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by Wiganman
Thu Apr 02, 2020 2:24 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Putting in more work than the sponsee
Replies: 18
Views: 1118

Re: Putting in more work than the sponsee

someone who hasnt faced and taken care of this is in no shape to be sponsoring which you might want to back off of sponsoring and focus on yourself for a while so you can be of MAXIMUM service to God and the people around you. have you been spponsoring anyone f2f? I respect anyone who is willing to...
by Wiganman
Wed Apr 01, 2020 12:56 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Putting in more work than the sponsee
Replies: 18
Views: 1118

Re: Putting in more work than the sponsee

First of all well done on being willing to sponsor someone. It takes a lot to step up and take on that responsibility. Whatever happens you will grow as a result of trying to help someone. Personally, I like my sponsees to be on time and make appointments that we have arranged. Infact I insist on it...
by Wiganman
Sat Mar 28, 2020 2:18 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Addicts in AA meetings?
Replies: 65
Views: 8408

Re: Addicts in AA meetings?

In my area we have people who attend various fellowships (AA, CA, NA). It doesn't ever get raised as an issue and for me it isn't an issue because: 1. I am at meetings to hear people share about the solution (the steps) which can be used to recover from any addiciton because the root cause of the ad...
by Wiganman
Fri Mar 27, 2020 1:20 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Online group by select invite only
Replies: 4
Views: 411

Re: Online group by select invite only

But . . . if that were my group, I wouldn't want to be part of a private sub-group which excluded members of the main group. And if that were my group, it wouldn't be my group any longer. I would find another. Thank you Betsy that is the excact course of action I am going to take =biggrin. No resen...
by Wiganman
Thu Mar 26, 2020 3:19 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Online group by select invite only
Replies: 4
Views: 411

Online group by select invite only

One of my local groups is setting up an online meeting because of the current problems. They have decided to make it by select invite only whereas other groups that have gone online are, making them available to anyone.

I am not sure how I feel about that. Does this go against tradition 3 and 5?
by Wiganman
Wed Mar 18, 2020 3:41 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Steps 1, 2 & 3
Replies: 15
Views: 2713

Re: Steps 1, 2 & 3

I personally believe that these steps are things we come to realize via our experience, and information given in the first few chapters, but just don’t see it necessary to sit with someone for 3-4 weeks reading, who clearly isn’t retaining or understanding. You are absolutely right here. I personal...
by Wiganman
Mon Mar 16, 2020 1:42 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Modem Step 4
Replies: 23
Views: 3032

Re: Modem Step 4

This is an interesting topic. For me this is very simple. I see a lot of people ducking out of the inventory process. So if someone is doing it on an App or a PC (I once did one on an Excel Spreadsheet) then brilliant they are taking a step that takes a little bit of courage to do. I have to add tho...
by Wiganman
Mon Mar 16, 2020 1:31 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Starting again
Replies: 6
Views: 771

Re: Starting again

Hi Emmanuel, glad to see you back and reaching out for help. The best way to beat this is to stop fighting it. Give up. Surrender. Accept defeat. Accept it won't ever be fun again. Accept it won't ever help you again. Accept it will only ever make a situation worse. Accept that it will probably kill...
by Wiganman
Fri Jan 10, 2020 4:10 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step Ten
Replies: 3
Views: 1088

Step Ten

I am just reading an excellent book called Drop the Rock .. the ripple effect. The book is all about using step ten to work steps 6 and 7 to give some balance in your life. Some really good insights in there. Step ten is the process of observing any imbalances in our lives. These can be something we...
by Wiganman
Mon May 27, 2019 2:28 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 12 - Keep it Simple
Replies: 6
Views: 3836

Step 12 - Keep it Simple

Step 12 comes in Three parts: 1. "Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps …." Remember a Spiritual Awakening is defined as "personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism" Have I changed as a result of the previous 11 steps? Easy way for me to find out is t...
by Wiganman
Sun May 26, 2019 1:07 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 11 Keep it Simple
Replies: 5
Views: 2188

Step 11 Keep it Simple

In Step 2 we said we were willing to believe in a power greater then in step 3 we made a decision to turn our lives over to this power. Step 11 is when we use that willingness and put that decision into action. Now we are living one day at a time in the last three steps to allow us to live a sober l...
by Wiganman
Mon May 20, 2019 1:24 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 10 - Keep it Simple
Replies: 0
Views: 2053

Step 10 - Keep it Simple

"Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it" I see the final three steps as my reward for having done the first 9. As a brief reminder, I have ascertained my problem (step 1), found the solution (step 2), asked for outside help (step 3), analyzed my character de...
by Wiganman
Sat May 18, 2019 1:29 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Steps 8 & 9 Keep it Simple
Replies: 4
Views: 1642

Steps 8 & 9 Keep it Simple

Why do we need to do Steps 8 and 9? I have analyzed my behavior in step4, discussed it with my sponsor in step 5 and started the process of modifying my behavior in steps 6 & 7. Human nature makes it difficult for us to approach other people and make amends so why not just be satisfied with the fact...
by Wiganman
Mon Mar 18, 2019 2:35 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Is liquor 'only a symptom'?
Replies: 19
Views: 5212

Re: Is liquor 'only a symptom'?

Excellent topic something which I didn't quite understand and debated when I first started to look at the steps. The root cause of my condition is my selfish, self-confidence driven by fear and resentments. These are the things that will take me back to a drink and then trigger the allergy and resta...
by Wiganman
Sun Mar 17, 2019 2:58 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Can’t find a new sponsor
Replies: 9
Views: 2624

Re: Can’t find a new sponsor

Thanks for your post. I can only relate to my own experience and pass this on. I have only had one sponsor and my attitude was to just do whatever he suggested. I respected him because he had very good sobriety and always shared very passionately and in an informed way on the 12 steps. I wanted the ...