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by Craig_PDX
Mon Aug 12, 2019 9:09 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Difficult when it’s all around you
Replies: 18
Views: 3322

Re: Difficult when it’s all around you

It's just how it is -- you might have to forego some activities that trigger you. I had to. The good news is that this might not be forever. For me, watching TV at night was a when I did all my drinking. Early in my sobriety, I had to give up TV. This was hard! But, I can do it now. I have to self-m...
by Craig_PDX
Mon Aug 12, 2019 8:52 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Things heard at meetings that aren't in the BB
Replies: 19
Views: 2811

Re: Things heard at meetings that aren't in the BB

I strongly disagree that non-Big Book things undermine AA.

Of course, some things might! But new traditions can be good.

If AA is going to remain relevant over time, it must change and adapt.
by Craig_PDX
Mon Aug 12, 2019 8:48 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Do Open Meetings Vary By City / Country?
Replies: 8
Views: 1566

Re: Do Open Meetings Vary By City / Country?

I my club, here in Portland, I think all the meetings are open. Most have a "guest" leader who shares from their personal experience. Not anyone special -- just an attendee picked right then. If a person has a birthday, they often speak. . They have to be sober but quite new people are invited. The ...
by Craig_PDX
Mon Aug 12, 2019 8:44 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Why do alcoholics self sabotage?
Replies: 13
Views: 2873

Re: Why do alcoholics self sabotage?

Self-sabotage is a signature problem with this illness. I can't say why that is -- but it's very helpful to understand that. There is something about our brains that makes us lie to ourselves and believe our own lies! Our spouses and friends see right through it, but we don't. That's where doing Ste...
by Craig_PDX
Mon Aug 12, 2019 8:36 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Fitting in
Replies: 10
Views: 1834

Re: Fitting in

My local group is quite different than me, socially. I'm a college educated professional and they are mostly blue collar or just street people. I had a "high bottom" and never went to jail or was homeless. Many of them did. At first, this was a bit of a struggle for me. But, the more I heard their s...
by Craig_PDX
Mon Aug 12, 2019 8:28 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Surrender & hand it over. I'm struggling
Replies: 20
Views: 3555

Re: Surrender & hand it over. I'm struggling

I had a life threatening illness and did it sober. (Thank God, I recovered) I was so glad I was present for it. Death is one of the profound experiences in life and you don't want to miss out on it. And, being sober in your last days is a gift to your family and friends. Nobody wants to see their lo...
by Craig_PDX
Sun Aug 11, 2019 8:38 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Listerine DUI
Replies: 19
Views: 6336

Re: Listerine DUI

Listerine can be a problem for recovering alcoholics.

Especially drinking it! It's 26% alcohol. Non-alcoholics just swish it.

It's a documented thing -- there are lots of credible articles about this issue on the web.
by Craig_PDX
Sun Aug 11, 2019 8:28 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Non Alcoholic Binging Experiences
Replies: 8
Views: 2370

Re: Non Alcoholic Binging Experiences

I never do one of anything.

I find that is true for lots of alcoholics.

I, personally, find it helps to just accept this about myself but use the tools of AA to express my big personality in a positive way, rather than over indulging and excess.
by Craig_PDX
Sun Aug 11, 2019 8:12 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cognitive performance after quitting
Replies: 3
Views: 1675

Re: Cognitive performance after quitting

Obviously, it goes up immediately, compared to being drunk! I don't think my cognitive performance went up in an "IQ" sense. But, when I re-engaged with the world, my brain re-engaged, too. I read more. Talk with people more. Listen to music more. Do my art more. I even have taken a couple of night ...
by Craig_PDX
Sun Aug 11, 2019 8:01 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Too young to share at 3 months - thoughts?
Replies: 8
Views: 1607

Re: Too young to share at 3 months - thoughts?

My group lets people share even "younger" than that. I like it. It helps me get to know the person's story and needs. Newly sober people can have wisdom, too! Just tell your own story and don't feel like you must have all the answers. Your truth is your truth and some people can benefit from it.