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by Deskdad
Thu May 26, 2016 11:22 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Self-Knowledge was the answer. Not!
Replies: 6
Views: 6194

Re: Self-Knowledge was the answer. Not!

I am reading Bill's story as we speak - fascinating. Though written decades and decades ago, it could be my name instead of his in the Book.
by Deskdad
Thu May 26, 2016 9:43 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Sober and engaged
Replies: 7
Views: 9150

Re: Sober and engaged

Thanks all for the great advice. It makes me very hopeful that this can be managed. Yes, she is aware of my problem and she has offered to quit drinking if I wanted her too. To know there will be a day where I may be repulsed by the taste or smell is 'awesomesauce' as my 9 year old daughter would say.
by Deskdad
Thu May 26, 2016 9:40 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Confused, alone and looking for guidance
Replies: 39
Views: 23890

Re: Confused, alone and looking for guidance

I was terrified the first time, "Hi. I'm Shawn - I'm an alcoholic." Before that, I would only say, "Hi. I'm Shawn. I have a drinking problem." Or, I'd leave the meetings before they went around the room for introductions. But, that first time I said it, a weight was lifted off of me. No more denial....
by Deskdad
Thu May 26, 2016 9:33 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: First meeting. What about my parents?
Replies: 20
Views: 6304

Re: First meeting. What about my parents?

Go go go! The change they see in you, at the very least, will get their attention. It is good to think of them, but don't let that hold you up.
by Deskdad
Thu May 26, 2016 9:27 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Social Anxiety
Replies: 20
Views: 10615

Re: Social Anxiety

Same here. Sober, I'm quiet, an introvert, shy - very anxious socially. Drinking? Mr. Personality. Charming, outgoing, a flirt - life of the party. And other times just an a**hole. I am realized to beat this, I have to re-wire. Find a way to deal with the anxiety another way. No more Jekyll and Hyde.
by Deskdad
Thu May 26, 2016 9:23 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: High Bottoms
Replies: 40
Views: 19770

Re: High Bottoms

Been there, done that. All of it. When I first started going to AA, I had no legal troubles and thought to myself that everybody had much worse stories. I didn't take AA seriously, stopped going and fell back into my old habits. Missing a lot of work - it being mentioned in my evals, etc - just like...
by Deskdad
Wed May 25, 2016 9:03 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Sober and engaged
Replies: 7
Views: 9150

Sober and engaged

So, I am trying to go sober, but my fiance drinks moderately. She is a very responsible drinker - for real - doesn't lie about it and have a denial problem like me. She may drink on the weekends and never over does it. Thoughts? Can that relationship work? Advice?
by Deskdad
Tue May 24, 2016 12:08 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Social Anxiety
Replies: 20
Views: 10615

Re: Social Anxiety

Chris - Same here. Social anxiety was a major trigger for my alcoholism - any kind of contact with anyone really. Talking on the phone to anyone, hanging out with friends, being around my kids. Sober I am quiet, reserved and an introvert. Get lit and I am Mr. Everybody - very social, outgoing, charm...
by Deskdad
Tue May 24, 2016 10:41 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Male sponsor for female?
Replies: 43
Views: 27844

Re: Male sponsor for female?

It causes a distraction even if there is the slightest bit of attraction. Reminds me of a story from when I was in the Navy. I was in Jerusalem visiting the Wailing Wall. When I walked up to the gate where the Rabbi was handing out disposable kippahs, I noticed that the men and women had to go on di...
by Deskdad
Tue May 24, 2016 10:35 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Your Morning Routine...
Replies: 39
Views: 21105

Re: Your Morning Routine...

Great stuff - thank you. Waking up broke and scared of what you might have done the night before resonates me. Always scared to check my wallet and my phone! I dread getting out of the bed in the morning - i I wait until the very last minute and run out the door - really sets a terrible pace for the...
by Deskdad
Tue May 24, 2016 10:15 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Newcomer
Replies: 5
Views: 3844

Re: Newcomer

Thanks so much. I haven't lost it all yet and thankfully there is room to fix somethings when I get to that step. Work the steps or die. I'm an analytical person and can't wrap my head around it - after losing so much, why in the h*ll do we do it?
by Deskdad
Tue May 24, 2016 9:57 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Newcomer
Replies: 5
Views: 3844

Newcomer

Hi everyone. I''m an alcoholic. I came to this realization 3 years ago (I'm 43) and have been battling it since. I have come close to losing everything - job, kids, money, relationships. Got into some legal trouble. Hoping to receive and offer some advice and support. Day one starts again today. Lon...