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by MyNameIsBetsy
Thu Jan 21, 2021 10:42 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How long were you Sober before you got your first sponsee?
Replies: 4
Views: 51

Re: How long were you Sober before you got your first sponsee?

Hi Tony, interesting question. Here's my take on it. In order to sponsor someone else and take them through the steps, we need to have been through the steps ourselves. Until we have done those steps we have nothing to share. If you've been through the steps, then you have something to offer someone...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Tue Jan 19, 2021 1:17 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship/ Group Worries... Feeling disconnected from the fellowship. Really need help
Replies: 6
Views: 94

Re: Sponsorship/ Group Worries... Feeling disconnected from the fellowship. Really need help

Hi AnonAddict, welcome. Sounds like your head is really talking to you right now! Some of us, and you probably know this, call that the "committee." The committee tells us all sorts of bad information. Tell that committee to shut up and go away! Be forceful. Say it out loud! "GO AWAY!!!" Here are so...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Sun Jan 17, 2021 7:55 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Poll: Non-alcoholic attendance of significant other
Replies: 8
Views: 124

Re: Poll: Non-alcoholic attendance of significant other

Hi, welcome. Ask her. Ask her what she wants you to do. Then do it. If she does not want you with her at open AA meetings, please honor that. None of us are in AA to meet a whole new group of friends. That is not why we come in those doors. We are here to save ourselves! There is a sister program wh...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Thu Jan 14, 2021 1:47 pm
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: New to Group
Replies: 5
Views: 85

Re: New to Group

Hello, Paul. Welcome!

Betsy, an alcoholic
by MyNameIsBetsy
Sun Jan 10, 2021 5:39 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Anxiety surrounding the first chair/speaking in meetings
Replies: 11
Views: 2523

Re: Anxiety surrounding the first chair/speaking in meetings

Hi herpawearo, glad you posted. It's hard to share at first. It all feels so darned awkward. I remember feeling as if all eyes were upon me, expecting something profound! I don't know anyone who is good at this at first. But, with time, we get more comfortable and the words (mostly) come out better....
by MyNameIsBetsy
Sun Jan 03, 2021 12:51 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need to begin
Replies: 6
Views: 269

Re: Need to begin

Hi Jane, welcome. I know what you mean. I also got sick of going to bed drunk and waking up dehydrated and hung over. I made so many promises to myself about quitting, and couldn't keep those promises. At some point in my drinking years I quit making those promises because I knew I would not be able...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Fri Jan 01, 2021 7:09 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: A real issue
Replies: 4
Views: 116

Re: A real issue

Hi Pillowcase, welcome. Have you had enough yet? Have you reached the point you are ready to be done with the alcohol? Can you see yourself and know that alcohol is a path toward destruction? If you are done, Alcoholics Anonymous has a program of recovery that has helped millions of us live sober, c...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Mon Dec 28, 2020 9:00 am
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 5Years
Replies: 4
Views: 131

Re: 5Years

Congratulations on the five years! You are a really good example of how life can get good once we put down the drink and live by AA principles. We grow in sobriety as the years roll on - each year gets just a bit better! Glad you posted and gave us the opportunity to get to know you a bit. Betsy, an...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Mon Dec 28, 2020 8:54 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Recovering with family
Replies: 12
Views: 596

Re: Recovering with family

Hi Suzie, Thanks for reaching out. You didn't mention what you have been doing to maintain your sobriety once you left rehab. I hope you have found AA meetings where you can identify with other sober AAers. We all help each other so much just by honestly sharing how we are working this program into ...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Fri Dec 25, 2020 2:58 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Merry Christmas and hello
Replies: 4
Views: 125

Re: Merry Christmas and hello

Welcome, Archstanton . Merry Christmas!

Betsy, an alcoholic
by MyNameIsBetsy
Wed Dec 23, 2020 9:00 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Question
Replies: 4
Views: 190

Re: Question

Hi Snowbunny, Thanks for posting such a provocative question. It sure takes us alcoholics a lot of time to get to the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous and get sober, huh? It must have been so very frustrating to watch the man you love continue to be an active drunk. I'm sure you were hoping/praying for...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Wed Dec 23, 2020 7:19 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Good morning. I'm grateful recovering alcoholic named Eric.
Replies: 6
Views: 185

Re: Good morning. I'm grateful recovering alcoholic named Eric.

Welcome, Eric. It's a good day to be sober!!

Betsy, another alcoholic
by MyNameIsBetsy
Wed Dec 16, 2020 8:17 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cucumbers and Pickles
Replies: 8
Views: 282

Cucumbers and Pickles

We have an analogy in the AA rooms that we alcoholics are much like pickles. A cucumber can turn into a pickle. Once we are a pickle, we are not able to return to being a cucumber. Why all the fuss about a humble garden vegetable? Because when drinkers (cucumbers) become alcoholics (pickles), we can...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Sat Dec 12, 2020 7:17 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How to put together my story for a speaker meeting
Replies: 12
Views: 458

Re: How to put together my story for a speaker meeting

I guess it depends on your audience. If you are talking to a group of newly sober, I'd spend about 33% on each segment - you want to offer identification to the people early in their sobriety. If you are talking to a group of sober AAers who have been around for a while, I'd suggest focusing more on...
by MyNameIsBetsy
Wed Dec 09, 2020 8:10 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: "Little" Stuff Sober People Do
Replies: 12
Views: 473

Re: "Little" Stuff Sober People Do

I really really like this topic, and love your daily sober changes, Indy. I now make my bed each morning. It's a small thing, but meaningful. It starts each day having accomplished the first task well. Clean and neat. I never bothered before . . just left the mess and climbed back in it again each n...