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by Tracy h
Sun Aug 21, 2016 6:09 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic
Replies: 18
Views: 18636

Re: alcoholic and recovering alcoholic

Lady, I appreciate this question, and it is timely for me. At 8 mos of sobriety, worrying about handling the future with drinking partner of 17+ years is one of my biggest concerns. Certainly protecting my sobriety is #1 priority, but I've come to realize that if it isn't sobriety-threatening, it ce...
by Tracy h
Wed Feb 03, 2016 10:17 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: "Virtual" sponsor vs f2f
Replies: 32
Views: 21652

Re: "Virtual" sponsor vs f2f

An online sponsor can be just as effective as any other, but your honesty as to the matter of avoidance is what can make a difference in the result. Thought I'd weigh in with a post-mortem on this subject in case anyone is considering same, as some time has passed and I do now have a f2f sponsor. A...
by Tracy h
Tue Feb 02, 2016 4:30 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Steps/Pace
Replies: 24
Views: 11677

Re: Steps/Pace

I wanted to check in and acknowledge all responses, all considered and thought-provoking. As time and process evolves, so do I. I continue to attend daily meetings at a home group whose ongoing members demonstrate a good amount of "success" both sobriety-wise and demeanor-wise, and have access to a ...
by Tracy h
Thu Jan 07, 2016 12:55 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: not bad enough?
Replies: 25
Views: 14492

Re: not bad enough?

Hi Kelmac, I relate strongly to your post and to several of the responses, thanks for a thought-provoking topic. It took me a while and much research which included: listening to those i admired in program, reading and conversation with both program"winners" and with aid of an astute therapist, in o...
by Tracy h
Wed Jan 06, 2016 12:21 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: My alcoholism: Not addictive until I start drinking
Replies: 8
Views: 4558

Re: My alcoholism: Not addictive until I start drinking

Hi sardino, as is usually the case, most of what i thought was better expressed by prior replies, but tagging onto layne's response i am a classic overthinker as well and while i "think" I've invested fully in the program during past 4 months I know now that I've thought myself out of a lot of the a...
by Tracy h
Mon Dec 28, 2015 4:00 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How and when do I tell people?
Replies: 11
Views: 6331

Re: How and when do I tell people?

Hi EssentiallyB and welcome! I'm glad you posed this question, as I've been questioning same lately, with 4 months participating in fellowship and getting to a point where my increasing daily participation in related activities might be noticed by those around me, let alone the obvious lifestyle cha...
by Tracy h
Tue Dec 08, 2015 9:58 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Steps/Pace
Replies: 24
Views: 11677

Steps/Pace

There was another thread recently regarding a newcomer diving through steps very quickly, which was met with much positive feedback and support as general consensus. I didn't want to include my questions on that post. I have read and heard over and over that relief is in the steps and I do believe i...
by Tracy h
Wed Dec 02, 2015 11:44 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Who is the teacher?
Replies: 21
Views: 11126

Re: Who is the teacher?

I just wanted to weigh in and comment that I appreciate both this topic and subsequent thread. Fabulous to read and become acquainted with Fr. Rohr. All of this has a bit of a lyrical and natural quality to me, referring to the language (and subsequent visuals invoked) that is typically used when de...
by Tracy h
Sun Nov 08, 2015 10:17 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 16
Views: 12232

Re: Cognitive Dissonance

... whatever the reason for the anger, it blinds me - clouds my perceptions of the world and keeps me from seeing that what I really want is to be of loving service to others and not worry so much about myself! Agreed! Enough of all this introspective nervous-talk-type obsessive stuff, I'd much rat...
by Tracy h
Sun Nov 08, 2015 9:24 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 16
Views: 12232

Re: Cognitive Dissonance

@ezdzit247 Well my head is tingling and my heart pounding so guessing that what you wrote resonated and held truths for me as well ... Not to belabor a topic but in thinking more about it, part of the whole cognitive dissonance thing is accepting that all sides of me reside in me and are indeed me -...
by Tracy h
Sat Nov 07, 2015 12:48 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 16
Views: 12232

Re: Cognitive Dissonance

@PaigeB - much better put re "brain veering" than my ramblings and will check out book rec. Meditation very interesting though something I've not put to serious (or effective) practice. I read that it can be beneficial in building new neural pathways and maintaining brain plasticity - which is encou...
by Tracy h
Fri Nov 06, 2015 10:31 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 16
Views: 12232

Re: Cognitive Dissonance

Brock wrote:

If you are going through the steps then you are, sitting in meetings and reading won't do it. You should aim at getting past steps 4 & 5, often this is where a good amount of relief comes.
Not there yet, but working towards. Thx
by Tracy h
Fri Nov 06, 2015 10:11 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 16
Views: 12232

Re: Cognitive Dissonance

Putting recovery first and letting sobriety be a by-product of that is what I do. Trying to stay sober never worked for me where today recovery never fails. I guess I'm just not at a point where I'm differentiating the two effectively, certainly not at a core emotional level, but I intellectually u...
by Tracy h
Fri Nov 06, 2015 8:55 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 16
Views: 12232

Cognitive Dissonance

Time is feeling very strange lately - at some times very fast, others so slow. I will think all is on track and I'm feeling relatively relaxed and in the moment and then within seconds I'm all fidgety, distracted and veering into multiple anxious mental tracks. I'm trying to keep sobriety at forefro...
by Tracy h
Sun Oct 25, 2015 12:57 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: A Newbie Here
Replies: 9
Views: 4501

Re: A Newbie Here

Hi Myron, I check in from NE US, will look forward to your participation. I've learned a lot from these exchanges and appreciate the diverse dynamic, as well as opportunity for new perspectives that all voices present -