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by gaftech
Sat Mar 31, 2018 3:45 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Trouble on the homefront
Replies: 16
Views: 6912

Re: Trouble on the homefront

Just a thought...

Is it possible that she was writing about you in a sober state?
by gaftech
Sun Feb 11, 2018 5:31 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Complicating Quiting Again
Replies: 22
Views: 9512

Re: Complicating Quiting Again

Hi Tom, There are several things you said that I can definitely relate to. I'm 60 and up until 4 months ago, I was a functioning alcoholic for over 40 years. Actually, I was an out-of-control alcoholic in my younger days, which lead to me joining the Navy in 1980 just to have a job. I had a slight d...
by gaftech
Sat Jan 13, 2018 8:04 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Elusive Progress
Replies: 9
Views: 5264

Re: Elusive Progress

Congrats Highcost! I'm 3 days behind you, I hit my 90 day mark tomorrow. I consider myself lucky this time around, because once I had finally had enough, I quit and haven't looked back since. That's not to say I don't keep vigilant about recognizing those crazy thoughts that appear out of nowhere, b...
by gaftech
Sat Jan 13, 2018 7:21 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Non religious?
Replies: 20
Views: 8301

Re: Non religious?

You mentioned that you went to ONE meeting and that it was too religious. Perhaps you could try a different meeting. I don't know how many there are in your area, but there are lots in mine and I attended several different meetings before I found one where I was comfortable not only with the message...
by gaftech
Tue Jan 09, 2018 10:50 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: am I still sober if?
Replies: 27
Views: 16306

Re: am I still sober if?

BrendaChenowyth, OK, I agree that we shouldn't take most things too seriously and that if we do, it could get us into a lot of trouble. I apologize if I came off too strong, but what you meant and what I read were two different things, something that can easily be done with the written word versus F...
by gaftech
Sat Jan 06, 2018 3:40 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: New Person
Replies: 14
Views: 7293

Re: New Person

Welcome Stuart, In the words of Positrac, I made my first of 3 appearances in AA at the age of 26 back in 1986. I was in the Navy at the time and got busted, so I was ordered to a month-long rehab and 3 months of AA. By then I had been drinking since about 1972, heavily and consistently by the time ...
by gaftech
Sat Jan 06, 2018 2:31 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hey everyone
Replies: 5
Views: 3084

Re: Hey everyone

Welcome jbirdy, I also work nights, 7pm to 7am, and when I was drinking I'd stop by the store on my way home, pick up some beer, then immediately start drinking when I got home. I never drank before I went to work, although many times I probably still had enough alcohol in my system to get busted ha...
by gaftech
Sat Jan 06, 2018 1:23 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: am I still sober if?
Replies: 27
Views: 16306

Re: am I still sober if?

BrendaChenowyth, I think it's great that you can have one cigarette and not get the craving to have another one 30 seconds after you finish the first. I also applaud those people that can kick the 20,30,40-year-old habit in an instant without ever looking back, but I suggest that those people had a ...
by gaftech
Fri Dec 15, 2017 2:17 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: response to friend making amends
Replies: 15
Views: 12695

Re: response to friend making amends

If you were my sister-in-law, and I was being honest about making amends to you, I would want you to speak up about issues you feel we have. I don't remember all the things I said or did to people over my years of drinking...the further back in history I go, the less I remember. My sobriety depends ...
by gaftech
Thu Nov 30, 2017 7:36 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: am I still sober if?
Replies: 27
Views: 16306

Re: am I still sober if?

I forgot about smoking! I thought I smoked a lot when I drank but it's nothing compared to how much I smoke now that I'm newly sober. However, I have set a quit date of the beginning of 2018 to quit (I have COPD so quitting is not an option). I purposefully planned it this way so that I would have c...
by gaftech
Thu Nov 30, 2017 3:32 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: am I still sober if?
Replies: 27
Views: 16306

Re: am I still sober if?

Day 44 here. I am taking care of my sugar cravings mostly by drinking grape-flavored Gatorade mixed with Sprite (no caffeine). I almost always have a 30 ounce mug of it at my elbow, kinda like I did with the beer. I can also relate to the need for perfectionism, although I have tended in that direct...
by gaftech
Wed Nov 15, 2017 1:37 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: What Makes A Meeting Great?
Replies: 18
Views: 6542

Re: What Makes A Meeting Great?

For me, there are several factors that make up a great meeting, the most important of which is my attitude. Back in 1986 and 1996 I was in the Navy and on both occasions my drinking habits got me into trouble. The Navy decided I needed rehabilitation, so I did as I as told and afterward attended the...
by gaftech
Fri Nov 10, 2017 2:08 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How do you personally cope with the Holiday Blues?
Replies: 14
Views: 5228

Re: How do you personally cope with the Holiday Blues?

it used to be a nightmare for me and my kids as xmas once we lost tony my son its no fun at all on xmas day and all you can do is try to accept he isnt there anymore its certainly no fun going to the cemetery on xmas day to visit the most precious thing in your life I can definitely relate to this....