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by Alex1
Tue Mar 21, 2017 4:49 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: if God gave free will to us, why do his will? (no disrespect
Replies: 48
Views: 31462

Re: if God gave free will to us, why do his will? (no disres

From the Big Book page 89: Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our activities. "How can I best serve Thee--Thy will (not mine) be done." These are thoughts which must go with us constantly. We can exercise our will power along this line all we wish. It is the p...
by Alex1
Mon Feb 20, 2017 2:17 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: What's the point of meetings?
Replies: 36
Views: 22596

What's the point of meetings?

Hello, I wanted to throw the question out. What is my role at a meeting? What am I doing there? What sort of thing am I supposed to share? A lot of times people say 'just to get current' and then share the worst thing they've done that day or their worst attitude. Is that right? Isn't that what a sp...
by Alex1
Fri Jan 01, 2016 6:08 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: This will be a lenghthy first post.....
Replies: 10
Views: 3492

Re: This will be a lenghthy first post.....

First of all happy new year! I am reminded of this part of the big book: "If anyone who is showing inability to control his drinking can do the right about-face and drink like a gentleman, our hats are off to him. Heaven knows, we have tried hard enough and long enough to drink like other people!" (...
by Alex1
Wed Dec 23, 2015 12:45 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Christmas gift for your sponsor
Replies: 2
Views: 3287

Christmas gift for your sponsor

Someone asked me about getting a Christmas gift for their sponsor, I really didn't know. What do you guys think?
by Alex1
Sat Oct 31, 2015 3:33 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Feedback during a call
Replies: 25
Views: 21723

Re: Feedback during a call

Yes, that's what I meant. I feel that although we are a young group we all have sponsors so that ought to be our first port of call. At the same time if one member calls another with a problem we ought to be able to help each other see things as they really are. He just called me back and I listened...
by Alex1
Sat Oct 31, 2015 2:49 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Feedback during a call
Replies: 25
Views: 21723

Re: Feedback during a call

Thank you Lee, that sounds challenging but I'll try my best.
by Alex1
Sat Oct 31, 2015 2:46 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Feedback during a call
Replies: 25
Views: 21723

Re: Feedback during a call

The fellow has a sponsor. I am a little sceptical of the relationship because his sponsor lives in a different continent, and my friend keeps relapsing and his sponsor hasn't fired him. I wonder if he's very comfortable with a sponsor from 3,000 miles away who isn't hard on him, and this enables the...
by Alex1
Sat Oct 31, 2015 1:25 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Feedback during a call
Replies: 25
Views: 21723

Re: Feedback during a call

Update: The fellow I mentioned is now about 2 weeks sober, he's still calling me sharing a lot of messed-up thinking, including resentments, self-centredness, self-pity, etc. He shared all this and then said he was going to ask his HP for help. I didn't tell him anything, I just wanted to suggest th...
by Alex1
Thu Oct 15, 2015 10:40 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Feedback during a call
Replies: 25
Views: 21723

Re: Feedback during a call

UPDATE: The person in question told me today that after I spoke to him he went to a meeting. Then he went home and got drunk. I'm not quite sure how I feel about it. I guess a mixture of irritation, disappointment and frustration. I don't want to dwell on it though, it's not my fault. He does have a...
by Alex1
Wed Oct 14, 2015 2:51 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Feedback during a call
Replies: 25
Views: 21723

Re: Feedback during a call

Thank you for the replies. I called him the next morning and he was happy to speak although he sounded in bad shape and didn't talk for long. I texted again in the evening and got no response. Thinking the worst I called a few hours later and left a message asking if he was OK, got no response. I as...
by Alex1
Mon Oct 12, 2015 3:49 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Feedback during a call
Replies: 25
Views: 21723

Feedback during a call

Hi guys, I'd really like to hear someone else's opinion on this, I'm not sure I have one of my own. A fellow from my home group just called me. He shared about a huge resentment he has towards his wife. He tried to talk to her about it and he showed his annoyance so she said if he's getting annoyed ...
by Alex1
Mon Oct 12, 2015 2:39 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I've got some questions and reservations.
Replies: 16
Views: 9013

Re: I've got some questions and reservations.

Welcome. Boy do I relate to searching for answers online at 4:30am. I would get this panic late at night (early in the morning) after getting this sharp realisation of what I was doing to myself. Man those sudden realisations were painful. The only thing that could calm me down was finding the answe...
by Alex1
Sat Oct 10, 2015 1:10 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Unable to get to a meeting
Replies: 9
Views: 3386

Re: Unable to get to a meeting

Thanks for sharing Helen. It sounds hard to be away from your group. There are a lot of phone meetings available every day, it's not the same as face-to-face but I've found them helpful:

http://www.e-aa.org/links/links.php?ID=83
by Alex1
Wed Sep 30, 2015 4:42 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Greatest Gift
Replies: 10
Views: 3932

Re: The Greatest Gift

Hi Cheekyaet, Thank you for reminding me to work on my gratitude, I've been feeling pretty sorry for myself this evening. Tricky one though, I'm not sure if what I'm grateful for today is 'tangible' as such. I'm grateful today to my HP for buying me a brand new vacuum cleaner, the laptop I'm using, ...
by Alex1
Wed Sep 30, 2015 11:41 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Phone calls
Replies: 3
Views: 5565

Phone calls

Hi guys, I guess this is a bit of self-pity but I'm sitting here a little lonely and I'd really like to be in touch with the fellows from my home group. I've made a few calls but no-one is picking up. This is not a one-off. I make loads of calls (at least 3 a day) and most of the time I have to leav...