Addicts in AA meetings?

Tonight one of them brought their kid into the meeting and no one said a word. Our traditions state clearly the closed meetings are for alcoholics or people who have a desire not to drink. Did anyone ask the kid if he had a desire not to drink? Perhaps drinking is a problem for him as well because ...
by Layne
Tue Oct 08, 2019 3:26 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Reading in a meeting
Replies: 5
Views: 274

Re: Reading in a meeting

Someone said I should never pass a reading. Is that true? People say lots of things in meetings. Some might even be true! I would simply thank the person for their input and tell them that i would take it into consideration. After considering the comment, I would proceed as best I saw fit. If anyon...
by Layne
Sat Sep 28, 2019 8:54 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How quickly to take the steps & can I work on the steps without my sponsor's assistance?
Replies: 7
Views: 340

Re: How quickly to take the steps & can I work on the steps without my sponsor's assistance?

I am extremely happy with my sponsor he has been fantastic. However, as I said I would have liked to get through the steps quicker but he has been extremely busy which he did warn me about. Is there anything I can do to work on the steps that I do not require my sponsors assistance? I guess I need ...
by Layne
Tue Sep 24, 2019 4:23 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 12
Views: 479

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

innermost wrote:
Tue Sep 24, 2019 7:14 am
Layne

I enjoyed reading your post.
Thanks. i can take no credit though as i was merely passing along what I have heard in the rooms of AA. Nothing original. Nothing from my brain. :~)
by Layne
Mon Sep 23, 2019 8:24 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 12
Views: 479

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

Being overly sensitive to the words of others blocks me from the sunlight light of the spirit. I strive to maximize my time in the sunlight as part of improving my conscious contact with my higher power. When the words of others bother me, I need to focus why they bother me. While reflecting on that...
by Layne
Sat Sep 21, 2019 9:09 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 12
Views: 479

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

To me it would depend upon the dictionary in the mind of the person doing the inventory. Defects of character is a rather ubiquitous phrase implying moral and psychological flaws and failings. The problem is that it is often to refer to natural human emotions and experiences that are unavoidable. I ...