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by MyNameIsBetsy
Fri Jun 26, 2020 9:34 pm
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: choice
Replies: 9
Views: 192

Re: choice

Can anyone explain what they mean when they say we have lost the power of choice in drink. Hey Dub, thanks for a great question. Here's how I understand it with an example that happened just today. I met a friend for coffee. I don't usually drink coffee, so the caffeine got to me and I felt jittery...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Wed Jun 24, 2020 1:54 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: How to find a sponsor during quarantine?
Replies: 6
Views: 188

Re: How to find a sponsor during quarantine?

I just wonder if there are any other ways to find a sponsor during quarantine time? Hello Moonflower3, welcome. You might have to work at this just a bit harder during the quarantine, but it is still very doable to get a local sponsor. Here's how I suggest you go about doing it . . . 1) call your l...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Mon Jun 22, 2020 7:57 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 13
Views: 231

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

Does anyone have an idea how I can get her to open up her eyes. I cannot make this decision for her. When we get sober, we tend to see the drinking problems of those around us. The intensely frustrating lesson we all get to learn is we can't fix them ! They must fix themselves. Doesn't mean I haven...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Fri Jun 12, 2020 12:01 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Birth of AA
Replies: 2
Views: 122

Re: The Birth of AA

Here we are 85 years later.
I am grateful for those who came before us and put all of this AA program together . . . and kept this program together. Without their pioneering work, there might not have been a solution for when I dragged my sorry butt in here.

Betsy, an alcoholic
by MyNameIsBetsy
Tue Jun 09, 2020 12:49 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The right program
Replies: 14
Views: 357

Re: The right program

I have going through this back and forth of deciding if AA is not right for me or if I am not just ready for it, or, or, or... I hope you find what you are looking for. Me? All I was looking for was a way to stay sober. I found sobriety in AA. I also found God, myself, happiness, friends . . . Bets...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Sat Jun 06, 2020 7:03 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Ashamed to go back to aa
Replies: 7
Views: 283

Re: Ashamed to go back to aa

Hi David, welcome. I ashamed to go back to aa and have see all the people who did something with thier lives. Okay. Shame noted. But, go anyway. Don't you dare let that stop you from doing what you know to be good for you. Lots of folks come in with shame. You are so very much NOT alone. Everyone do...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Fri May 29, 2020 7:16 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How do I get a sponsor?
Replies: 7
Views: 800

Re: How do I get a sponsor?

How do I get a sponsor? Real simple answer: just ask someone. More complicated answer: find someone who has a personal demeanor about her that speaks to you. Peaceful. Content. Happy. Sober. Then ask that person (preferably the same gender) if she will sponsor you. How do you find her? Usually in A...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Fri May 15, 2020 5:55 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I drink because my life is ruined
Replies: 8
Views: 754

Re: I drink because my life is ruined

Hi Timoxi, thanks for posting yesterday. Getting sober was hard, but very much worth it. Sobriety is a process, a slow, steady, learning process. Everyone starts that process in the exact same way . . . by not picking up a drink today. There is no other way to start. It helps to be with others who h...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Sat May 09, 2020 9:03 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: First sponsor but not going well
Replies: 31
Views: 5252

Re: First sponsor but not going well

This is such a wonderful posting, Alibaba. Thank you so much for sharing an update with us. Closing in on 7 months sober!! WooHoo!!!! I'm so happy that things have turned around for you.

Betsy, an alcoholic
by MyNameIsBetsy
Sat May 09, 2020 8:42 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need help...to just start...
Replies: 7
Views: 647

Re: Need help...to just start...

Hi Liz, welcome. I am just struggling to get past that first drink and that first day and that first week etc. Honestly just so scared of who I am without it because I only know me with it. Any suggestions or help would be great. I echo what Brock said, that not many of us really wanted to go to our...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Mon May 04, 2020 8:02 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How many of us are out there?
Replies: 12
Views: 854

Re: How many of us are out there?

Hi Maxdean, welcome! Thinking of giving this sponsor ago. He seems really nice and understands our work. I read your posting from back in September. Looks like you've been hanging around here, on and off, for a few months. We put down the drink when we are ready, when something in our life is more i...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Mon May 04, 2020 7:33 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How many of us are out there?
Replies: 12
Views: 854

Re: How many of us are out there?

Hi Boppie, welcome. I will be sober today. I feel confident I will be sober tomorrow, but hope at long term recovery often seems impossible and makes me incredibly sad sometimes. Hold onto the one day at a time attitude. That is how all of us get through the initial days of sobriety. One day, today....
by MyNameIsBetsy
Mon Apr 27, 2020 9:20 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Unmanageability of step 1
Replies: 16
Views: 1211

Re: Unmanageability of step 1

When I think of unmanageability, I think of what I gave up to continue drinking. I think of the jobs, the friends, the family, the professional respect, the self respect I gave up because alcohol was more important to me than any of those things.

Betsy, an alcoholic
by MyNameIsBetsy
Mon Apr 27, 2020 9:04 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Starting my journey
Replies: 2
Views: 341

Re: Starting my journey

Hey McMonigal, welcome. I am so mad at myself for letting it get this bad but am looking forward to future without alcohol in my life. It's a good life, it really can be. I understand where you are at. I was there too. Most of us were. Alcohol eats away at us, yet tells us we should drink more. If w...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Sat Apr 25, 2020 8:25 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Any Excuse
Replies: 5
Views: 446

Re: Any Excuse

Welcome Pelucid and dlc. It’s so strange to be smart enough to know that you shouldn’t do what you’re doing, yet still do. That is the insanity of it all, isn't it. We drink even though the last time we drank we promised ourselves that we would never do it again. And then we do it again. Some of us ...