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by AlfaGeek
Wed May 20, 2020 10:00 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I drink because my life is ruined
Replies: 8
Views: 758

Re: I drink because my life is ruined

Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Does a happier life sound like something you want? The logic that alcohol is destroying your life and all your relationships is easy but the quitting is hard. If you stop drinking, at least things won't continue to get worse - of course there might be ...
by AlfaGeek
Wed Apr 01, 2020 11:26 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Putting in more work than the sponsee
Replies: 18
Views: 1677

Re: Putting in more work than the sponsee

If your sponsee did everything perfectly, she wouldn't need a sponsor. She is reaching out for AA support and that is a good thing - certainly better than NOT reaching out. Without knowing all the details of your relationship, it seems to me that you are a bit... rigid? To help someone, you often ha...
by AlfaGeek
Fri Mar 27, 2020 10:58 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship after long time sobriety
Replies: 13
Views: 1338

Re: Sponsorship after long time sobriety

Great topic and very pertinent for long time AA members. First, I would remind us all that a sponsor is not there to be your friend but to take you through the steps. We all also utilize our sponsors for problems that ruffle our serenity. It seems that you are concerned that you aren't using your sp...
by AlfaGeek
Mon Mar 16, 2020 11:06 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resisting Temptation and Honesty
Replies: 4
Views: 969

Re: Resisting Temptation and Honesty

When I was using, I think the one single trait that distressed me the most (intense guilt) was my complete lack of honesty. I had always been a REALLY honest person. It was a relief to get sober and honest again. First, whatever you are doing is not enough. I would wonder if you are "all in" to the ...