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by BA Lodi
Sun May 17, 2020 3:34 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Help
Replies: 5
Views: 735

Re: Help

Oh my, I was an English major and a Philosophy minor a long time ago. Those lines about "help" reminded me of going round and round and round trying to get to the bottom of things! College did teach me to think, but I sure used it to fuel my alcoholism!!! Yes, indeed, I've got to KISS! Given a choic...
by BA Lodi
Sun May 17, 2020 2:33 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance - page 417 Big Book
Replies: 18
Views: 17805

Re: Acceptance - page 417 Big Book

Hi Everybody, I am not religious and used the Home Group as my Higher Power for yearS. So a lot of things that seem obvious to religious-background people are not one bit obvious to me. Over time, I did incorporate my original special feelings for Nature into a cosmic creator God, but Man is not It'...
by BA Lodi
Mon Apr 20, 2020 8:16 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Jack Alexander Article
Replies: 5
Views: 592

Re: The Jack Alexander Article

Of course, the Traditions hadn't been written yet! Duh. Thank you all for providing a historical perspective and showing how the Article was well received at the time but helped put us on the path to being self-supporting and adopting a policy of non-affiliation in the long run! Happy Monday! Barbar...
by BA Lodi
Fri Apr 17, 2020 10:28 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Jack Alexander Article
Replies: 5
Views: 592

Re: The Jack Alexander Article

Why does this sound like advertisement to me? I know, early on, doctors, hospitals, and newspapers helped spread the word about AA. Have these articles become part of approved AA literature, now? Attraction, not promotion. For me, I have to be open to other alcoholics, but I still occasionally want ...
by BA Lodi
Fri Feb 28, 2020 12:43 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 9247

Re: God/Higher Power

My drinking killed my special feeling for Nature and my woman's intuition. Being a loner and a "worshiper" of self-sufficiency, I was atheist by my mid-twenties. My desperation to get sober made me willing to try something different. For Step 2, I took on the Home Group as my HP. For me to accept AA...
by BA Lodi
Thu Feb 20, 2020 4:06 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 24 hour Sobriety plan vs Permanent Sobriety
Replies: 47
Views: 6330

Re: 24 hour Sobriety plan vs Permanent Sobriety

When I got here, I wanted to get sober temporarily until I fixed my problems. I did not understand what "alcoholic" meant. I thought working the Steps was going to be like taking a college class. So, I did not drink today and tried to figure out what was going on in meetings. Decades later, generall...
by BA Lodi
Fri Jan 24, 2020 3:12 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 8
Views: 1934

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

When I got here, I was atheist and high-bottom. At first, all I heard were our differences. My original Home Group mostly closed meetings with the Lord's Prayer, and that made me grit my teeth for yearS. When I chaired, I closed with the We version of the Serenity Prayer. Sometimes I would find myse...
by BA Lodi
Fri Jan 24, 2020 2:38 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resentment towards myself
Replies: 18
Views: 3469

Re: Resentment towards myself

I hate to admit it, but I've been getting curious about Eckhart Tolle lately! For decades, I've avoided non-AA literature like the plague. I was a philosophy minor, and I know what kind of tangents I can go on...I do believe a tree falling in the forest is heard by other trees and creatures even tho...
by BA Lodi
Fri Jan 03, 2020 1:02 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 3032

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

I also agree with Avaneesh! There are many ways for sponsorship to work. My sponsors were always there for me, but I had to reach out to them each and every time I wanted their point of view or suggestions. They did not keep track of me. No one tried to babysit me. I benefited from getting experienc...
by BA Lodi
Sat Nov 16, 2019 11:54 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Meditations Practical Rewards
Replies: 9
Views: 2629

Re: Meditations Practical Rewards

When I was sober about 8 or 9 years, I had a meditation experience that scared the hell out of me. So I avoid "traditional" meditation like the plague!!! But being alone in Nature frequently clears my mind and gives me a quiet, deeper awareness that soothes my spirit. These days, I don't walk in the...
by BA Lodi
Sat Nov 16, 2019 11:17 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Surviving the Holidays
Replies: 8
Views: 1834

Re: Surviving the Holidays

My Home Group hosted alkathons for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's. For the first few years, I either attended the alkathon for a couple of hours and/or helped chair or do other service work. I baked for family and for alkathons. Early on, they were some of the best holidays I ever had! My s...
by BA Lodi
Sun Oct 13, 2019 10:29 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Addicts in AA meetings?
Replies: 65
Views: 11470

Re: Addicts in AA meetings?

I think I have a dual perspective on this topic. I really don't know what is going on in F2F meetings now. But it surprises me that AA Groups are still uncomfortable with the word "addict" let alone the people themselves just like they were in the 1980s! I was strictly AA for over 3 years. Some addi...
by BA Lodi
Sat Oct 12, 2019 9:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Fantasizing
Replies: 12
Views: 2011

Re: Fantasizing

Paige, I officially gave up sponsors and sponsees in 1996. I know that many of us would never make it without sponsorship. It is a tool in our toolbox. It just so happens that I got different initial feedback. It was okay that I took the first 3 Steps talking and listening in meetings, meetings, mee...
by BA Lodi
Mon Oct 07, 2019 10:59 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Fantasizing
Replies: 12
Views: 2011

Re: Fantasizing

This topic is really aggravating me, so I guess I better share. My sobriety (the Steps, my toolbox, my HP, and fellow alkies) has gotten me through all the stages of life from 37 to 75. I believe that alcoholism is a disease and that I am a lot worse now than I was when I took my last drink. When I ...
by BA Lodi
Wed Oct 02, 2019 3:33 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 10
Views: 1899

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

I was an atheist when I got here and, I am grateful that religious texts were not used as reference materials within the framework of an AA meeting. I am equally grateful that every member decides which supporting materials are used outside the meeting framework to supplement their understanding of ...