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by Indianapolis
Fri Jan 22, 2021 10:43 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How long were you Sober before you got your first sponsee?
Replies: 4
Views: 51

Re: How long were you Sober before you got your first sponsee?

I had about 11 months before I started sponsoring. I'd worked the steps, was hitting meetings regularly (almost daily), volunteering at the local detox place, etc. A guy asked me to sponsor him, and I was unsure. My sponsor said I should, so I said yes. I've since sponsored a few guys. It's a fascin...
by Indianapolis
Fri Jan 15, 2021 7:20 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: New to Group
Replies: 5
Views: 85

Re: New to Group

Welcome!
by Indianapolis
Mon Jan 11, 2021 8:25 am
Forum: Daily Reflections © A.A. World Services
Topic: 11th January Daily Reflection
Replies: 3
Views: 69

Re: 11th January Daily Reflection

I often say that Step 1 took me the most time, and also the least time, to get right of any step. The "most time" because I spent years denying that I was powerless. Years claiming that my life was manageable. And failing, over and over and over again to abide by the rules I set for myself. It took ...
by Indianapolis
Fri Jan 08, 2021 8:06 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Daily Picture January 8th
Replies: 5
Views: 62

Re: Daily Picture January 8th

Advice is such a fascinating concept in AA. On the one hand, we're only there to offer our "experience strength and hope". On the other hand, there are plenty of quotes like this about "advice." But on what topics am I qualified to offer "advice"? Very few, other than my path to not drinking today. ...
by Indianapolis
Tue Jan 05, 2021 11:58 am
Forum: Daily Reflections © A.A. World Services
Topic: 5th January Daily Reflection
Replies: 3
Views: 68

Re: 5th January Daily Reflection

I truly did believe I was going insane and that if I kept up my drinking behavior I would end up facing a tragic death. Quite likely a death by a weapon in another man’s hands. I was facing a death of another sort -- death by a weapon in my own hands. I spent my last night of drinking debating suic...
by Indianapolis
Mon Dec 28, 2020 9:38 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Recovering with family
Replies: 12
Views: 596

Re: Recovering with family

I wasn't aware of it at the time, but I made it very hard on her. Whatever approach she took, I wanted the opposite. If she tried to talk about what was going on, I didn't want to talk about it. If she didn't talk about what was going on, I thought she wasn't being supportive. I wanted space, but i...
by Indianapolis
Fri Dec 25, 2020 9:06 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Merry Christmas and hello
Replies: 4
Views: 125

Re: Merry Christmas and hello

Welcome! And Merry Christmas to you as well!
by Indianapolis
Wed Dec 23, 2020 10:19 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Daily Picture December 23rd
Replies: 4
Views: 120

Re: Daily Picture December 23rd

After reading this, I made "Respond not react" the topic for my meeting tonight. The discussion actually led me to an insight for this alcoholic. "Respond not react" usually means, for me, to pause before instant reactions to things and plan an approach (or lack of approach, when appropriate, as dis...
by Indianapolis
Wed Dec 23, 2020 8:17 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Question
Replies: 4
Views: 190

Re: Question

I'm not aware of any "one size fits all" answer to your question. My wife drinks nightly, and I'm still sober. But -- I won't lie -- it would have greatly helped my journey in the first year if she'd opted to stay sober. That said, everyone's path is different. Have you asked him WHY that boundary i...
by Indianapolis
Wed Dec 23, 2020 7:16 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Good morning. I'm grateful recovering alcoholic named Eric.
Replies: 6
Views: 185

Re: Good morning. I'm grateful recovering alcoholic named Eric.

Welcome! Congrats on the 45 days, that's awesome! And happy sober holidays to you as well!
by Indianapolis
Tue Dec 22, 2020 10:35 am
Forum: Daily Reflections © A.A. World Services
Topic: 22nd December Daily Reflection
Replies: 1
Views: 80

Re: 22nd December Daily Reflection

For this alcoholic, "judging" another alcoholic is just a way of separating myself. If I judge someone's bottom, or judge someone's daily struggle, or judge someone's program, it's just an ego-driven way of creating distance. And I don't want distance from my colleagues in the program. I want the cl...
by Indianapolis
Mon Dec 21, 2020 11:02 am
Forum: Daily Reflections © A.A. World Services
Topic: 21st December Daily Reflection
Replies: 2
Views: 91

Re: 21st December Daily Reflection

Funny, just today I was chatting with a sponsee about his quarrel with his daughter and thinking -- it's good he didn't drink over this, but I don't feel like there's much help I can offer here..... Funny to get this reminder the same day to "stay in my lane" as sponsor.
by Indianapolis
Mon Dec 21, 2020 7:43 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Daily Picture December 21st
Replies: 2
Views: 97

Re: Daily Picture December 21st

One of my friends in the rooms likes to say "Treat everyone as though they have a broken heart." It's good advice, and I like this reminder that it's particularly true this week. Even during a week of merriment, there's going to be extra stress in the air too. Kindness is always a good choice. Thank...
by Indianapolis
Fri Dec 18, 2020 10:14 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cucumbers and Pickles
Replies: 8
Views: 282

Re: Cucumbers and Pickles

There's no doubt or question in my mind that I'm a permanent pickle. And life isn't all that bad this way. My granddaughter is 12. Her favorite food is ~ you guessed it PICKLES. So I guess she LOVES ME! I do not want it to be an omen, but her heritage is right on for being afflicted with this disea...
by Indianapolis
Thu Dec 17, 2020 11:07 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cucumbers and Pickles
Replies: 8
Views: 282

Re: Cucumbers and Pickles

Yeah, I don't know exactly when I got "pickled." I can guess within a year or two, but can't set a precise day, date, or drink. But whenever it happened, it happened. These days, when I envision trying to drink like a normal, I just laugh. That would work.... for about 1 day. Then I'd be back to old...