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by Indianapolis
Fri Sep 11, 2020 6:56 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: "Recovery"
Replies: 8
Views: 149

Re: "Recovery"

I consider it a valuable resource for the newly recovering person who's struggling to connect with the 1930s style of the big book. Its well written and has some good insights, in a modern vocabulary.
by Indianapolis
Mon Sep 07, 2020 11:27 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sharing our story
Replies: 15
Views: 227

Re: Sharing our story

Try finding another meeting? There are tons of meetings on zoom these days. Maybe you're just not connecting well with the folks in your area or your particular meeting? For me, meetings have value. Sharing has value. Talking through my issues has value. The accountability that comes with a regular ...
by Indianapolis
Fri Aug 28, 2020 8:43 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Step 11 - Meditation. A different meaning?
Replies: 6
Views: 153

Re: Step 11 - Meditation. A different meaning?

This is an evolving concept for me. I explored zen meditation for a year or so back in the 90s, but it never really stuck with me. But I understand the concepts. I have read a fair few books on mindfulness meditation practices as guides toward "living more in the now", but never really engaged the p...
by Indianapolis
Thu Aug 27, 2020 7:31 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Newbie saying Hello and thanks :)
Replies: 5
Views: 175

Re: Newbie saying Hello and thanks :)

If you're interested, I host a 5pm EST zoom meeting every night. We usually have 8-15 people who attend, almost all friends or friends of friends. But, we happen to have 3 women right now who are coming (sponsees of one of our usual members) who all have between 30 and 60 days. They're great women, ...
by Indianapolis
Thu Aug 27, 2020 7:25 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How to work the work in from the start!?
Replies: 10
Views: 174

Re: How to work the work in from the start!?

I struggled a bit with my sponsor's speed at the start -- it was approx. 3 months before we moved from Steps 1 - 3 into Step 4. Gosh, that felt like an eternity. During that time, I hit 1-2 meetings per day, read everything I could, and otherwise absorbed myself in the program. Some great reading op...
by Indianapolis
Fri Aug 14, 2020 7:14 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 10
Replies: 6
Views: 180

Re: Step 10

I don't have a "one sized fits all" mentality to step 10. It depends on the day, the issue, and the puzzle I'm working on. What it asks me to do, I think, is to continue to review my defects, assets, interactions, and motivations. Some days I'm useful and productive and content and feeling balanced,...
by Indianapolis
Fri Apr 10, 2020 7:17 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: What now?
Replies: 13
Views: 1313

Re: What now?

And how will I ever have a chance and success if my partner continues to drink. He is able to drink like a “normal” person, but I can tell in only 8 days our interactions are different. Congrats on 8 days. Boredom is normal for a bit. It's just the brains tricks. Stay busy, read, play with your kid...
by Indianapolis
Fri Mar 20, 2020 4:31 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Zoom Meeting?
Replies: 2
Views: 818

Re: Zoom Meeting?

I did kick one off today at 5pm, and will do it consistently at 5pm. If anyone is needed a zoom meeting, reach out.
by Indianapolis
Thu Mar 19, 2020 8:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Zoom Meeting?
Replies: 2
Views: 818

Zoom Meeting?

Anyone want to do a zoom (online webcam) meeting tomorrow? I've got a zoom account and can send a link so that we can have a meeting? You just need a computer with a webcam.

I'll propose noon EST. Anyone game? If so, send me a pm and I'll send a link.
by Indianapolis
Sun Mar 08, 2020 7:51 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 20years
Replies: 6
Views: 1791

Re: 20years

90 Days later, my liver came back clean as a whistle. My doctor was amazed that after all the drinking I did (of course I did not tell her the truth about how much I drank) that my healing was so complete. I have a similar story, involving similar lies to my doctor. Its gotta be unbelievably hard f...
by Indianapolis
Sat Mar 07, 2020 3:47 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How can I be so good at this?
Replies: 17
Views: 3443

Re: How can I be so good at this?

Weve all been exactly where you are, boppie. I promise. Exactly there. The promise i wouldn't get any, brief periods of resistance, overwhelming compulsion, guilt at failing. All of it. So has EVERYONE in a room. EVERYONE. So theres no embarrassment, because they all know your story, and lived it. S...
by Indianapolis
Thu Mar 05, 2020 7:25 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How can I be so good at this?
Replies: 17
Views: 3443

Re: How can I be so good at this?

Hahaha, yep, me to a "T". Welcome! There is hope! I'm a dad, a professional (business lawyer), a husband, etc etc. I could hide it too, quite successfully, for a long time. Kept my job, kept my clients, kept my family.... and would shake and sweat when sober, claim it was too much caffeine. I'd rota...
by Indianapolis
Wed Mar 04, 2020 1:33 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: drinking history
Replies: 9
Views: 1760

Re: drinking history

Yes, I went through this process. It was enlightening to think through my drinking over time. You can't put a day or a week on when my use transitioned from use to abuse to addiction, but I can get close with years. For example, I can think of an evening maybe a decade ago when I was stuck in the ho...
by Indianapolis
Fri Feb 28, 2020 1:06 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship question
Replies: 6
Views: 1585

Re: Sponsorship question

I don't have nearly the sobriety or experience you do, but I'll offer my thoughts for discussion purposes. I'm an agnostic. If you've got god, great! I'm slightly jealous because it makes reading the 12 steps a whole lot easier, but otherwise it doesn't really affect me. I can happily hear about peo...
by Indianapolis
Thu Feb 27, 2020 7:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 10902

Re: God/Higher Power

Ever watch "Horton hears a Who"? I very well might be a "Who", but I am not "Horton" Even though I may once have believed that. I get the reference. This borders on one of my pet peeves as an agnostic AA -- the argument that "if you don't recognize God, then you're assuming you're god." Nope. I am ...