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by rjr34036
Sun Apr 26, 2020 9:12 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Such Unfortunates
Replies: 42
Views: 2625

Re: Such Unfortunates

Also, I didn’t really figure out who or what my HP was like until I got to 12.

It’s hard to choose something when you’ve not yet had experiences with anything.
by rjr34036
Sun Apr 26, 2020 9:11 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Such Unfortunates
Replies: 42
Views: 2625

Re: Such Unfortunates

Hello friend. I got sober May 2017. I went through the steps very slowly (didn’t know there was any other way at the time), and if I’m honest I didn’t feel any effect or magic from the process until I began making amends. I did have a profound spiritual experience that had nothing to do with working...
by rjr34036
Sat Apr 25, 2020 6:38 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Modem Step 4
Replies: 23
Views: 3811

Re: Modem Step 4

I asked my if I should use a word document (I came in at 26 years old in 2016) so when she said I had to write it I thought she was insane lol. I also wonder if it would make much of a difference. I imagine I’d want to copy and paste in the “Affects My:” column, so there I could see it becoming a pr...
by rjr34036
Sun Apr 12, 2020 3:53 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Is the BB the only AA way?
Replies: 25
Views: 1581

Re: Is the BB the only AA way?

Before AA came on the scene, there was a group called the Washingtonians, along with the Oxford group, who I think both tried to guide people on spiritual living. They had a much more strict way of doing things. Don’t know what the success rate of these groups were - though we know that Ebby, a prod...
by rjr34036
Thu Apr 09, 2020 2:42 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship in relation to a BB Workshop
Replies: 21
Views: 2491

Re: Sponsorship in relation to a BB Workshop

Like it or not , the fact is, many open discussion meetings are a place to practice and talk about abstinence management techniques. Its kinda like the AA waiting room. Attendees are not ready yet to see the Great Physician but are afraid to go back out in the parking lot. I only went looking for a...
by rjr34036
Thu Apr 09, 2020 2:34 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: The only two things
Replies: 9
Views: 711

Re: The only two things

I once heard someone say this and I’ve loved it ever since. It has been true in my own recovery “this program isn’t for those who want it, and it’s not for those who need it, it’s for those who DO it”
by rjr34036
Wed Apr 08, 2020 12:49 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Day 2, looking for a female sponsor?
Replies: 8
Views: 620

Re: Day 2, looking for a female sponsor?

We are currently very much in need of more female sponsors. Please contact me if you are interested in service with e-AA 12th_Step_coordinator@e-aa.org We encourage individuals in need of a sponsor to use the facility we provide here at the e-AA Group by completing the form available here : http://...
by rjr34036
Wed Apr 08, 2020 12:16 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Day 2, looking for a female sponsor?
Replies: 8
Views: 620

Re: Day 2, looking for a female sponsor?

I am a female who sponsors! I been working with a couple women virtually and find it not to be too bad! I’ll send you a message with my email and number. Call or text or whatever you’d like.
by rjr34036
Tue Apr 07, 2020 9:11 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship in relation to a BB Workshop
Replies: 21
Views: 2491

Re: Sponsorship in relation to a BB Workshop

I love the idea of a commitment group, and a collective journey thru the steps. I can only imagine the camaraderie and experiences had from that sort of thing! I’ll let you all know how it goes! Thank you again ❤️ I have been through many. They are All Enlightening! And very Fellowship Growing. I h...
by rjr34036
Mon Apr 06, 2020 3:14 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 8089

Re: God/Higher Power

From what I understand and deduct from my own experience, the only thing required was NOT BELIEF, but WILLINGNESS, followed by action. If you can say you’re willing to believe that something other than u could restore you to sanity (whether it be Jesus, the fellowship, or even the 12 steps themselve...
by rjr34036
Mon Apr 06, 2020 2:21 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship after long time sobriety
Replies: 13
Views: 1379

Re: Sponsorship after long time sobriety

I wanted to comment on this tread from the time it first went up, but my feelings about sponsorship, vary so much from that of the majority, I was afraid I might put others off, and kill the thread. Also, I sometimes get carried away in writing, and trust that others respect that we can have differ...
by rjr34036
Mon Apr 06, 2020 12:31 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship in relation to a BB Workshop
Replies: 21
Views: 2491

Re: Sponsorship in relation to a BB Workshop

I did that myself, then afterwards I started a back to brass tacks meeting with my sponsor, we took newcomers through the steps as soon as they walked in the door. Balkers rarely came back but newcomers to AA offered little resistance. We showed them this is how early AA worked and why the success ...
by rjr34036
Mon Apr 06, 2020 12:25 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Steps 1, 2 & 3
Replies: 15
Views: 3308

Re: Steps 1, 2 & 3

I actually proposed a big book workshop with the group I facilitate but it wasn’t readily accepted (they’re worried about what their “sponsors” will think and that it’ll be a conflict of interest). Oh dear! This is so wrong. A “conflict of interest”!!!??? Lol yeah, the ideas around what sponsorship...
by rjr34036
Fri Mar 27, 2020 4:06 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Steps 1, 2 & 3
Replies: 15
Views: 3308

Re: Steps 1, 2 & 3

As a newcomer I couldn't wait to just get on with the steps but knowing now what I do I know that I would not have understood the steps even if someone placed it in my brain with a memory stick so I believe in the slowing down process and doing it properly. We are simply not emotionally or mentally...
by rjr34036
Thu Jan 30, 2020 8:19 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Group Inventory
Replies: 9
Views: 1333

Re: Group Inventory

Thank you Brock!