Search found 47 matches

by Indianapolis
Fri Apr 10, 2020 7:17 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: What now?
Replies: 13
Views: 735

Re: What now?

And how will I ever have a chance and success if my partner continues to drink. He is able to drink like a “normal” person, but I can tell in only 8 days our interactions are different. Congrats on 8 days. Boredom is normal for a bit. It's just the brains tricks. Stay busy, read, play with your kid...
by Indianapolis
Fri Mar 20, 2020 4:31 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Zoom Meeting?
Replies: 2
Views: 657

Re: Zoom Meeting?

I did kick one off today at 5pm, and will do it consistently at 5pm. If anyone is needed a zoom meeting, reach out.
by Indianapolis
Thu Mar 19, 2020 8:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Zoom Meeting?
Replies: 2
Views: 657

Zoom Meeting?

Anyone want to do a zoom (online webcam) meeting tomorrow? I've got a zoom account and can send a link so that we can have a meeting? You just need a computer with a webcam.

I'll propose noon EST. Anyone game? If so, send me a pm and I'll send a link.
by Indianapolis
Sun Mar 08, 2020 7:51 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 20years
Replies: 6
Views: 1440

Re: 20years

90 Days later, my liver came back clean as a whistle. My doctor was amazed that after all the drinking I did (of course I did not tell her the truth about how much I drank) that my healing was so complete. I have a similar story, involving similar lies to my doctor. Its gotta be unbelievably hard f...
by Indianapolis
Sat Mar 07, 2020 3:47 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How can I be so good at this?
Replies: 17
Views: 2647

Re: How can I be so good at this?

Weve all been exactly where you are, boppie. I promise. Exactly there. The promise i wouldn't get any, brief periods of resistance, overwhelming compulsion, guilt at failing. All of it. So has EVERYONE in a room. EVERYONE. So theres no embarrassment, because they all know your story, and lived it. S...
by Indianapolis
Thu Mar 05, 2020 7:25 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How can I be so good at this?
Replies: 17
Views: 2647

Re: How can I be so good at this?

Hahaha, yep, me to a "T". Welcome! There is hope! I'm a dad, a professional (business lawyer), a husband, etc etc. I could hide it too, quite successfully, for a long time. Kept my job, kept my clients, kept my family.... and would shake and sweat when sober, claim it was too much caffeine. I'd rota...
by Indianapolis
Wed Mar 04, 2020 1:33 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: drinking history
Replies: 9
Views: 1421

Re: drinking history

Yes, I went through this process. It was enlightening to think through my drinking over time. You can't put a day or a week on when my use transitioned from use to abuse to addiction, but I can get close with years. For example, I can think of an evening maybe a decade ago when I was stuck in the ho...
by Indianapolis
Fri Feb 28, 2020 1:06 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship question
Replies: 6
Views: 1228

Re: Sponsorship question

I don't have nearly the sobriety or experience you do, but I'll offer my thoughts for discussion purposes. I'm an agnostic. If you've got god, great! I'm slightly jealous because it makes reading the 12 steps a whole lot easier, but otherwise it doesn't really affect me. I can happily hear about peo...
by Indianapolis
Thu Feb 27, 2020 7:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 7752

Re: God/Higher Power

Ever watch "Horton hears a Who"? I very well might be a "Who", but I am not "Horton" Even though I may once have believed that. I get the reference. This borders on one of my pet peeves as an agnostic AA -- the argument that "if you don't recognize God, then you're assuming you're god." Nope. I am ...
by Indianapolis
Thu Feb 27, 2020 4:33 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 7752

Re: God/Higher Power

And yet here I am, sober. And thousands more atheists and agnostics with no "god", still sober through AA. Either that means (1) us agnostics are all doomed to fail, or (2) that the Big Book was written by one guy with three years sobriety who thought God was his answer, and maybe we shouldn't assu...
by Indianapolis
Wed Feb 26, 2020 10:14 pm
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: Mental Obsession
Replies: 19
Views: 3035

Re: Mental Obsession

If I'm thinking about ways and excuses to get more alcohol during times when i want to be sober, that's an good example of the mental obsession. If ive gone as low as I want to go in my life (unmanageability, rock bottom) and am still looking for excuses to dig myself in deeper by drinking more, tha...
by Indianapolis
Wed Feb 26, 2020 9:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 7752

Re: God/Higher Power

I still struggle with my conception (mis-conception) of "God" but reading the AA BB, it is difficult as it appears to be a requirement, not an option. I am not aware of anything in the literature that states we can do this without God's help. And yet here I am, sober. And thousands more atheists an...
by Indianapolis
Wed Feb 26, 2020 10:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 7752

Re: God/Higher Power

I'm a pleasant, open minded agnostic. Don't mind that others have God, don't mind hearing about him, glad it works for them. But I neither have religion, nor have any desire to find it, nor stress about that gap in my life in the slightest. Thus, "God" has had nothing to do with my sobriety, to my k...
by Indianapolis
Wed Feb 26, 2020 10:37 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: First sponsor but not going well
Replies: 31
Views: 5252

Re: First sponsor but not going well

But right now this whole thing is making me not want to go to AA at all and just continue reading the big book and start working the steps at home again, which I was doing before I attended my first meeting. It’s putting me off AA meetings completely and creating huge anxiety. I couldn't have done ...
by Indianapolis
Fri Feb 21, 2020 9:53 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 24 hour Sobriety plan vs Permanent Sobriety
Replies: 47
Views: 5626

Re: 24 hour Sobriety plan vs Permanent Sobriety

The Big Book is great, helpful. But it's not sacred text. It was written by one guy (Bill) except for one chapter (To Employers, by Hank Parkhurst) when Bill had 3 years sobriety. The end recognizes that the group was still learning, and development remained possible. Some archives and workshops ta...