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by Wiganman
Thu Oct 22, 2020 2:26 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: 4th step depression?
Replies: 12
Views: 192

Re: 4th step depression?

Finished my 4th step months ago. Not even close to doing a 5th step. Don't even have a sponsor currently. That's completely your choice. Everything is suggested and the benefits promoted by people sharing their experiences. My experience is that step 5 is liberating and enlightening. It allows me t...
by Wiganman
Thu Oct 22, 2020 2:16 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Non AA 12 Step literature
Replies: 8
Views: 187

Re: Non AA 12 Step literature

I have 38 years of sobriety. In my second year I discovered that I had other addictions like codependency and love addiction. I think it's interesting to note that other problems can be resolved via a 12 Step programme. Recognise the problem, accept you need help, look to put action in. The books y...
by Wiganman
Mon Oct 19, 2020 4:14 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: 4th step depression?
Replies: 12
Views: 192

Re: 4th step depression?

👇 Not sure I can beat the advice given below.
Spirit Flower wrote:
Mon Oct 12, 2020 6:52 pm
Take the 5th ASAP
by Wiganman
Thu Oct 01, 2020 3:30 pm
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: BB/Pg. 62 -- "That, we think, is the root of our troubles."
Replies: 8
Views: 1239

Re: BB/Pg. 62 -- "That, we think, is the root of our troubles."

The amazing thing about AA is that it is not about not drinking but about stuff like selfishness and dishonesty. It will always fascinate me how they worked this solution out. Step one is the only step that mentions alcohol. The rest of the steps are dealing with a personality and spiritual void. I...
by Wiganman
Thu Oct 01, 2020 2:38 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Non AA 12 Step literature
Replies: 8
Views: 187

Re: Non AA 12 Step literature

PaigeB wrote:
Thu Oct 01, 2020 11:33 am
I read You Can't Make me Angry, by Dr. Paul O
Thanks for the recommendation. I have just read some reviews on this and it looks like a book I have to buy ... Infact I've just ordered a copy
by Wiganman
Wed Sep 30, 2020 1:59 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Non AA 12 Step literature
Replies: 8
Views: 187

Non AA 12 Step literature

The Big Book will always be the main text for recovery for Alcoholics. However, my own recovery and growth has been helped by other literature on the 12 Steps. Some of the ones I have found helpful are listed below. I would be interested in other people's own personal recommendations. In no particul...
by Wiganman
Wed Sep 23, 2020 2:29 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: "Recovery"
Replies: 8
Views: 261

Re: "Recovery"

Recovery is an excellent book which I would recommend to anyone interested in a 12 step programme. It is a serious book by someone who takes recovery very seriously. The thing it brought home to me is the 12 steps can be used to help you deal with many issues. If you search on YouTube "The 12 Steps ...
by Wiganman
Tue Sep 08, 2020 2:00 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Continue to watch for ...
Replies: 11
Views: 293

Continue to watch for ...

In Step Ten we are told to "Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear" Why do we need to watch for these? Simple answer is we are trying to manage that feelings of restlessness, irritability and discontentment which always drove us back to a drink. We attempt to manage the d...
by Wiganman
Fri Aug 07, 2020 1:40 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 10
Replies: 6
Views: 271

Re: Step 10

Thanks for the question as you are probably going to get many different answers and none of them will be wrong. I was told that step 10 is a daytime step and and the step 11 inventory bit is "when we retire at night". Step 10 for me is all about me recognizing when I have allowed my character defect...
by Wiganman
Fri Aug 07, 2020 1:24 pm
Forum: The 12 Traditions of AA
Topic: Meetings and Contract Tracing
Replies: 3
Views: 158

Meetings and Contract Tracing

In my area face to face meetings have yet to reopen. However, one meeting is planning to reopen with the stipulation that you have to book your place in advance by E-Mail and provide your name and contact details. Clearly this is with contract tracing in mind and trying to limit the numbers. I am pe...
by Wiganman
Thu Apr 02, 2020 2:24 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Putting in more work than the sponsee
Replies: 18
Views: 2831

Re: Putting in more work than the sponsee

someone who hasnt faced and taken care of this is in no shape to be sponsoring which you might want to back off of sponsoring and focus on yourself for a while so you can be of MAXIMUM service to God and the people around you. have you been spponsoring anyone f2f? I respect anyone who is willing to...
by Wiganman
Wed Apr 01, 2020 12:56 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Putting in more work than the sponsee
Replies: 18
Views: 2831

Re: Putting in more work than the sponsee

First of all well done on being willing to sponsor someone. It takes a lot to step up and take on that responsibility. Whatever happens you will grow as a result of trying to help someone. Personally, I like my sponsees to be on time and make appointments that we have arranged. Infact I insist on it...
by Wiganman
Sat Mar 28, 2020 2:18 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Addicts in AA meetings?
Replies: 65
Views: 13751

Re: Addicts in AA meetings?

In my area we have people who attend various fellowships (AA, CA, NA). It doesn't ever get raised as an issue and for me it isn't an issue because: 1. I am at meetings to hear people share about the solution (the steps) which can be used to recover from any addiciton because the root cause of the ad...
by Wiganman
Fri Mar 27, 2020 1:20 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Online group by select invite only
Replies: 4
Views: 1026

Re: Online group by select invite only

But . . . if that were my group, I wouldn't want to be part of a private sub-group which excluded members of the main group. And if that were my group, it wouldn't be my group any longer. I would find another. Thank you Betsy that is the excact course of action I am going to take =biggrin. No resen...
by Wiganman
Thu Mar 26, 2020 3:19 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Online group by select invite only
Replies: 4
Views: 1026

Online group by select invite only

One of my local groups is setting up an online meeting because of the current problems. They have decided to make it by select invite only whereas other groups that have gone online are, making them available to anyone.

I am not sure how I feel about that. Does this go against tradition 3 and 5?