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by Soberguy27
Sun May 03, 2020 9:42 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance
Replies: 13
Views: 1353

Re: Acceptance

Acceptance to me is letting go of the need to be right. When I don't accept something it is because I feel like I know better or know how to do something the right way or know how someone should behave. Acceptance is letting go of always having to be right and in doing so I can accept the reality of...
by Soberguy27
Mon Apr 13, 2020 9:22 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Is the BB the only AA way?
Replies: 25
Views: 1500

Re: Is the BB the only AA way?

I Don't know who decided to call it the big book but it is the road map on how to get sober for me. After getting sober especially newly sober, my favorite book is the living sober book which is a book that really explains practical solutions and suggestions which for me as an atheist was great as t...
by Soberguy27
Sun Apr 05, 2020 9:49 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: In what ways has the Fellowship of AA changed
Replies: 23
Views: 3200

Re: In what ways has the Fellowship of AA changed

I guess it depends on where you live. I have three decades in aa and I have moved from where I first got sober about ten years ago. In my early years there were several big meetings meaning meetings of at least fifty people and more. Those were great with many old timers a d young people too. The Sa...
by Soberguy27
Sat Apr 04, 2020 10:39 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 7749

Re: God/Higher Power

How would you know if its outdated if you haven't tried it. I have tried it and I am still sober. See, at least where I live, most if not all who speak of God mean the Christian god. When they say you can have a God of your understanding, most people still do the Christian God. I have no issues with...
by Soberguy27
Sat Apr 04, 2020 5:29 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: People Who Were Already Christians Before Becoming Alcoholics?
Replies: 19
Views: 2846

Re: People Who Were Already Christians Before Becoming Alcoholics?

Everyone has a different story and opinion on religion and spirituality. As an ex cathic and now atheist, I feel like if you were a good Christian you would not have become an alcoholic. So somewhere you dropped the ball. Now that doesn't make you a bad person but maybe a not so good Christian. Now ...
by Soberguy27
Fri Apr 03, 2020 4:58 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Stale Homegroup
Replies: 12
Views: 2003

Re: Stale Homegroup

Hi, sorry to hear of your struggles. Some good info for others here is to know what type of meeting this is, open, closed, book study, speaker discussion etc. Also you might look into why this meeting isn't attracting many new people. In my experience when a couple of people run everything they tend...
by Soberguy27
Wed Apr 01, 2020 9:53 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 7749

Re: God/Higher Power

It is possible to get and stay sober without a God or higher power And be happy and live a meaningful life. I've been doing it for 30 years now. Now for those who chose the path of faith and it works for them then great but people are becoming more and more secular these days so people need to know ...
by Soberguy27
Sun Mar 29, 2020 2:04 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 30 years¡
Replies: 6
Views: 979

30 years¡

I celebrated 30 years yesterday. They said it couldn't be done without a belief in God so as an atheist I am here to let other like minded members of aa that it can be done! I have no issues with religion or the spirituality that most in aa speak of but, for me I had to find a different way. I did w...
by Soberguy27
Fri Mar 27, 2020 11:28 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Addicts in AA meetings?
Replies: 65
Views: 10242

Re: Addicts in AA meetings?

The third tradition was written for a reason. Ok, first this isn't 1935, and we are in the 21st century now if you didn't notice. Most people coming into aa also used drugs as well as alcohol. I was a big drug user myself and one of those drugs was alcohol, yes it is a drug. I have been sober 30 yea...
by Soberguy27
Fri Mar 27, 2020 11:07 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: God/Higher Power
Replies: 82
Views: 7749

Re: God/Higher Power

Alcoholics anonymous is based on Christian values and those who say otherwise are just in denile. Most meetings end with the lords prayer which is a Christian prayer. God and reliance upon God are mentioned in the big book as well as prayer and meditation. I am ok with that even though I am an athei...
by Soberguy27
Thu Mar 26, 2020 10:07 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: DO NOT READ THIS POST IF YOU DON'T LIKE READING ABOUT CRITICISM OF AA!
Replies: 25
Views: 4702

Re: DO NOT READ THIS POST IF YOU DON'T LIKE READING ABOUT CRITICISM OF AA!

There will always be someone who will criticize aa and some just do so cause they think of aa as a cult. AA is a spiritual program and is heavily influenced by Christianity. However, there are many many atheists, agnostics, humanists and free thinkers in aa. I myself am an atheist who has been able ...
by Soberguy27
Thu Mar 26, 2020 9:42 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Qualify to Chair a Meeting
Replies: 41
Views: 18658

Re: Qualify to Chair a Meeting

Chairing a meeting means different things in different areas. Where I got sober, if you chair a meeting it means you are the speaker of the meeting. The person who runs the meeting is called the secretary. In speaker discussion meetings, the chair person speaks anywhere from 15-30 minutes then picks...
by Soberguy27
Thu Mar 26, 2020 9:32 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: AA satisfaction survey from AA member
Replies: 4
Views: 1251

Re: AA satisfaction survey from AA member

As an atheist with now 30 years of recovery, I was able to go through the steps with no issues. Luckily for me I had a very loving and caring sponsor who did not push the higher power thing. He said I could use what ever I wanted as a higher power or use nothing at all. I now use the the steps from ...
by Soberguy27
Thu Mar 26, 2020 3:39 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: First sponsor but not going well
Replies: 31
Views: 5251

Re: First sponsor but not going well

Ok, first off most who sponsor have good intentions and are willing to help you because they care. That said, sponsors are not psychiatrists, therapists, or doctors though some may feel as if they are. Secondly you are an adult and can make your own decisions. A sponsor is someone who guides you thr...
by Soberguy27
Thu Mar 26, 2020 11:48 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship after long time sobriety
Replies: 13
Views: 1329

Sponsorship after long time sobriety

I will be sober 30 years in a couple of days. I have had the same sponsor for almost 20 of those years. The thing is that in the beginning he was great and a big help but, as time went on and things settled down for me I have less to talk to him about. Nothing has come up for the last 12 years that ...