Search found 50 matches

by DaveP1951
Sat Jun 27, 2020 8:25 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Can AA actually work for me?
Replies: 17
Views: 260

Re: Can AA actually work for me?

Can AA actually work for me? The AA book the Twelve and Twelve states “some of us won’t believe in God, others can’t , and still others who do believe that God exists have no faith whatever that he will perform this miracle.”I feel that it is the “others can’t” that pertains to your question. Why ca...
by DaveP1951
Fri Jun 26, 2020 8:08 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 456

Re: Sponsorship query.

Allow me to add one statement to jojo2's post above. That statement is this. " Very, very, well put."
by DaveP1951
Mon Jun 22, 2020 7:13 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 275

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

Quite simply "Attraction rather than promotion."
by DaveP1951
Sat Jun 20, 2020 3:29 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Now addicted to sugar!!
Replies: 11
Views: 4700

Re: Now addicted to sugar!!

At sixteen months of sobriety "craving" sugar probably has nothing to do with the biological or psychological aspect of sobriety. It is just another one of those things you will have to deal with or ignore. Don't look to deep for a source of your problem. You have just formed a bad habit that you wi...
by DaveP1951
Mon Jun 08, 2020 4:09 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at zoom meetings.
Replies: 15
Views: 1217

Re: Questions heard at zoom meetings.

Let's hope that the person who has the resentment is about 10 years old because that is so childish. Here is another resentment for them to focus on. Tell them I said "My Dad is bigger than their Dad. LOL
by DaveP1951
Sun Jun 07, 2020 7:16 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions
Replies: 42
Views: 2253

Re: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions

"We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery." Chapter Three Page 30 BB. For myself when I first came into AA I stayed sober but still struggled with the thought that "Maybe I wasn't alcoholic." Then, I came across that...
by DaveP1951
Sat Jun 06, 2020 11:10 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions
Replies: 42
Views: 2253

Re: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions

I have seen a lot more alcoholics sitting in AA meetings questioning if they are social drinkers than I have seen social drinkers sitting in bars questioning if they are alcoholics. If you are questioning you most likely are. Welcome to the club.
by DaveP1951
Sat Jun 06, 2020 11:03 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Ashamed to go back to aa
Replies: 7
Views: 295

Re: Ashamed to go back to aa

There are three types of people that enter AA. The first are those that come into AA and never relapse. The second are those that come thru the doors and after a number of relapses get and stay sober for the rest of their natural lifes. The third, unfortunately, are those that try AA, go back out an...
by DaveP1951
Fri Apr 03, 2020 10:44 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Putting in more work than the sponsee
Replies: 18
Views: 1678

Re: Putting in more work than the sponsee

i dont see why someone with 1,000+ days needs to be guided through the steps again. she stated shes not working a thorough program=the problem. the solution would NOT be taking someone with multiple years through the steps the way my sponsor did it. my responsibility would be to guide them to the s...
by DaveP1951
Thu Mar 19, 2020 7:41 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Xanax
Replies: 13
Views: 2082

Re: Xanax

My suggestion to Lila is "Get through this terrible pandemic situation first and then "split hairs" later."
by DaveP1951
Tue Mar 17, 2020 7:11 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The evenings
Replies: 12
Views: 2166

Re: The evenings

My mentor used to say " when you've had enough pain you will stop".

To add to that comment “When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the fear of change, you will change.
by DaveP1951
Sun Mar 08, 2020 8:05 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How can I be so good at this?
Replies: 17
Views: 2665

Re: How can I be so good at this?

Mike O wrote:
Sun Mar 08, 2020 4:08 am
If you see somebody you know at a meeting, then so will they.
I once ran into a new member in an AA group and they asked me " Are you surprised to see me here?" I replied "The only one I am surprised to see here is my-self."
by DaveP1951
Sat Mar 07, 2020 9:47 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How can I be so good at this?
Replies: 17
Views: 2665

Re: How can I be so good at this?

Avanshee you bring up an interesting point when when you say in a way, pregnancy is a form of compliance. You have a purpose . To add to your point I have a further question to Boppie? I am a father to two now adult children. I had a part into bringing them into this world. Once they were born shou...
by DaveP1951
Fri Mar 06, 2020 8:26 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: First sponsor but not going well
Replies: 31
Views: 5287

Re: First sponsor but not going well

"and explained that she had felt embarrassed and a failure as I was her first sponsee, but her sponsor had helped her to see that it wasn't personal and, even better, that we were both sober." Good point and may well be the case in this situation. Some times what we may take as an affront to oursel...
by DaveP1951
Wed Mar 04, 2020 10:32 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Daily contacts with other sober people...
Replies: 9
Views: 1721

Re: Daily contacts with other sober people...

Mike O wrote:
Wed Mar 04, 2020 11:18 am
Welcome.

Follow your own conscience, do what you are reasonably comfortable with.
But, work the steps.
😁
I always like to hear some common sense advise as mentioned above.Some times I think we try to give to much information and just confuse the new person.